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The Holiday Season and my loss 1 Reply

This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue

Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.

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It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

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  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

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next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

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Comment by joe kelly on January 12, 2019 at 9:03am

Email I sent to my children last night after I saw a sign from my Love:

At about 8:40 tonight, something strange happened. As you all know, I switched rooms so only have the kitchen and a small lamp lit in the room I use. I went to the bathroom and before I turned on the bathroom light, something caught my eye as I passed our bedroom. I backed up to see what it was and saw a flicker of some sort. I walked into the room and saw many tiny flickers or tiny sparks on and off and it was if they were moving around. It was in about the same area where you guys were standing when your mother died. Not down by where the bed was, but about where your heads would be while you were standing there. I walked closer and said "Is that you?; I love you." I walked closer and it kept up, lasting about 30 seconds. That paper shade is all the way down, and the blackout curtains completely drawn and overlapped, so no light at all can come through, and there was no light from behind me that could had caused this either. So far I went back in about 4 times but it didn't happen again. I was just wondering if any of you guys had anything strange happen tonight.

Responses from two of my daughters:


"I definitely think it was a sign from mom! I got chills when I read it. Nothing happened for me tonight, but I often see cardinals and say "hi mom" when I do. I hope that you found what happens a little comforting, dad. Love you."


"Forms of light Dad...maybe that’s the key. Remember in church there was a powerful beam of light that quickly passed when the priest was blessing mom? Chuck had said at the time “that’s mom” and my friend even commented after the fact how remarkable it was. But I wonder if it’s in forms of light and spark that her energy can be revealed to us."


About that beam of light. The church was very crowded and many talked about it and even the priest who I talked to later on mentioned that a lot of people told him of it. I didn't take notice of it but did see some brightness at the time. I was too distraught I think at the time. I'm not sure if I had shared something about this in a previous post.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 8, 2019 at 4:04pm

Joe,

I feel the same way about my Husband. I have to be truthful, but after 6 years I can't fell his presence but I know he is with me. He is my "ENDLESS LOVE" and I will love him until the day I take my last breath.

Comment by joe kelly on January 8, 2019 at 3:42pm

For me, it's the absence of our two way physical relationship that tares me apart all day everyday.  I know she is with me all the time but I can't see, hear, touch and interact with her.  I know because of her unrelenting, unconditional love for me, since we were 16, that she will wait for me till I come to her.  We basically promised that to each other moments before she took her last breath in my arms.  I talk to her all day, every day.  I know she knows that I will come to her.  I tell her everyday that "I'll never let you go", "don't fret about not being able to show me you're here, but to be joyful knowing how much I love you as you watch my grief", and adding "keep trying if you're trying to send me a signal or sign of some kind".  There have been a couple of things that could be taken as signs of her sending me a signal, but, being the skeptic I am, they are not concrete enough for me to say that really is you.  She knows me as well as I know myself.  I'm beginning to think that perhaps she's saying to be more open to what she can do from her dimension and for me to try to learn how to let her get through to me, rather than wanting her to somehow do something she can't do as a spirit.  I know I'm rattling on here but these are my thoughts.

I don't care how much pain I suffer, I wouldn't even think of letting her go.  I wouldn't think of trying to get relief because to do that; I believe I would have to diminish my love for her to some degree and that will never happen.  Do I want to feel the pain I feel?  No.  But at the same time, I won't have it any other way because of the above sentence.  Morgan, if you believe that you will join him, you have to believe he is with you now.  

 

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 8, 2019 at 5:48am

Hi Morgan

As you know, our feeling mirror one another's. It has been six years or me also. I also found my Husband on the bathroom floor in a coma. He died three days later Hospice made his passing peaceful. I am surprised to hear that you who have had to pay Hospice. In Florida, their is no cost and I thought that was true in all states.

I had a grief counselor for 13 months with no charge. But at the end of the 13 months she told me I should seek the help of a therapist. I was lucky this was covered by Medicare. I still her every month.

