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I have no one left.
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I am struggling with the death of my mother (she died quite suddenly on March 23rd after years of chronic but not acute illness. She was in a nursing home but I was her primary caregiver for six of…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lola Feb 28, 2017.

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Lola replied to Jay's discussion I have no one left.
"Hello. I felt like I was reading my own stuff here!"
Feb 28, 2017
Amanda replied to Jay's discussion I have no one left.
"I really understand this. You did an excellent job articulating yourself; it's no surprise you have a good amount of friends by your side. You are insightful and expressive and, though it broke my heart reading your honesty, a part of me…"
Dec 21, 2016
Michael replied to Jay's discussion I have no one left.
"Your story is familiar. Im feeling very alone too. Most friends don't want to listen, and I suppose I don't blame them."
Nov 13, 2016
Narri replied to Jay's discussion I have no one left.
"I can relate as well.. specially the fear of burning out the very few people I have left that I trust, and the "too young to be so alone" thing. I hope your new counselor has helped. I will be seeing someone soon..."
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Sue Sedia replied to Jay's discussion I have no one left.
"I can only say I really relate to this on so many levels. I hope you new counselor will be more helpful."
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Jay left a comment for Jeannette Cox
"Oh no, that's o terrible. I cannot imagine the shock you must be going through. I am so sorry. I feel like losing people we love just blows a hole in our hearts that can't be filled. I sometimes walk around and people ask me how I'm…"
May 19, 2016
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"Both my son and grandson were battling addictions for quite a while. I was not aware of the fact that my son was using heroin till after he died. I found him dead on my bathroom floor. I can't begin to describe what that was like.   6…"
May 19, 2016
Jay replied to Jay's discussion I have no one left.
"Thank you Hollow Heart for your response.  It's helpful even to know that someone else feels the same way. I am tired of people telling me that "it will feel better" later. I know that it will but it is not helpful for me to…"
May 19, 2016
HollowHeart replied to Jay's discussion I have no one left.
"There are a lot of things in your story that I can relate too. I'm so sorry for all your losses. It's devastating knowing you have no close family left. I feel that is where I'm headed. I have some family, but sadly, a lot of the…"
May 19, 2016
Jay left a comment for Jeannette Cox
"Thanks Jeanette and I'm so sorry about your son and grandson.  How terrible. I would love to hear your story if you feel you want to tell it."
May 19, 2016
Jeannette Cox left a comment for Jay
"Hi,I'm know what it's like to need to have someone to talk to who gets it. I'm struggling with the loss of my son and grandson 6 weeks apart.  I'm sorry for your loss. It was suggested that I read a book called Good Grief…"
May 19, 2016
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May 18, 2016
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I have no one left.

I am struggling with the death of my mother (she died quite suddenly on March 23rd after years of chronic but not acute illness. She was in a nursing home but I was her primary caregiver for six of the last nine years). The grief feels larger and more intense because I don't have any family left. My father died when I was a teenager, I have no siblings and no other close relations. My aunt (mother's sister) died just one week before my mother did. I have an aunt left on my father's side but she…See More
May 18, 2016
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May 18, 2016

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I recently lost my mother and she is the last of my family. I am struggling to find support when there is no one around who understands.

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At 9:08pm on May 19, 2016, Jeannette Cox said…

Both my son and grandson were battling addictions for quite a while. I was not aware of the fact that my son was using heroin till after he died. I found him dead on my bathroom floor. I can't begin to describe what that was like.   6 weeks later my grandson who was sticking close by my side after my son died was found dead in the bathroom where he worked. Both where heroin overdoses. Possibly the heroin laced with something deadly but the tox report is not back yet. We just know it was heroin. The shock is just starting to wear off. My son lived at home with me and I am lost without him. He was not my life in some sick way but a very large part of my life and we were very close. Same with my grandson.

At 1:35am on May 19, 2016, Jeannette Cox said…

Hi,I'm know what it's like to need to have someone to talk to who gets it. I'm struggling with the loss of my son and grandson 6 weeks apart. 

I'm sorry for your loss. It was suggested that I read a book called Good Grief which I am ordering from Amazon. Maybe you could look for it too. I recently signed up for program called Grief Share which will start in June.

The other thing I do to try to help myself is to journal what I'm going through a couple times a week. It seems to help to write things down to get them out although it's not the same as talking with another person.

I'm glad you found this group and hope that you get the support you need. There is light at the end of the tunnel. May God bless you in  you're grieving process.

 
 
 

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