"Thanks Brett. I try to tell myself that it wasnt my fault. All th time. But I think the only person that can convince me is my mom. I beg for her forgiveness all the time and how I wish that she could respond back. "
"Brett, I teared up reading your posts. I understand how you feel. . I have been my mom’s caretaker for the past three years, , although not a very good one. Took her to every appointment, made every phone call, memorized her medication- it…"
"Theresa I send my love and prayers to you. This is such a difficult month. I have cried myself to sleep the past week and noone sems to know. We are both suffering in silence. I have back pain, im always sleepy and tired. Our bodies know that we are…"
"Bailey My heart goes to you. I feel the same way my family keeps talking about christmas plans and I just stay quiet cause I am not planning on celebrating xmas this year... its been a hard few days.. the guilt of my mom’s death is coming…"
"Bluebell, yes my mom took a big part of me when she died. Brett, I know how you feel about being sad all the time. That is why I avoid a lot of my friends now. Because I don't want to pretend to be happy or to be having fun and I…"
"Does anyone feel so alone at times? I feel like with the holidays approaching, its more evident how alone I am. I have alwaysbeen very independent, so I always assumed I would be ok if my mom would ever die. Now, its like my strength to do anything…"
"Theresa, It breaks my heart when I see others that still have their prents ehenever I see grandparents with their grandchildren, its like a stab to my heart because my nieces were my mom’s heart and soul... i feel petty and cheated and i hate…"
"Oh Theresa, I feel your pain. In a way I am thankful that I got to say goodbye, although she was on a breathing ventilator and could not talk for the last few hours of her life. I kick myself for not comforting her while she was still…"
"Thank you all for the kind words. Bluebell and Brett I completely agree about how the loss wears us down. I have lost so many people in my life and losing my mom was the icing on the cake, if you will. It has changed me so much, I…"
"I thought I was doing well the past month, but this week has been so hard it feels like the first few weeks after I lost my mom allover again, crying in bed at night, the feelings of guilt, the what ifs.. I thought I was getting past this but i…"
"Survived Thanksgiving. Didn't celebrate cause that would've been too hard. Dreamt of my mom last night though. Remember feeling so happy to see her alive. Then I woke up so disappointed that it was just a dream. Still…"
"Hi guys, first of all condolences to you Bailey. The next few weeks will be a blur for you. And I am praying that you make it through them..Just remember, talk through it. Having someone to talk to made it much more bearable for me.
I lost the most important person to me 10 days after my 25th birthday- my mom. Still dealing with all the emotions that come with such a significant loss. Its hard, very hard. Life feels empty. I don't enjoy much anymore. Any joy I have is overcast with a dark cloud of sadness. I'm angry, and sad. I have lost others but nothing could prepare me for this.
Now I don't know what the word is to describe the amount of pain and abandonment I feel from losing my mom. Feel like I don't have anyone to rely on. Never was close to my dad. Sisters moved out 10 years ago so although I love them, I am not very close as I once was.
If it was possible I would exchange places with her in a heartbeat, not because of how painful it is- but so she could've lived longer and enjoyed her grandchildren (my sister's kids). She was such a selfless mother, grandmother, sister, caretaker- that she did not deserve to go out the way she did.
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Crystal, like you, I talk to my mom daily. Whether she can hear me is unknown. I do believe God hears me, so I ask him to tell my mom how much I love her, miss her and wish I could see her to give her a hug. I'd give up everything I own to see her again
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