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Hi Kristine, My Parents lived with us, so they had their own room which is still the same minus the their bed because we took that out when they got sick we had to get hospital beds, and you know they came and took those just as soon as they passed!…
I am so thankful that I found this website, because now I know that there are others out there who are going through the same thing, so I do not feel so weird or strange because of the way I feel. My Mom my Best Friend passed away 3-6-09 it was unex…
My mom died, August 17, 2009 of an apparent heart attack from heart failure. Her doctors never told me how sick she was and so I was blown away and am heart sick and lost without her.
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- About Me:
- my name is Dana I am 47, a Mother of 4 Boys and 1 GrandDaughter,
- About my Loss:
- My Mom died March 6,2009. and my Dad died April 19 2009, I took care of both of them, my Mom died unexpectedly and my grief my guilt my thoughts and my memories will not go away! I miss them both so much but my Mom I cant let go of all these feelings they are eating me up inside and nobody understands, not even my Husband whose Father passed away August 16,2009 5 months later unexpectedly also does not understand. He just tells me that I am abcessed with it and I need to let go! well I cant because my Mom died because her Doctor would not listen to me he denied giving her a simple test that would have detected the Ascites she had at which she needed to be drained. I filed a claim against him with the Medical Board which is still in process. I cry every night and miss my Mom so much she was my best friend and they also lived with us so I am reminded of them everyday at every moment in this House, their room is still the same I cant bring myself to clean out their stuff to me it will always be their room. Please if there is anyone out there who understands what I am going through please help I feel like I am losing my mind and things will never get better.
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- At 12:55am on February 5, 2010,
Dana LaPaglia said…
- Thanks Jeremy, It makes me feel better too, I have a Sister and 2 Brothers they never call and ask how I am doing! they know that I was closer to my Parents since they lived with us for the past 10 years, but there is no calls to ask if I am ok? nothing. This is the only talking about it that I get to do, today was hard a Family Member that I hardly know sent me some Pictures of my Parents,my Dad when he was little and a picture of my Mom and Me when I was 10 years old, it took me by surprise needless to say I broke down. Thanks for being there.
- At 8:48pm on February 4, 2010,
Jeremy said…
- I'm sorry for your loss. It's really feels alot better talking to people who has been thru the same experience. My family up in Ohio just don't seem to understand what I'm going thru. My Dad is not supportive at all. I talk to him about once a month on the phone. I know that I will never be the same person that I use to be, but I try to stay positive . I just take it day by day. If you ever want to talk just let me know. Once again I'm so sorry for your loss.
- At 4:36pm on February 4, 2010,
Dana LaPaglia said…
- I blamed myself for my Moms death if only I had taken her to another Doctor ! if I had not listened to him! if I had just listened to my got feeling! If If If, then one day I just broke down and asked her for forgiveness even though I knew that she did not blame me after that I kind of stopped blaming myself, I really did try my best to take care of her and my Dad. And I too cry and miss them both everyday! but Mom was my Best Friend so It is harder with her. We live just 10 minutes from where my Parents and my Brother are buried, so I go out there every week and decorate it looks so pretty, I know my Mom watchs me probably thinking Dana you dont have to do this every week but I do it helps me get through each day. I hope your Son stops blaming himself because it does no good! it just prolongs the grief I know. Ill be thinking of you on Sunday I hope that it helps you.
- At 1:32pm on February 4, 2010,
diane berk said…
- I am sorry for your loss, the anniversary of my beloved mother is Sunday Feb 7th, I can not believe it has been a year, this is not a day that I don't cry and miss her she and I and my 11 year old son all lived together. My Mom was my son's best friend and they were closer than he and I. He found her passed out on Feb 1st and believes that he caused her to die. I miss her more every day. I "talk" to her daily and still live in the same apartment and her stuff is all around us. My son and I fight due to frustrations and hurt everyday we need counseling and he has to understand that her dying was not his fault. I hope some things get better for you. I know on Sunday we have to go to her grave site and this will be the first time since she laid to rest, in the Jewish faith you are supposed to wait one year to go to her grave, I don't know how I am going to drive back and forth without my a complete melt-down.
- At 2:36am on February 3, 2010,
Marsha "Marcy" Welch said…
- I was an absolute wreck on the year anniversary of my Mom's death. Somehow I made it through the day, and everyday before and after. I felt terrible guilt for a while, like it was my fault, and now I'm just furious. Not with her, but in general because it seemed so unfair that this would happen to someone so wonderful. Hang in there. My Mom lost both of her parents within a few months also, and a few months before she died. We are human and resiliant-just remember, your family needs you just like you needed your parents.
- At 5:56pm on January 29, 2010,
Dana LaPaglia said…
- Thanks I will, and your right about not getting any one to respond I thought it was just me! and how i feel about my Mom I miss her every second of everyday! I really cant explain it except to say that it is like a piece of me died with her,and it is hard to tell anyone that because most just do not understand! so thank you for understand and I will join youi on the other website. Dana.
- At 12:26pm on January 28, 2010,
beverly ann hurst said…
- I do know how you feel.I miss my mother so bad it hurts so bad.If you ever need someone to talk to,i'll always be here for you.I found a better website,where people actually answer you.I go by lindsey dawn.It's called daily strength.Please join me over there.If you have any problems finding that website,let me know.
- At 2:33pm on November 30, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said… - Hello Dana, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom and dad. While I have not lost my parents (I am 53) my daughter was killed on May 25, 2009. She was 33 years old and my only child. I truly believe there is a special, eternal bond between a mother and her child and this is why the grief is so deep and painful. I am only speaking of the experience of my personal loss; we all grieve differently. This website is so great because we all share the bond of grief. I have also found I can share my thoughts and fears here and later find many others feel the same...I don't feel so alone in my grief. I don't think we ever "get over" the loss of a loved one but instead we weave the grief into our daily lives. It will always be there and on some days we feel it more than others. You don't have to "let her go". Take care and let us know how you are doing.
Laura
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Hi Kristine, My Parents lived with us, so they had their own room which is still the same minus the their bed because we took that out when they got sick we had to get hospital beds, and you know they came and took those just as soon as they passed!…
I think that expecting the hurt to end this soon is just too much to expect. You have had a great loss and in some ways a part of you. No need to feel guilt however hearing that likely does not change your feelings. Your feelings are yours and there…
i have the same feeling. I lost my brother last january 11, 2010 and it hurts so much. I feel unmotivated, disoriented and just want to sulk. I feel that there no sense in anything I do. I miss my brother so much. I cry a lot especially at night whe…
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Wow~your story is almost a mirror of mine, though I never had children. (My cats are my kids). How do you do it? Survive so many losses without dying inside? You must be in better physical and emotional shape than I. I can't get out of bed for the m…
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.
Many of us have lost more than one person or event.
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I created this group for people who may be grieving one or both parents. I lost my Mom and Dad within one year of each other. Dad passed away from Lung Cancer and Mom passed less than one year later from Pick's Disease.
For everyone that has lost their Dad.
Thank goodness other people have posted the dumb and insensitive remarks that have fallen upon their ears too!!!
I lost my son on Thanksgiving Day to a drug overdose which is hard to internalize but what people say can be so insensitive!
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Hello Kristie, I had a few good days as I told you about. But today wasn't. Just Every month since Desiree's death and my miscarriage that followed i have thought that i was pregnant. Now mind you it has been nearly 2 years since Desiree and about a…
These are amazing experiences. I love to read them. Keep them coming. They certainly have a healing effect. At least for me, anyway. They really make me smile and feel more comfortable.
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