"I have no doubt that everything happens for a reason and that God is in charge of everything. "There are no coincidences. God is in charge of everything." - Patrick Moraz
I am posting that not only because I agree with it and believe it,…"
"Good morning Deedee,
Thank you SO much for your heartfelt and understanding reply. Lately with so much going on in my life, I feel so isolated from my family and I feel so lonely. I find myself watching television news shows to keep me company and…"
"Thank you Brett. I am with you man. So beautiful that you are taking care of your Mom's dog and that you love that little dog and know that she has been a blessing to you. Your Mom is extremely proud of you and thankful to you! God bless you!"
"I totally get it. My late, great Mom has been gone now for 7 years, 10 months and 4 days. I knew she would not be there forever and I tried to prepare for that emotionally and personally with her for several years. I apologized to her, thanked her…"
"Hi Douglas, I haven't read all of your posts, but I'm an adult orphan too, and o is my husband, so I have lost mom/dad + mother-in-law/father-in-law. Lost my dad 32 yrs ago, mom 3 years ago.
My mom was my best friend too - I was an…"
"Not that I WANT to escape it! But all those years ago it seemed like they would always be there! I just can't believe they are gone! Life is so lonely without them and so completely different to those very happy days when they were here! My…"
"I feel that very few GET it! How can they when she was my BEST FRIEND of my entire life from DAY 1?! There are SO many times when I need to ask my Mom (and my Dad) their advice on day-to-day things that I KNOW they would help me with. Not just that,…"
"I get it Brett. I can totally relate. I am still not only in shock about the loss of my late, great Mom, but also in shock of how my siblings dealt with her loss as so much a matter of "money" (not that she had much, but she did own the…"
"I am SO SORRY! I too lost my Mom to stage 4 lung cancer. She had quit smoking 12 years before, but it still got her and VERY suddenly. I can totally understand what you are going through and how you feel. I went through nearly all that you're…"
Hi Douglas, I haven't read all of your posts, but I'm an adult orphan too, and o is my husband, so I have lost mom/dad + mother-in-law/father-in-law. Lost my dad 32 yrs ago, mom 3 years ago.
My mom was my best friend too - I was an only child and parents divorced - she was my world. I cry every day.
Therapist told me to write down the "good things", but I haven't. I need to. I try to remember them, but it's all filled with the sad and vividly challenging memories...bad memories and sad and guilty thoughts that are ruining me... the thoughts of things right before she died and all of the things I wish I had done differently.
I am going to work on a book of good memories. I think that's all I can do right now.
Seems like the best thing to do...focus on the good, and be glad they were in our lives...and bring more good thoughts to NOW.
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"I'm glad that I was with my mom when she passed over. I was the last person that she saw and I was able to tell her that it was okay, but you bet I was haunted by all that I saw. There is no good way."
"Actually, I am glad you did not see your Mom pass from this life to the next. I was there for mine and it haunts me that I watched her struggled for breath. There are other things that happened before they took her away that I will never…"
"No she always used to say to me “you never know when it will be your time” I’m mad at myself for not being there and the reason was that I stopped at her house on the way to the hospital thinking they will have to get her settled…"
"I can relate. There is no definite diagnosis whether my Mom passed away from her heart condition or respiratory failure. I will never know. But there was nothing I could have done to prevent it. That was out of my control.
I pray that you feel your…"
"Hi , I lost my mother on April 14, 2018. Was with her when she passed. Love if her life. It was hard watching her go and seeing the fight in her face and her knowing that was it as far as being with me again in physical body. She is now a gorgeous…"
"Thanks for your message Frances. I just saw it. I appreciate your kind words. God bless you. I don’t post on this site likebI did when my mom first died. It’s still hard adjusting to her not being here. Her death has helped…"
"Bluebell, so glad for you
I so wish I could have the same experience
I finally after much though realized what it is that I am having a hard time with about my moms death.....why did she go in CA, I cry and realize that I will live with not knowing…"
"I have made a decision to take baby steps to recover from the trauma of the bleed in my brain. The first step I am working on is thinking of myself as a whole person who has the desire and courage to return to living a life without thinking of…"
"Thank you bluebird for the kind words. That's a great idea to write to our friends. I still send Christmas cards, and birthday cards, but I should send a card once in awhile too. Thank you for the advice."
"I'm sorry you're feeling so down. It's good that you have your children and your sister-in-law, but no one can take the place of your husband. As far as your friends, it's quite possible that they just don't know…"
"Hi Elynn and Monty
I have this picture right by my computer. It really helped me accept the fact that I will never stop grieve fro my Husband. I find no comfort with family and Friends, just my sweet little dog Babie J."
"thank you Monty for your comments. I try to remind myself that friends don't know what they r doing, and they don't know what to say. I know that everyone will face this at some time, but I cannot say that to friends,…"
sorry so to hear of your loss and how your feeling.
My wife passed December last year and i have also found that people have stopped calling and don't come around. I too am feeling isolated and alone.
Luckily for me i have my sister…"