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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

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Comment by George H on April 19, 2015 at 1:03pm
When Mary was sick not one person in her family came to our house to help me her kids would take us to the Dr or the store but I had to call them to get that done they didn't know what med to give or how to do her dialysis now that she's gone nothing has changed but I think I'm better off by myself (just venting real bad day)
Comment by Mark on April 19, 2015 at 10:45am

Hi  I lost my wife 5 weeks ago, she was intoxicated and intentionally to an overdose of Opana/Oxymorphone, My son found her passed out on the floor and I didn't know she took any pills I thought she was drunk and had seen her falling down drunk many times in the past, I did not call 911 immediately, and feel overwhelming guilt that I did not, I missed a chance to save her.  When I did, it was too late for her when the medics arrived.

I have been here for a few weeks blogging and reading.  Lots of pain and emotional agony on this board.  My question is this, is there anyone her that has come through this to where they can now appreciate a sunny day.  I know I will never forgot this or be the same, but I want to here from someone that feels like they are at least turning the corner, please.

Mark

Comment by Dianne M. on April 19, 2015 at 10:31am

I am so very tired of waking up crying. This house is so empty and my life so hollow. I am really trying to get out and do things but nothing is helping me. I miss him with every fiber of my being and I just dont know what to do. Everything reminds me of him or something we did together or I want to ask him something....just a mess

Comment by lost on April 19, 2015 at 10:17am
John T- the people that piss me off the most are the ones that say "be thankful you had him for 41yrs". Really? I was 16 when I got married...I am almost 58. Why should I be happy with JUST 41yrs. I wanted more!!! I feel like slapping those people. Or the ones that say..." I should be thankful that it was a quick heart attack". Really? Why is a quick heart exploding any better than a disease that would have allowed me to say goodbye. There is no GOOD way for your soulmate to die. It is all bad!!!! Until someone who has loved with all their heart and soul loses their loved one.....THEY CANNOT UNDERSTAND. Period.
It has been 45days since he left me and I hate my world.
Comment by lost on April 19, 2015 at 9:44am
I have an aunt who is in her late 70's and who just got married for the 5th time. 3 of her husbands have died. She told me that after her last husband of 25yrs passed that she thought she would never get married again. A year went by and husband #5 came along. She said until this man came into her life she never knew what the word soulmate really meant. She said she never felt like this about another person. She is so happy now. WOW....at 78 find your soulmate.
Comment by George H on April 19, 2015 at 9:23am
Anne j I know WHT u mean a man down the road from me who I bear has stop to see me more then who say they it was always .are and I so I rave know friends but I think I'm better off alone so I don't have to listen to people that haven't a clue what this hell is like
Comment by Trina Mamoon on April 19, 2015 at 12:52am

Hello All,

I fully agree with all here who say it is better to have loved and lost instead of never having loved this way and not knowing this pain. One of the first things my older sister told me when Joseph passed was that I was one of those fortunate ones who knew a deep and beautiful love. And one of our friends told me that the love Joseph and I shared was the kind poems are written about. I think the reason that we on this site are so deeply affected, and probably will be for a very long time, is because we loved deeply and were loved back in the same intense way.

The 19 years that I shared with Joseph were the most wonderful, meaningful, and happy years of my life, and I would NEVER trade those years for anything. That we are suffering this intense pain is due to the fact that the love we shared with our soulmate was very special, very precious.

How I wish that I had 20 or 30 more years with the love of my life, but that's not happening. Every time I feel this intense pain (like I am now), I tell myself that this pain is tribute to my love for Joseph. Millions of people die everyday, but only a fraction of them are remembered, mourned and grieved like this. That's the price of having loved so intensely.

Comment by Tildyc on April 19, 2015 at 12:31am
George- yep – the well meaning woman is still one of the unaffected. "she and her husband had a talk." " and she knows people who've already dealt with this and he covered quickly" Wow. It's soo insulting when they tell us how to handle our grief and pain. I know they mean well but there is absolutely no way for them to understand what this feels like. It does make me angry when other folk try to make light of my loss. I just have to try and remember that they have no clue.

And this is just ONE of the many reasons why I try and avoid people anymore.
Comment by Tildyc on April 18, 2015 at 10:17pm
I would not trade the life I had life with Mark for anything. I – we- are fortunate to be able to have loved that deeply. And from what I can tell – the deeper we have loved, the deeper this pain is. So I guess – that is supposed to be the trade off? I had rather not lost him so damn early. But I I am deeply thankful for the love we had.
Comment by George H on April 18, 2015 at 10:12pm
Just talk to a woman I know she told me all this good stuff I should to get on with my life then she told me that her and her husband had a talk about what to do if one should pass. I told her that all her talks and plans will mean nothing when the time comes she said I know a lot of people that lost there spouse and they seemed to get through it in a short time so I told her she has no clue until it happens to her which I hope it don't
 

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