"Hi David. I just had this conversation with my kids a few days ago when we needed to find something in the garage and it is full to overflowing with his things still. It will be 2 years July 1st and for the first time I can honestly say…"
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David H Quinn
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Jeanne Potter commented on David H Quinn's blog post A little help here"Hi David,
I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago next week. I went through his clothes right away. Anything that my son could use I gave him. Then I gave more of it to a friend of mine that was the same size. I kept some certain…"
A little help here
My wife passed away a year ago . My question is for those that have had someone close to you die,what have done with there clothes and belongings.Also I cann,t see any sense holding on to things that we accumulated in out 35 years of marriage.Who knows where I will be and since Iam without a wife in this case and 66 yrs old I know I shouldn,t hold on.Her ashes are in the house in a urn also.I figure I should put some things in a box and get rid of the rest of the items. So what anyone done in…See More
Grief long running video in my head
I see my wife gasping her last breaths (May 26,2012) I was visting her in the hosp for over a month.She recieved a pace maker and new heart vales.Medically her insides went bad she was on dialysis for over 5 yrs. For some reason while in the hosp I made a decsion that I never thought I would make.I gave the hosp staff permission to take out her breathing tube and she died. It didn,t faze me untile the 2 or three month.Now my mind is running all the memories of our life together over and over…See More
jb (jo) commented on David H Quinn's blog post Grief a year later"i no th 1sy yr of my dads death th anversy date in march woz so painfull it mad it wors by all th death iv had sinse he died
iv had a lot of death in 2013 of familly freinds of my dads all i no i keap on thnking thes silly morbid ideas in my hed lik…"
Grief a year later
My wife died last year in May she got so bad in the hospital and would have lived a miserable life after what the hospital did to her that I had the breathing tube removed .For a whole year I was numb to the fact she passed away. In the past few months memories of her dying in the hospital come flooding back,with an increase in weight from eating the wrong food. I find I loved her a lot, but during the marriage it can be described as dysfuctional as well as two people caring for each other. It…See More
Brenda Ann commented on David H Quinn's blog post oh well "Hi David, I will be 62 on the 25th of this month and I can't figure out how this is "my" age. Sixty two is starting to sound very young - but it doesn't feel good. I am glad you are alive and I believe that God is happy you…"
oh well
My poor wife passed away on May 26 2012. Its been a little under 8 months I haven,t done much to recover form her loss except my drinking has gone done.I haven,t gone out drinking and driving after she ran me through hell on any particular day . I remember her loss and I remember the love I had for her. So Iam at a loss .I was under her spell for 35 yrs. Love ,dependent on her Ahh whatever as they say.Iam not getting anywhere.I guess Iam still stuck in the past with her. I do recogonize though…See More
anna l. commented on David H Quinn's blog post shes your only world "Hi Dave,
It seems with the medical system these days you have to tell the doctors what you need instead of the other way around. I think if you want to discuss how you are feeling with a group of people who would actually understand you need…"
shes your only world
I can see where Iam going to go absolutly nuts unless I do something with my life.Unfortuntly my worthless therapist just sits there and listens to me talk about something or anything. I have yet been really suicidal I think we all think about (or some of us do ). Anyway I suggested I hike down a popular trail near where I workd and he said "yea that would be a good idea" I would think he would help introduce me to a therapy group. So Iam put in the position where I have to get enough courage…See More
"thanks anna for your comment. I can see the stages come and go. Yes its not as emotional to see the care in the driveway. We all are in a group we never intended to be in. It does get easier sometimes."
