I tried to send a short message and a request, but I don’t know if it actually got sent or not. I wanted to offer my condolences to you and your son.
I noticed that you are a person of faith. Would you care to…"
"Hi Cristal.Welcome to the hardest part of your life. This is the worst it will ever get, which is both bad and good at the same time. You're going to become a new woman after you make it through this journey.There are no short cuts. Take this…"
"I know all about the "I just can't."
It's not because you don't want to... you try and it's just not there, like turning on a light switch and the bulb doesn't work. You did all you could and knew how to, but it…"
"You had half your soul ripped out... basically. Of course you're going to struggle.
Most folks just don't get that because they are still fine. They have not been so deeply wounded and have nothing to compare your struggle to.
"I have a rollercoaster. Some days I am fine alone, others I simply need a wife to love on and make stuff for and ask her opinion. That's just how it is. I don't get a choice and folks who constantly tell me "get over it, it's…"
"I have to look forward or I just want to lay down and die. My son needs a dad. He needs a mom too but I can't find a woman who will step up and do that for him.
She died when he was 5 so he didn't know her well. He has not had a mom since…"
"Just got here. Widowed at age 28. It took 18 hours from healthy wife to no more wife. That was nearly 8 years ago. She wanted me to move on and I wanted the same for her if I went first... strange that we had the conversation mere months before her…"
"Some days you try, but you just can't. Whatever you needed just didn't work that day.
The first 4 years were rough and she didn't want me to be alone. Unfortunately, I am alone. Society shuns widowers. The most common question I get…"
Rough life, lots of bad stuff happened. I made sure I did right by folks no matter what. Now I'm ready to move right along.
I learn things and do stuff. What I will get up to at any given day is pretty much just up to prayer. I love passive income. One day I will find a way to make it grow.
Nondenominational Christian. Ask if you are curious. Silence is something I hate.
About my Loss:
She died making love to me. Orgasm killed her (blew out her ascending aorta). She went out with a bang! She was 29. I celebrated with our 5 year old son what would have been her 30th birthday just 2 months later. I was 28. It crushed me. I would have died from my heart stopping if my son didn't need me. I had no support network because everyone was horrified and confused and ... chose not to be available. I grieved alone and was taken advantage of in the following years. I got better.
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"Thank you Joe for your posts. In a weird way it gives me a lift. How? Because I know that I am not making up how hard this suffering is.
My closest friend and sibling also know how I feel about dying and I know I would not have to…"
"joe that is incredible.
thanks for the time and energy sharing.
i think ill look at some of your suggestions and see what will work for me.
for me this week has been hard.
1 week until first anniversary of her death, i don't know what to…"
""As the years are passing I feel the need more and more."
When I read some of you guys suffering so long, it gives me great fear that despite my health neglect, and legal preparations, I don't know when it will actually come to…"
"I read your words and it brings me to my knees."
I keep asking God to let me go many times a day. I tell Him/Her/It that I will never relent until my prayer is answered. I ask my love to keep asking too and have…"
"Thanks Bluebird for nice comment about my Julian. He was so caring and was my rock. Being with him for 24/7 for 13 years of our retirement was bliss, I thank God for this time together.
Morgan & Joe I keep believing there is eternal love…"
I read your words and it brings me to my knees. I so want to join my husband. As the years are passing I feel the need more and more. I am not sure I understand totally how your OBE has given you more faith that somehow we…"
"Pamela, you are grieving for your mother. You may not be able to see it but I can. My father was horrible. I did not grieve his death. I barely gave it a second thought. You are grieving your mom, and you are grieving the way things were. The advice…"
"I lost my mother on 9-6-15 eight days before I lost my husband on 9-14-15 and I feel horrible because I am struggling with how I am grieving for my mother because we had a very strained relationship because my mother was an alcoholic all her life…"
It is impossible for us to know for absolutely sure what exactly happens when we die. Oh, how I would love her to appear before me and tell me she's here and waiting for me, but I also know that she can't do that…"
I am so glad that the folks on this forum feel the same way I do. Society is always trying to label people, if we don't agree with them they think we are weird or crazy. My sweet Husband Julian taught me to ignore what other people…"
"I fully agree with you both, Linda and Monty. My deep and abiding grief is the only response I could possibly have to my husband's death. My soulmate was torn from me, and I don't know if his wonderful soul still exists, or if I will ever…"
"Hi Avi, it would be nice to have a friend. The time gap is big but we can agree on a time to talk. Keeping busy also functions for me. Anyways, as soon as I have free time the thoughts and feelings came back and grief hits so hard. I wish you have a…"
India is 8.30 hours ahead of Argentina. We can talk at your early morning whenever you want.
Feeling of desolation still exists for me but I try to be strong and do things (work, travel, eating etc) with sincerity. "
"Agreed, Daylight. I often think about how appalled my mom and my husband would be by my current state. But I would say that the feeling of total desolation will change, based on my experience with my husband’s death, thirty months…"