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I miss my Mom!

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Comment by M Adams on May 5, 2019 at 10:18pm

Just came across this quotation from the wonderful British actress Miriam Margolyes.  Very devoted to both her parents, she took time away from her career to nurse her mother through illness, and later had this to say:

” [on her mother] She took centre-stage in our lives. She was the star. And when I hear pieces of music that my mother liked, I weep. I think it's true that the people you've loved in your life never leave you, because seeds of that love always remain flowering somewhere.”

Comment by Brett Bowman on April 26, 2019 at 10:37am

The triggers are one of the hardest thing. Just hearing a song, driving down a familiar street, a smell, a television show, can all bring back a painful memory. Even if they invoke a nice memory, it still hurts because of lost time, not being able to have something that had always been there.

The goal and hope is  that one day those triggers will not hurt so much, that they will even make us smile. But it's hard to get from point A to point B. All we can do is try and to realize that there are things in life that we cannot control.

Comment by Brett Bowman on April 26, 2019 at 10:20am

Sue, if we can ever answer any questions that you may have about what you are experiencing, please let us know. Everyone's story is different, but the feeling of loss that we all have is familiar. This is a group of people who understand.

Comment by Brett Bowman on April 26, 2019 at 10:18am

Avi, it's amazing how the Lord took care of both you and your dad. As happy as I am for you, I think I may be even more happy for your dad. This gives him a reason to get up in the morning, and gives him someone to focus that lost love on.

You personally are experiencing the true joy of the circle of life. You will always miss your mom, but remember what I always say... find something to focus on. Find the one thing that gives you purpose and a reason to go on. You have found it in a wonderful place. Your little girl is a part of your mom (literally). People live on through their children and grandchildren.

God Bless You. 

Comment by Avi on April 26, 2019 at 5:42am

Guys my little girl has moved on with me now after spending 8 months at her maternal grand mother's place. Now me, my wife and my father lives together. My father who was alone after my mother's death has a new hope and motivation to live now as his grand daughter keeps him busy all day. 

I also have a meaning to life because when her tiny hands touches me I feel on heaven. I was extremely demotivated because of guilt but now I have a reason to live. 

Sue, as you lost your mother recently I wish comfort for you. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on April 23, 2019 at 11:38pm

Sue, I am so sorry. I know. Believe me, we know. And I wish that I could say something more.

Something horrible happened to me today. The worst possible thing that could have happened, beyond losing my dog. I'm not sick or anything, but my world came crashing down. I would say more, but I can't talk about it.

I'm asking for prayers.

Comment by M Adams on April 22, 2019 at 11:16am

Thanks for thinking of me Avi — hope you’re doing well and enjoying your little girl.  This is the first Easter without my mother. Losing her has really changed things, it seems that she and I (and my husband) were the ones who cared about celebrating such occasions, the others not so much.  In the end I decided not to travel to my father’s home, since it is not that meaningful to the family there and it is hard on me ... and expensive flying to a different country, of course.  So I stayed home and had a quiet day, remembering Easter through the years with my mother and with my husband — it was good for me to think about them.  I put out my husband’s wooden Easter eggs and some other things that I associate with the day.  My mother gave me two vases which apparently were meant for just one flowering branch, so they are on the table as well.

Comment by Theresa on April 22, 2019 at 4:38am
Hi Avi
Hanging in there days go by months go by and I just can’t believe this year will be four years I miss my mom every day I still cry but I know I have to live my life and keep going how are you doing I hope everything is going well with your new baby
Comment by Brett Bowman on April 21, 2019 at 7:12pm

Hi, Avi. Happy Easter to all. It's status quo for me.

Comment by Avi on April 18, 2019 at 11:46am

Hi All, 

Hows everybody doing? Theressa, Brett, Adams, Virginia?

 

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