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It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Monty Nov 6.

The Holiday Season and my loss 1 Reply

This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue

Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 3 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Fran Oct 19, 2018.

FAILING 9 Replies

next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Oct 4, 2018.

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Comment by Linda Engberg on February 4, 2018 at 6:16am

Susan,

Since my beloved Husband Julian died I no longer feel a part of anything.

I don't want a normal life, I want to be with him.

Comment by Susan K on January 30, 2018 at 7:30am

Linda

That is exactly how I feel in my house "safe" and "close to Chuck", but I have no choice, I have to downsize. It's the practical choice. But it is tough. I have realized as each day goes by that I will never get used to my new normal (life without Chuck) but will have rejoin society at some point. Thank you for your words they gave me peace...Susan

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 30, 2018 at 6:14am

Susan,

Don't let your friends and family tell you what you should be doing, do what you feel is the best thing for yourself. I still rent a home in Florida where my Husband took his last breath, I can't find it in myself to move back to Michigan nearer to family, this was the last place I lived with Julian and I feel safe here and that he is close by. After 5 years without him, I still have a hard time going on without him by m side, but I force myself to join in society. It does get better each year

but I will always be the same Linda and do not want to start over.  

Comment by Nancy on January 29, 2018 at 11:01pm

Hope the trip helps for awhile.

Comment by W0lfman on January 29, 2018 at 10:57pm

 UUUGGG Just had to pay the funeral expenses off today has not been a good day but i have decided i need to get out of this house for a while so im going out of state to see a long time best friend. wish me luck lol.

Comment by Susan K on January 29, 2018 at 9:40pm

I am nearing the one year of my husbands death....I relive every second of the last two weeks of his life everyday, so it doesn't seem so long ago...I wonder if I will ever stop doing that if i will ever just relive the happiness. I just have a question for all..Does it ever get better? Will I laugh again? Will i get myself back? I have cried everyday since his diagnosis 2yrs ago I don't know what its like to not cry...I am only 49 and like most of you all cant not bear to look ahead at a life without my person..The one person who had my back! It is a challenge to do anything but I do it so my family will stop telling that "I have to keep living"...Not one of them knows what it feels like, not one of them has been in my shoes and they keep telling me what I should do! I have to sell my house this year and it is tearing my apart it..we finally bought a house to settle down after moving around our entire marriage, my husband served 26 years in the Air Force and moved every three years..This was our first house that felt like our home and now I have to leave it...Its not the worst thing but its hard....Thank you for giving me the opportunity to vent...I hope you all find peace :)

Comment by Marjorie Willcox on January 29, 2018 at 1:28pm

My goodness Alice and WOlfman and all those who've lost their partners at a young age I am feeling sorry for myself maybe having 20 more years without the love of my life.it scares the ....out of me!

Comment by W0lfman on January 29, 2018 at 12:46am

Thank you for that Morgan.  hello and well wishes to you all. Yes this is by far the hardest thing i have ever experienced but knowing im not completely off my rocker helps.  Yes my wife was my soul mate i feel but i feel so angry that i was only allow 3 years with her now im 47 and i guess i just become a grumpy old man yelling at people to get off my crappy lawn. i do have my daughter and 1 grandson and 2 more on the way so they are what light i have now i just know my daughter thinks i should be "handling" things different im always the go to guy and my wife was who i would go to to vent and de stress now i just cant be that guy at the moment.

Comment by Elynn m on January 28, 2018 at 10:36pm

Morgan

   Very well put.   I think all of us agree with what you said.  Thank you for the wisdom.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 28, 2018 at 12:46pm

Morgan,

Very well said, exactly how I am trying to live without my Husband.

 

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