" Hi Joe I lost my wife 9 Months ago after knowing her from going steady in H S for 60 years and then holding her in my arms while she took her last breath-people do not know the loss you feel I try to get by but still hard to think or plan and…"
"Rose-Lost my wife after 54 years one day at a time and it's ok to cry try to talk to friends tell the same story to them how you feel they do not know learn to say no to things -small things will overwhelm you and you will forget things after 7…"
"Hi Kim Not quite 3 mon's for me since I lost my wife only we know the hurt- things change so lonely in the evenings pace the floors -learn to say no if something does not feel right try to find one thing you like to do I go to cem. every…"
"Mel.It has been just a little over 2 mon's and I have trouble thinking that I have this to look forward for years-My wife loved me and kids so I want to help kids in the future if I can need to get better myself so I can be dad and grandpa-She…"
"To All-I walk around the house and can't seem to stop I still have all the material things that I always had but now I'am missing my love so hard not having her I took care of her for a long time and miss that gave me purpose so sad and…"
"Hi John-Yes the day they walked in the Hosp. room and said she won't be coming home with you did put me in shock -We raised 4 kids not all in state and that helps I so wished we could have had a talk before she passed-She got to see all the…"
"The road to better days seems a long way off I just try to get through one day without tears and now others talk about years-So many years together and now gone there is a empty chair next to mine hate to come home"
"Thanks-yes it is something everyday that brings back tears one cup for coffee one bowl-nobody to talk to starting in the morning-I have learned to say no to people if I don't want to do something-Also I noticed how much I miss just her input…"
Lost wife 2 months ago to low heart function after 54 years of marriage so lonely in evening everything in the house is her took care of her for several years and now it hurts so bad she is not here-How do you cope
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"Thank you Joe for your posts. In a weird way it gives me a lift. How? Because I know that I am not making up how hard this suffering is.
My closest friend and sibling also know how I feel about dying and I know I would not have to…"
"joe that is incredible.
thanks for the time and energy sharing.
i think ill look at some of your suggestions and see what will work for me.
for me this week has been hard.
1 week until first anniversary of her death, i don't know what to…"
""As the years are passing I feel the need more and more."
When I read some of you guys suffering so long, it gives me great fear that despite my health neglect, and legal preparations, I don't know when it will actually come to…"
"I read your words and it brings me to my knees."
I keep asking God to let me go many times a day. I tell Him/Her/It that I will never relent until my prayer is answered. I ask my love to keep asking too and have…"
"Thanks Bluebird for nice comment about my Julian. He was so caring and was my rock. Being with him for 24/7 for 13 years of our retirement was bliss, I thank God for this time together.
Morgan & Joe I keep believing there is eternal love…"
I read your words and it brings me to my knees. I so want to join my husband. As the years are passing I feel the need more and more. I am not sure I understand totally how your OBE has given you more faith that somehow we…"
"Pamela, you are grieving for your mother. You may not be able to see it but I can. My father was horrible. I did not grieve his death. I barely gave it a second thought. You are grieving your mom, and you are grieving the way things were. The advice…"
"I lost my mother on 9-6-15 eight days before I lost my husband on 9-14-15 and I feel horrible because I am struggling with how I am grieving for my mother because we had a very strained relationship because my mother was an alcoholic all her life…"
It is impossible for us to know for absolutely sure what exactly happens when we die. Oh, how I would love her to appear before me and tell me she's here and waiting for me, but I also know that she can't do that…"
I am so glad that the folks on this forum feel the same way I do. Society is always trying to label people, if we don't agree with them they think we are weird or crazy. My sweet Husband Julian taught me to ignore what other people…"
"I fully agree with you both, Linda and Monty. My deep and abiding grief is the only response I could possibly have to my husband's death. My soulmate was torn from me, and I don't know if his wonderful soul still exists, or if I will ever…"
"Hi Avi, it would be nice to have a friend. The time gap is big but we can agree on a time to talk. Keeping busy also functions for me. Anyways, as soon as I have free time the thoughts and feelings came back and grief hits so hard. I wish you have a…"
India is 8.30 hours ahead of Argentina. We can talk at your early morning whenever you want.
Feeling of desolation still exists for me but I try to be strong and do things (work, travel, eating etc) with sincerity. "
"Agreed, Daylight. I often think about how appalled my mom and my husband would be by my current state. But I would say that the feeling of total desolation will change, based on my experience with my husband’s death, thirty months…"