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Lost my wife 15 Replies

It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Monty Nov 6.

The Holiday Season and my loss 1 Reply

This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue

Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 3 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Fran Oct 19, 2018.

FAILING 9 Replies

next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Oct 4, 2018.

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Comment by Karen T. on January 31, 2015 at 6:23pm
I feel so alone right now. My son is stayong with his grandmother and I am just here, in bed, missing my husband. I don't know how to deal. I am a widow at 32 years old and my husband past at only 33. Everything I do just seems to be so exhausting. Life, my whole world, just seems to be me being lost and alone in this world. It is also so exhausting trying to keep up appearences for my son and other people. It's been almost 4 months and I am still just tkaing it day by day and sometimes even just ninute by minute. I just don't feel right and complete anymore and I am afraid that I never will find that special connection with someone ever again. So I am left to float through this world useless and alone.
Comment by Karen T. on January 31, 2015 at 6:23pm
I feel so alone right now. My son is stayong with his grandmother and I am just here, in bed, missing my husband. I don't know how to deal. I am a widow at 32 years old and my husband past at only 33. Everything I do just seems to be so exhausting. Life, my whole world, just seems to be me being lost and alone in this world. It is also so exhausting trying to keep up appearences for my son and other people. It's been almost 4 months and I am still just tkaing it day by day and sometimes even just ninute by minute. I just don't feel right and complete anymore and I am afraid that I never will find that special connection with someone ever again. So I am left to float through this world useless and alone.
Comment by Jon-Paul Ackerman on January 29, 2015 at 6:24pm

Yes, just have to hold on... even on the days when you don't want to wake up and the nights when you want to choose your own fate... hold on. It'll be worth it.

Comment by Karen T. on January 29, 2015 at 2:17pm

Amen Zell, Amen.

Comment by Jon-Paul Ackerman on January 29, 2015 at 1:09pm

It does not get easier, it gets harder and harder. When you notice things that they did that nobody else does, when you eat food they used to like, when your children make faces like them... It's torture. I desperately try to hold on to everything that reminds me of her. The only hope and strength we can have is knowing that this won't last forever. We will be reunited one day very soon...I'm sorry for all the pain you all have to endure... especially the women who've lost their husband. 

Comment by Karen T. on January 29, 2015 at 12:12pm

Zell,

 

Thank you for sharing. It was exactly the same with me. I came home from work to find him in bed, ice cold, extremeties black and blue and a foam coming out of his mouth. God knows I wish I could get that picture out of my head but I'm afraid it is engrained there forever (I am however glad that is was me and not my 8 year oold that went in the bedroom first so I was able to shield him from seeing daddy at all like that). We had been married for almost 12 years and together for almost 14. Before him I thought that I would never find anyone to love me and vice versa, then he came into my life. I finally felt complete and happy. I knew that God had sent him specifically for me. We've been through so much together (ups and downs) and that only brought us closer. He has been with me my entire adult life until now (met him when I was 18 and he just passed in October). I really feel like a zombie just going through the motions of day to day living and putting a mask on of strength and comfort for our son but my comfort is no longer here. As I have said, my son is the only thing getting me through this life- if not for him I probably would never get out of bed and just be consumed with grief. I am sorry that you had your love taken so soon in your relationship that you don't have as many good memories to grab and hold onto for dear life- that kind of helps me a little. Thank you for your kind words and I hope you can find comfort and solice in your loss as well. We are all here for each other.

Comment by Karen T. on January 29, 2015 at 8:24am

Please someone tell me that eventually it  does get easier. I know it will always be with me, especially being the one who found the body, but I just feel like the emotion of happiness has been ripped from me and I am now just existing as I move through this world without my husband.

Comment by Leesa Lynch on January 29, 2015 at 3:54am
Dec 6 2014 God took my soul mate on Dec 27th we would have , celebrated our 28th anniversary instead I spent it alone crying and wondering why God took him from me we met when we were 12 and 13 we spent our youth together and we were suppose grow old together it was six weeks after we first went to the doctor bc he was not feeling good that he was gone and I was alone sad upset depressed I don't sleep well any more or why else would I be up this hour of the night I miss him so much
Comment by Lost & Alone on January 24, 2015 at 2:34am

I have lost my soul mate of 28 years, we are all lost with out the other half of my being... I wish you the best, and I hope that all of you find some type of peace....

May God Bless You

Comment by Karen T. on January 13, 2015 at 12:19pm

Thank you for your support. Yes it is really hard when my personal safe space (everyone has their space where they feel absolutley comfortable and nothing can touch them) was my husband's arms. I hope everyone here can find their own new safe space as I have to. Prayers for everyone.

 

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