Hello....just wanted to check in on you. I apologize for not responding to your friend request sooner. I hardly ever access this site from my computer, just from my phone. I couldn't figure out why I couldn't "chat". Apparently, I can't from my phone just from the computer. I hope to hear from you.
I hope that this picture and the message give you comfort. Grief is a journey and each person travels the road differently. You make very valid points about breakups and how people seem to understand the long term agony they can cause but come so short in their understanding of the compelling grief experienced when we loose someone in death. The reality is that even though they have no understanding of what you are experiencing, there will be the day that they will come to "know" what you are going through. They will loose someone so close that they will remember every time they have told someone to "get over it". That will be when everything you have learned can lead you to empathize with them and help them through - even forgive...
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to cancer in December and understand your pain. I agree that it feels like it gets harder before it gets easier. I am in the Bay Area; was your mother enrolled in hospice? I was able to find free support in SF through Sutter Care and Home hospice. Pathways Hospice also offers free counseling and support groups to the community (regardless of whether your family had used their hospice services). Feel free to message me anytime. Sending you hugs.
"The triggers are one of the hardest thing. Just hearing a song, driving down a familiar street, a smell, a television show, can all bring back a painful memory. Even if they invoke a nice memory, it still hurts because of lost time, not being able…"
"Thank you so much! It hurts, but it helps to share with others. Some days are better than others & there are triggers. I am so happy for Avi, his daughter & father. She will love having her grandfather there. I…"
"Sue, if we can ever answer any questions that you may have about what you are experiencing, please let us know. Everyone's story is different, but the feeling of loss that we all have is familiar. This is a group of people who understand."
"Avi, it's amazing how the Lord took care of both you and your dad. As happy as I am for you, I think I may be even more happy for your dad. This gives him a reason to get up in the morning, and gives him someone to focus that lost love on.
"Guys my little girl has moved on with me now after spending 8 months at her maternal grand mother's place. Now me, my wife and my father lives together. My father who was alone after my mother's death has a new hope and motivation to live…"
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.Many of us have lost more than one person or event.Come share!See More
"Sue, I am so sorry. I know. Believe me, we know. And I wish that I could say something more.
Something horrible happened to me today. The worst possible thing that could have happened, beyond losing my dog. I'm not sick or anything, but my…"
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evn told me i need to slow get a/r in my body sortedd to lk i…"
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"This was my first holiday without my Mom. She passed in March 2019. Good Friday was rough. I was looking forward to spending a long weekend with her. Trying to stay busy, but I miss her so much. Mornings are really bad…"
"Thanks for thinking of me Avi — hope you’re doing well and enjoying your little girl. This is the first Easter without my mother. Losing her has really changed things, it seems that she and I (and my husband) were the ones who…"