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Lost my wife 15 Replies

It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Monty Nov 6.

The Holiday Season and my loss 1 Reply

This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue

Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 3 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Fran Oct 19, 2018.

FAILING 9 Replies

next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Oct 4, 2018.

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Comment by George H on March 30, 2015 at 4:38pm
seem to be dealing with a lot of guilt today I had to make a decision to take Mary off the dialysis because it wasn't working and she didn't want to go back on the blood dialysis he just wanted to come home and let nature take its course I did what she wanted cuz that was their wishes now I'm having a real hard time with my decision I was sure it was the right thing to do but I guess I'll second guess myself for a long time
Comment by Sandy Elaine Norris on March 30, 2015 at 4:02pm

I hate it so much that anyone else has to suffer like this. I would love to be able to give you all a great big hug and take away your pain. I already feel like I belong here and I haven't felt that way since Mark died. 

Comment by Sandy Elaine Norris on March 30, 2015 at 3:11pm

I wish that I could stand in for all of y'all so that none of you would have to hurt like this. I don't know anyone on here but I wish that I could bear your pain. I'm so sorry for the loss you have all experienced.

Comment by Sandy Elaine Norris on March 30, 2015 at 3:04pm

I completely agree with y'all. People keep telling that I need to move on with my life. Mark has only been gone 11 weeks. I don't feel like I have a life to move on to. I understand that some people think that they are helping but the endless platitudes are getting on my last nerve. Everything is not going to be okay.

Comment by Tildyc on March 30, 2015 at 2:12pm
I hear you George. People act differently around me anymore. I used to be outgoing and have fun and have friends. Now I feel like when I walk in a room, everybody takes a mental step back. Everyone is very kind but also I feel like they are waiting for me to "snap out of it" and go back to being who I was. And the fact of the matter is – I am forever changed. And I will never ever be that person I was before. And it really is messed up that- I will never be that well adjusted, normal me I was- when Mark was still alive. There is just no possible way. And I can't do anything about that.

I think eventually folks will finally just give up on it. I hope.
Comment by George H on March 30, 2015 at 2:12pm
I can agree with you john I'm having quite a bit of problem with the anger myself it really gets hard to contain sometimes like you I'm trying not to offend anyone but I don't have that much of a support system anyway I'm basically alone I can't seem to figure out how to cope with this I think I'm doing okay then I get mail from Mary but then again this whole house is Mary they say day today and I start to wonder about that too I don't feel it's getting any easier it just seems to be getting darker and darker I just don't know what to think of that
Comment by Tildyc on March 30, 2015 at 1:51pm
Hi Sandy – I'm sorry that your loss has brought you to this point but – For what it's worth, on here you'll see you're not the only person going through this hell. I still am very much alone but – sometimes this site helps distract me from my pain for a short amount of time and provides a place for me to vent where other people will understand how I am feeling.
Comment by George H on March 30, 2015 at 1:43pm
Tildyc I feel the same way I can hardly do anything I get tired of people saying you have to snap out of it I just want to yell come and live in my world for a while
Comment by Tildyc on March 30, 2015 at 1:36pm
John T- How horribly insensitive of your family and how unbelievable it must've been for you when you realized they were trying to "set you up?!" Of course – they are only trying to help but, it just solidifies my belief that we are no longer part of that world. The normal healthy happy people world. And from where I'm at right now, I personally can't imagine myself ever fully functioning in that world again. Outside of work – I stay in seclusion and avoid people as much as possible. The thought of being with anybody else is so foreign and so unfathomable to me- I'm unable to form even a thought about something like that. I just can't.
Comment by Sandy Elaine Norris on March 30, 2015 at 9:12am

I'm new on here. My wonderful husband of 13 years passed away on Janurary 8, 2015. I don't know if there are words that express how I feel. Lost, scared, lonely, angry! Those really don't do this pain justice. He had been sick for a long time but that doesn't make this any easier. I'm glad that he is no longer suffering but I miss him so much. Ours was a very special kind of love. We knew the moment that we met that we were ment to be together.

 

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