anna l. commented on David H Quinn's blog post do you have to be over it"Hi David. I see a difference in your writings. It sounds like you are beginning to leave the anger part of the grief journey behind. So you see you are making more progress than you give yourself credit for. About the…"
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- About Me:
- Iam a 65 yr old male retired military work for private secuity.I have lived in austin tx since 1983 Iam married but recently lost my wife to medical problems
- About my Loss:
- I alowed the hospital to terminate my wifes life due to muliple problems due to breathing,heart ,future amputation of limps due to circulation problems,other problems due to blood pressure
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A little help here
My wife passed away a year ago . My question is for those that have had someone close to you die,what have done with there clothes and belongings.Also I cann,t see any sense holding on to things that we accumulated in out 35 years of marriage.Who knows where I will be and since Iam without a wife in this case and 66 yrs old I know I shouldn,t hold on.Her ashes are in the house in a urn also.I figure I should put some things in a box and get rid of the rest of the items. So what anyone done…
ContinuePosted on June 15, 2013 at 7:50pm — 2 Comments
Grief long running video in my head
I see my wife gasping her last breaths (May 26,2012) I was visting her in the hosp for over a month.She recieved a pace maker and new heart vales.Medically her insides went bad she was on dialysis for over 5 yrs. For some reason while in the hosp I made a decsion that I never thought I would make.I gave the hosp staff permission to take out her breathing tube and she died. It didn,t faze me untile the 2 or three month.Now my mind is running all the memories of our life together over and over…
ContinuePosted on June 2, 2013 at 8:57pm
Grief a year later
My wife died last year in May she got so bad in the hospital and would have lived a miserable life after what the hospital did to her that I had the breathing tube removed .For a whole year I was numb to the fact she passed away. In the past few months memories of her dying in the hospital come flooding back,with an increase in weight from eating the wrong food. I find I loved her a lot, but during the marriage it can be described as dysfuctional as well as two people caring for each other.…
ContinuePosted on May 18, 2013 at 11:27pm — 1 Comment
oh well
My poor wife passed away on May 26 2012. Its been a little under 8 months I haven,t done much to recover form her loss except my drinking has gone done.I haven,t gone out drinking and driving after she ran me through hell on any particular day . I remember her loss and I remember the love I had for her. So Iam at a loss .I was under her spell for 35 yrs. Love ,dependent on her Ahh whatever as they say.Iam not getting anywhere.I guess Iam still stuck in the past with her. I do recogonize…
ContinuePosted on February 10, 2013 at 9:12pm — 1 Comment
Comment Wall (3 comments)
- At 7:18pm on January 5, 2013,
B. Milt said…
- At 10:32am on June 20, 2012,
Mark said… Hello David, I'm not quite sure I really understand your comments on my blog. We all take different journeys in live and see it through a different prism. You'd have to know my complete very private story to understand when I read comments like "you did what you did " it's actually an insult. Or the suggestion that I'd never thought my loved one would die. Of course you know some day either they will go or you will go and in my case from as early as 4 I was ubber aware that my mother could be taken at any moment given her condition. Not exactly another great reality for a child who is suppose to be dreaming about being batman and santa claus. Yes I hold God responsible for the horror we endured at the end of her life. Faith in God gave her hope through all the decades of physical misery and pain. Again not knowing a persons complete private journey I will say her death from Cancer has so shocked our entire community there are those who have stopped going to church because they were so sickened by how something who had already been through so much hell had to endure that as well. On the flip side what you said about God and you almost getting DWI's I can't answer that for you. Some of your comments didn't really make sense to me and came off almost bitter. What I would like to say to you and it's something I noticed you didn't include with me... I truly am sorry for your loss. I know that empty feeling. However, try hard not to take it out on others.
