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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

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Comment by Linda Engberg on January 29, 2017 at 2:28pm

What a beautiful picture Mel.

Comment by Mel Royer on January 29, 2017 at 9:41am

Nancy and Me at our happiest, which by the way was the entire 24 years we were lucky enough to be married. This picture along with others keep that special place in my heart always warm with the memories of Nancy

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 29, 2017 at 6:13am

I All,

Thanks for the comments of the picture of me and my beloved, Julian.

I just got this beautiful sign I keep in my kitchen.

Comment by Mary on January 29, 2017 at 12:05am
Thankyou every one for sharing. I read your comments and I know I'm not alone or "over exaggerating" how I feel. My feelings thoughts all are the same to you all. I feel alone even tho I have family and friends but they don't "get it" which I understand. My Neil was only 52. We had a life ahead of us. We have both been together since we were 18. I haven't just lost my best friend, life partner, father of our children ... But also I have lost my life... It's all do different now and my dream is shattered. My reality is shattered. It's been 9 months yet I still cry for Neil every day, I still yearn for the love of my life. He was my life. ❤️
Comment by morgan on January 28, 2017 at 11:40pm

Linda,  

Every single picture just shows such deep embedded love.  I look at your pictures and I know that look because I had it too.  SO sorry......one day we will be with them again.  I HAVE to believe that.  morgan  

Comment by morgan on January 28, 2017 at 11:37pm

Stacey,

You are doing all the right things.  Little steps, each one a victory.  Just get through a day and when it is hard get through a day go for an hour.  

And you are not crazy, I've had to convince myself and it took awhile but what I feel because my husband died is normal. The crying, the not knowing, the inability to talk to others and much more....its all normal for us.  Not crazy.  It comes with the territory.  And none of us could have possibly imagined what this would have been like before it happened and neither can those who think they are helping us with "solutions".  It just comes along when we lose the most important person in our life.  Keep writing......it helps.

Comment by Stacey White on January 28, 2017 at 10:39pm

Appreciate the comments.  Being on this site just for a couple of days does make me feel like I am not crazy.  

Today I get a call from a cousin wanting to know if I will have to sell my house.  I am barely figuring out how to pay the bills due today - much less thinking about tomorrow or any future anything.

I know people mean well - I wonder if I was one of those people in the past just because of the ignorance of losing someone so close to you.

Right now I am just trying to do one important thing a day and give myself kudos.  Might be a shower, or paying a bill due now, or cleaning up the kitchen, or fixing dinner for the kids.  

Night time is the worst - so quiet and lonely.   

Comment by Elynn m on January 28, 2017 at 10:04pm

Stacy, I know your frustration with others encouraging you to "move on".  They mean well, but really can't undrstand - until they go through something like this.  I still want to stay home and think about what great memories I have.  People are just now realizing that it's OK to ask how I'm coping with Joe's death. (It's been only 16 mos).

  One thing I've decided....I will always try to call anyone who's lost the love of their life...on a regular basis (weekly)

Comment by rachel_micele on January 28, 2017 at 9:41pm

I agree, what a beautiful picture Linda.

Comment by Denise on January 28, 2017 at 3:48pm
Linds. What a beautiful picture
 

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