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Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 5 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Wendy Apr 7, 2020.

My Love 1 Reply

On November 6 of this year, I lost my husband in a tragic automobile accident. We live in Georgia and the accident was in Montana making it more difficult. I am completely lost as we were best…Continue

Started by Kathy West. Last reply by Anna Chris Apr 7, 2020.

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Comment by George H on March 31, 2015 at 4:38pm
when I was young I was brought up Catholic I have strong believe in Heaven and Hell as the years went by and I got older I started to have my doubts and then I guess last 7 years with Mary being so sick I just totally turn my back on God if there really is a god I think they believe I have now is that your spirit or energy whatever goes on but just to like another plane and that this spirit lives but as far as the heaven and hell singing and the almighty power I just have no more belief in that but if you did have or do have faced you may want to search your soul in yourself because I would never try to put my beliefs on to anybody
Comment by Tildyc on March 31, 2015 at 4:22pm
Is always a really hard time a day for me. When I get home from work. And he's not here anymore. I cry a lot at this time. I mean I cry almost all the time it seems – in the morning when I wake up, on the way to work, on the way home from work, when I make dinner and when I go to bed. And also when I hear a particular song or have a memory creep up on me at work. It's consuming really. And it seems like I'm constantly searching and begging for an answer so that I can feel better.

I have a question for all you folks. Does anyone truly believe in the afterlife? Be it heaven or whatever else someone might believe? And how far do you go with that? Do you believe that your loved one's soul/spirit is right there with you in the same room? Or do you believe that you won't be with that person until you die? Or do you feel that there is no after life and that we just return to the earth from whence we came? I am struggling and hurting so deeply with the loss of my Mark- that I am really questioning a lot of what I used to believe. Or At least what I was taught when I was growing up- to believe.
Comment by Sandy Elaine Norris on March 31, 2015 at 11:26am

I am unable to work because taking care of my daddy is a full time job. I already feel better though because now I don't feel quite so lonely.

Comment by Lynden on March 31, 2015 at 10:32am

I am fortunate to have found a great grief therapist, but yes, after two months, that $70 an hour I pay adds up. I've had to bite the bullet and do it because if I hadn't, I probably would not have moved from my bed in two months. I almost certainly wouldn't be as far along the path to recovery as I am.

Comment by Dianne M. on March 31, 2015 at 10:01am

I am fortunate that the counselor I have is older and a widow and the facilitator of the grief groups are both widows and they get it and have said there is NO time limit on grief. It lasts as long as it lasts.

I will never forget my husband. He will always be in my heart and soul. There is but a few minutes a day where i dont think about him. But I cant let it paralyze me like it has been doing. I have things that must be done and now there is NO ONE but me to do them so I have to march on whether I want to or not.

Comment by George H on March 31, 2015 at 9:54am
John I can truly relate to you in a lot of respects when I met Mary I was a recording engineer in the Rock and Roll business and drugs and booze were a good way to pass those long days in the studio the night I moved in with her I put everything down and if it wasn't for her I don't think I would have made it this far I just miss her so bad not sure what to do from one minute to the next I was sorry if this didn't come out good I have that I have problems so I talk into the phone and I don't fight I don't know what it says have the time
Comment by Sandy Elaine Norris on March 31, 2015 at 9:42am

My husband was on hospice and I know that I could go through counseling with them for a year for free. I even know who my counselor would be. She is a sweet,wonderful lady but she has never been through this he'll. She just can't truly understand.

Comment by Dianne M. on March 31, 2015 at 9:33am

I am doing mine through hospice and it is free. I dont think there is a time limit on it.

Private counseling is expensive even with insurance so I see the problem.

I looked around and found this free so maybe there is something out there somewhere.

Comment by George H on March 31, 2015 at 9:32am
one of the problems I find was counseling there's some of the counselors are so young they haven't even got started yet and that college book learning cycle nonsense that some of them throw out doesn't do a damn thing for me other than counselors in this type of situation should have real world experience so that they have some idea of what we're talking about
Comment by George H on March 31, 2015 at 9:30am
yes sandy grief counseling is expensive I couldn't afford it either I'm getting mine for hospice right now and my doctor has a counselor that I can talk to you on the phone hospice only last 30 days once a week so like I said its not much help it just to talk for a short time I'm kind of relying on you all also
 

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