- At 8:08am on June 19, 2012,
Sue Waxman said…
David,
You seem to have a lot of guilt. I look back and queston if I was the best daughter I could have been to my mother. She was all I had in this world and I lost her to cancer June 26, 2011. At times I would get so angry with her because she was kind of stubborn, set in her ways and rather a hermitt. She smoked like a fiend in the 60's,70's and quit in the 90's. I would beg her to stop and she would say "I love my cigaretts and everyone has to die of something". And in the end after not smoking for 30 years - she got throat cance, emphezema and COPD. I was so angry with her because she did not listen to me. My biggest, darkest fear came true. As a child (I'm 56 now) I would blow out my birthday candles asking for her to quit smoking. Some childhood I had. Worrying about my mother caused to severe colitis at age 12. I never had children because I was so damn tired of worrying. In the end I grew to love her and respect her so much more. She was a fighter. I miss her so much David. All of us have regrets. Did this help? Sue
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Hope Diamond commented on Christine Leakey's blog post Hello, Anxiety"First let me say that I am sorry for your loss and anxiety. I understand about the physical aspects that you mentioned. I get the lump in my throat, my arm and leg tingle, I feel like my heart is going to stop and I can't breathe. How did you…"
anne commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"This sucks! I live across the street from a church. The church where the little 10 year old boy is being buried from. I want to run. You would think that after all this time I wouldn't react to these things. It just goes to show that time…"
Angela Denny commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Thank you, Anna. After five months, most family members and friends don't want to hear about it any longer. I'm hoping that soon I will feel at least a small amount of healing. Thank you for listening and responding."
anna l. commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Angela, for sure it is normal! I was in a sort of shock for a few months after my husband died just a year after our son. At three months after I was beginning to hit a bottom and stayed there for a long while. Everyone grieves…"
Angela Denny commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Thank you for your caring response to my earlier post. I want to know if it is normal to be feeling so depressed and grief stricken after five months. There are days I do not even have the energy or desire to shower and every day finds me crying so…"
Marilyn Matthews commented on Diana Young's blog post After Death Communication"Shortly before our son died my husband and I were up on the mountain at our little house that we built years ago when we were young and strong...I mean we literally built it...hauled the lumber in on an old flatbed truck over an old logging road,…"
Mary Chris Griffin commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"I, too, am comforted by birds. I have an Eastern Blue Bird couple who are nesting on my back deck. I enjoy their courtship, marriage, eggs, babies, and fledging from about 5' from my living room window. Such a pleasure this summer. So good to…"
Marilyn Matthews commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"Oh Vasanthi and Mary..how beautiful ...and since God IS love...even our poor human attempts at love is a reflection or a tiny bit of HIM...He cares enough for us to let us feel LOVE...He MUST care about how we are feeling....
we went to the mountain…"
Mary Chris Griffin commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"Love and reaching out is the most important thing that I can do for others and myself, I agree whole heartedly! Yes, without faith in God, I would not be "making it" at all. I understand what you are saying Vasanthi. Recently re-read…"
Vasanthi S commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"Love to u all here .. the lord is omniscient and omnipotent-- please trust that--not saying it as some religious crap but saying it because i firmly know it..how? because with all the severe trials one goes through, it still doesn't take away…"
Mary Chris Griffin commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"Michelle, I too, have a friend who has dropped me, but it's because she is dealing with un-dealt with grief. I understand her better after we've talked a couple of times. I miss her, but at this time in our lives we can't help each…"
Dina Marie Gabriel posted a status"Daddy, I can't stand it anymore... I need you...I'm thinking of going to a medium to contact you...."
Essie Jay replied to Essie Jay's discussion Everything is Changing in the group I love my Dad."Thank you for taking the time to reply. Yes, I really do realize the remodeling is helping my mom. I don't say anything about how I feel because I don't want her to realize that her way of coping is making my coping harder, because that…"
"I have been super emotionaly today. A good friend of mine lost her mother 11 years ago today. She still grieves for her. At the end of June last year we found out my mom had cancer, she died 6 months later. I finding…"
B. Milt left a comment for Jodi Denton"My son was 20 years old.
9 days after his 20th birthday.
8 months with my son."
Kim Phillips commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Angela, I am so so sorry. I lost my best friend and soul mate a year ago and I still cry every day and I still am having trouble moving on. I think we all grieve at our own pace. It has been such a short time for you. …"
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