Like you I am struggling living in this world without him by my side. He was world so to me my life ended with him but God will not take me to join him. I am losing faith in him because why does he leave me on this earth to suffer.

The only thing I celebrate is the Hospice Tree of Life Rememberance held every December. A ribbon is placed on three huge trees and a ribbon for everybody's lost ones. The ceremony is the only thing I look forward to in this miserable world. I will never get over his death until I join him. 

Comment by morgan on January 7, 2019 at 10:32pm

I can’t let go of him. It’s impossible. The memories are still so strong at certain parts of a day. I’ve tried for six years. This is the reality I never wanted to face. And now I’m having to face it. I’m struggling.

In three days they would’ve released him from the hospital with 23 staples in his stomach from his sternum down to his groin. And there was no provision for hospice because we couldn't afford paying for it.

In six days it will be my birthday. What’s to celebrate?

In 13 days he will have died. I found him on the bathroom floor.

I really don’t know how to get over this. Sorry to be so graphic and so upset but this is about the only place that I can write this kind of stuff and anybody will even care.

Some people just never get over losing the most important thing of all, The love that made their world revolve. Please let the universe come and get me. Please.....

Comment by joe kelly on January 6, 2019 at 8:30am

Jesse's Mom

Thank you for your lovely response and share.  Like many others I see here, you too have suffered for a long time and that is a fear of mine that I have.  I hope to reunite with my Love soon.  I will support my dear daughter in every way and I am hopeful that she lives for some years to come.  I assure you and all our suffering brothers and sisters here that the spirit will bail out of the body just before it believes there's a danger of death to the body whether it happens or not.  This is from someone (me), who is skeptical about everything.  I am a person who has to know before I believe anything.  The only things I firmly believe is that my Love loved me with all her heart and soul, that she is waiting for me to join her, (because} my OBE or NED (as you call it) was real.  No dream, no brain function.  My spirit left my body and returned to it.  That's not to say that I have any doubt my children love me, but it's not the same love that I have for my Love or my love for them, and I admit, in that order.  You will be reunited with Jesse and your infant someday.  

Love, Joe 

Comment by Jesse's Mom on January 5, 2019 at 12:47pm

Joe Kelly, I just read about your daughter and her illness, she will be in my prayers, along with strength for you to endure. I am so sorry. I don't know why some are chosen to endure so much....it does seem like an upside-down universe

Comment by Jesse's Mom on January 5, 2019 at 12:41pm

Joe Kelly...I am sorry for the loss of your dear wife.  Your writings about her and the love you both shared was truly beautifully expressed.

I lost my adult son in Oct of 2012. And an infant son in 1987.

I read your post in another section about your NDE. Those experiences always gives me hope to trudge through one more day of this insanity. Where so many people go on with their "normal" life and I am stuck in this pit of torment which will never end until my time comes.

Your insight that was shared resonated with me at a deep level. I have had several abilities rise since my son died. These came about spontaneously -- such as the ability to move an objects, mostly when I hold a weight, but if I get too excited, this can happen with objects that are hanging nearby. Also, both my son and myself knew he was going to pass that year. (He was killed by an inattentive driver who ran him over). This knowledge came to him by the way of knowings, and 3 days before he passed , he called me to his house and told me for certain "His life was going to be short". THis knowledge was temporarily removed from me until shortly after he passed. I was furious with I don't know what -- we had tried to live as God desired (an all out effort) but still we were slaughtered. 

I think your thoughts on a Creator were intriguing. Recently I have looked into some Lakota Native American Spirituality which expresses some of what you wrote. Black Elk Speaks and a subsequent book on his life were of great reading. I think the connection to nature and the Vision Quest concepts you may find of interest. 

Sending you gentle thoughts.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 2, 2019 at 9:59am

If there is a God, why so much human suffering and you know I can get a answer from anyone including the Church of God.

Comment by Nancy on January 1, 2019 at 10:06am

I'm so sorry Joe.  I've been told God never gives us more than we can handle.  I don't believe that many days.   There are a lot of things I don't believe anymore since I lost my husband at the age of 67.  Bless you and your daughter.   

 

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