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The Holiday Season and my loss 1 Reply

This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue

Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.

Lost my wife 14 Replies

It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Nov 12, 2018.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 3 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Fran Oct 19, 2018.

FAILING 9 Replies

next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Oct 4, 2018.

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Comment by Donna M Dowling-Hall on March 22, 2015 at 10:31pm

John T.  If you can, check your tax returns from the last year or two to see if you paid taxes on April 15th.  If that is the case, you can make a payment with the extension and lessen any balance that may be due.  Also after you file, you can call in or write in and ask for any penalty charge be abated based on your circumstances. 

Comment by Tildyc on March 22, 2015 at 9:52pm
Oh ya.... Taxes.... Forgot about that.
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Comment by morgan on March 22, 2015 at 9:49pm

JohnT,

Just FYI, I have filed an extension for three years running.  I just cant get my act together by 4/15 and I used to take care of them when my husband was alive.  

I have at times ball parked my tax due and you may end up with interest but its worth the extra if only to give yourself time to deal with some of the other more pressing issues like an inability to function.   Take it a step at a time.  Don't try to do it all at once.  I know how those notes she made are going to strike a chord in you so when it gets to be too much put it down.  Pace it between now and October.  The IRS doesn't have much room for how hard it is for us to do but take advantage of the extension.  As time passes you will be able to get through the necessary paperwork but only a little at a time.  Please take care.

Comment by Donna M Dowling-Hall on March 22, 2015 at 12:25pm

John T,  People file extensions to file all the time.  Just because you file late isn't an automatic red flag.  Filing the extension will give you until 10/15/2015 and you can file the extension through one of the online filing programs Like taxact or turbotax.

Comment by Leesa Lynch on March 22, 2015 at 7:51am

I miss my husband Matt every day im depressed sad angry and mad he was my soulmate my other half and now im only half alive i feel like there a big piece of me gone and i cant do any thing to change it 

Comment by Jon-Paul Ackerman on March 22, 2015 at 1:15am

Today I spent time at the church where we got married and had her funeral, and where mine will be held... There was no service, just spent time there. It was nice... familiar...

Comment by Tildyc on March 21, 2015 at 8:22pm
I hear you John T. I do not know what to say. Except that I know how you're feeling. Not much comfort I know. But I do.
Comment by Donna M Dowling-Hall on March 21, 2015 at 8:17pm

John, I did the same thing today.  I've been crying off and on all day.  The feeling of emptiness and loneliness is unbearable.  I am stuck in this endless loop of pain.   

I went out with my family to celebrate my sister's birthday.  I felt so depressed because my Jeremy will never have another birthday.  I went to the bathroom and cried. 

I too think that this is a nightmare that I someday will wake from and he will be there.

 

Comment by Tildyc on March 21, 2015 at 5:34pm
It's sooo senseless and stupid.
Comment by Tildyc on March 21, 2015 at 5:33pm
And since Thursday I've been going through another type of hell.

I just spent the last 3 days in the ER and then the hospital with the brother of my Mark. His brother is suffering from the same thing that my Mark was suffering from. But this time- the Dr. took the symptoms seriously and didn't just send him home to die like he did his brother- my Mark. I was there and made DAMN SURE the Dr. understood the levity of the situation.

Just walking into that same ER where my Mark died in front of me... I became nauseous, shakey and overwhelmed with anxiety. It was horrifying and surreal. I was so scared.

For Mark's brother- the last 3 days have been hospitalization, tests, labs and now- a 1/2 hr ago- a med-i-vac to Seattle. For the proper medical care. And I'm beyond grateful and relieved that his brother is going to be ok. But just sitting in the ER with Mark's brother and then his hospital room for 3 days and then to watch him carted off to the airport for transport to Seattle... It just makes me ask WHY WHY WHY couldn't the Dr. done the same for my Mark 6 wks ago???? It would of saved his life. He would be here with me now...... What the #%*!?!? I just want to disappear. I want to be swallowed up into a huge dark hole. I feel so bleak and hollow.

Once again- to be very clear- I'm so very pleased that his brother is going to be ok. I take nothing away from that. But what about my baby?! Why didn't the Dr. help my Mark????????
 

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