"I too, have been feeling extremely lonely for the last year. I thank God for my female Black Labrador Retriever, who my Mom loved SO much! She's all I have! And all I want! :-)
Yet, I feel we BOTH would benefit from being around people more. We…"
"I am so sorry everyone.
You know, it is amazing what can bring on memories and therefore grief. I see places DAILY where my Mom and Dad went and near where WE lived and I STILL would be living if my siblings hadn't overruled me and sold the…"
"I have no doubt that everything happens for a reason and that God is in charge of everything. "There are no coincidences. God is in charge of everything." - Patrick Moraz
I am posting that not only because I agree with it and believe it,…"
"Good morning Deedee,
Thank you SO much for your heartfelt and understanding reply. Lately with so much going on in my life, I feel so isolated from my family and I feel so lonely. I find myself watching television news shows to keep me company and…"
"Thank you Brett. I am with you man. So beautiful that you are taking care of your Mom's dog and that you love that little dog and know that she has been a blessing to you. Your Mom is extremely proud of you and thankful to you! God bless you!"
"I totally get it. My late, great Mom has been gone now for 7 years, 10 months and 4 days. I knew she would not be there forever and I tried to prepare for that emotionally and personally with her for several years. I apologized to her, thanked her…"
"Hi Douglas, I haven't read all of your posts, but I'm an adult orphan too, and o is my husband, so I have lost mom/dad + mother-in-law/father-in-law. Lost my dad 32 yrs ago, mom 3 years ago.
My mom was my best friend too - I was an…"
"Not that I WANT to escape it! But all those years ago it seemed like they would always be there! I just can't believe they are gone! Life is so lonely without them and so completely different to those very happy days when they were here! My…"
"I feel that very few GET it! How can they when she was my BEST FRIEND of my entire life from DAY 1?! There are SO many times when I need to ask my Mom (and my Dad) their advice on day-to-day things that I KNOW they would help me with. Not just that,…"
"I get it Brett. I can totally relate. I am still not only in shock about the loss of my late, great Mom, but also in shock of how my siblings dealt with her loss as so much a matter of "money" (not that she had much, but she did own the…"
"I am SO SORRY! I too lost my Mom to stage 4 lung cancer. She had quit smoking 12 years before, but it still got her and VERY suddenly. I can totally understand what you are going through and how you feel. I went through nearly all that you're…"
Hi Douglas, I haven't read all of your posts, but I'm an adult orphan too, and o is my husband, so I have lost mom/dad + mother-in-law/father-in-law. Lost my dad 32 yrs ago, mom 3 years ago.
My mom was my best friend too - I was an only child and parents divorced - she was my world. I cry every day.
Therapist told me to write down the "good things", but I haven't. I need to. I try to remember them, but it's all filled with the sad and vividly challenging memories...bad memories and sad and guilty thoughts that are ruining me... the thoughts of things right before she died and all of the things I wish I had done differently.
I am going to work on a book of good memories. I think that's all I can do right now.
Seems like the best thing to do...focus on the good, and be glad they were in our lives...and bring more good thoughts to NOW.
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"It is still numbing to think my Mom is gone & I can't talk to her or see her again. I lost part of me when she passed. Someone said the restless feelings I have are really anxiety. Daily crying is part of my life. …"
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"I was in the exact situation. But I was the one who offered help. But everything I did was wrong to my sister. And I stopped because of that. Your post made me see her side of it. My mom died this year. My sister only cuses me out. She won't…"
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After 7 years I still remain lost and I know I will be until my Husband and I are together once again. As in the Serenity Prayer, God can not grant me serenity to accept things I cannot change. I just try to live each day."
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