"For me...I can tell you right now it would depend on what spouse passed away. I'm sure this sounds bad, but if it had been my first spouse it would have been a short grieving period. I will leave it to the imagination as to why that would…"
"I lost my husband 4yrs ago and there is not a day that goes by that he is not on my mind or in my heart. I started dating an old flame of mine and things seemed to be going great! we have known each other forever so we were already friends. We have…"
"I started dating, and although its weird, its not too difficult. Dating doesn't mean you have to forget your spouse. A guy I have dated for a little while told me he isn't looking to replace my husband, but would like a place along…"
"My heart lightens for all of you I guess it is as they say time heals all and marches on... I just hope one day my heart will move on, sounds like you are all in a better place than me...
God Bless You
Good luck to you ... I hope you find the…"
Thank you. Yeah I know that I will never get over my husband and he will always have his own special place in my heart. But everyone talks about how they understand how I will eventually start dating again and that's no big deal (my…"
"I don't know if there is a right time per se! I lost my husband in 03 and I can get choked up looking at pictures or feeling sorry for myself when my girlfriends are vacationing with their spouses or what not. I only say that to reaffirm that I…"
"I know everyone says that you will know when the right time comes to start dating again, but I just feel conflicted. My heart is definately with my husband as I know it always will be, I cry sometimes very heavily just speaking or thinking about…"
"I was wondering how things are going as well, I do not know if I am going to be ready to date yet... I still have a lot of questions for the universe and I do not know if I am strong enough to move on yet.. I was just wondering if you could tell me…"
I sent you a friend request but I was just trying to comment....but I lost my fiance last year in november....I am 26 years old and we had two children a boy and a girl our son is 7 years and my daughter is 3 years old....he died suddenly and tragically....he was murdered actually...he was onlu 25 years old....we been together since we were 15 years also....and living together since 17 years old....so I fully understand ur pain...n I can relate....its jus so hard....but give me a chat if u ever wanna talk....it feels good to talk with someone who may understand my pain...thanks n take care.
Amy, I'm sorry if I surprised you in anyway shape or form. I didn't mean to hurt you with message. Your husband even asked me tell you but, slowly and nicely so I wouldn't scare you. But, if u have anymore questions please ask me but, keep in mind I may not have all the answers you want either. Enjoy your daughter. Sincerely, Amber
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"I started to compose a blow by blow sequence of events of my loves illness and passing but it became too painful and couldn't continue. Here we share how we are feeling grieving our lost Loves. In reality, most of my underlying…"
I totally understand; I detest being around happy families, and especially happy couples. It's not that I want anything bad to happen to them, I definitely do not. It's just that they have what my beloved and I should still have,…"
"usually I find your comments really clear, Linda, so I don’t think it’s not being good with words, more that it’s hard to express these things in words. Actually I couldn’t follow what Joe said either, but it’s…"
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Joe explained in his post of how I feel. I am not good with words on explaining things but Joe you said it perfectly. I just want to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts, as we are all in the same boat together."
"Speaking for myself, I identify with Linda. My Love left our world and I know it, and accept that she crossed over into another realm of existence and can't come back. I want her back and I live in HELL every day without her. …"
"Linda, not sure what you mean here when you say you can accept the loss of your husband but not being able to change it is your whole problem — do you mean not being able to change the fact of the loss, or not being able to change the way it…"
Like you mentioned in your post, there is no normal in my life. I just take each day as it comes and just wait for death. I can accept that Julian is gone but not being able to change it is my whole problem."
"Hi Haven't been writing recently as have had so much to organize in my life I just haven't had a moment and when I do I am so tired. So grateful to everyone else who continues to write though. I look here daily to read.…"
"They told me that Mom had a heart attack. It happened on the weekend. I had made her breakfast & she seemed fine. I am thankful she was at home & that I was with her, but it hurts so much knowing she is gone. I just…"
"I was with my mom when she passed and it was not sudden. I may have thought I was prepared. I wasn't. I tried to say and do all of the right things. Still, after her last breath, it was as though I hadn't prepared at all. I knew what to…"
"Thanks so much! It helps having others that understand. Some of my family is supportive & that helps. It helps just having someone listen that truly understands. I have one sibling, but he was never as close to my…"
"It's important to have people in your life who understand, even if they are on a message board like this, because sometimes you have to look far and wide to find someone to walk with you.
Sometimes I will call my mom's sister. She will…"
"Thank you, some days are better than others. I feel so for you. My Mom was the center of my world also. I lived with her & took care of her. I am so thankful that I could be there for her, but now I miss her so…"
"Three months is not very long. It is still very fresh for you. There will be a lot of triggers. Sometimes they will hit you out of the blue. Other times you know that one is coming, like if you have to drive by a familiar place. It's important…"