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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Avi on November 19, 2018 at 3:56am

Hi Brett

Your words give me hope that I will be with my mom someday. This is enough motivation to live. 

Virginia, sometimes we do feel that God has done lot of injustice to us but if you look around there are people who suffer lot more than us. Not sure if our mothers can see us, but if yes then she will be upset to see you getting demotivated to live. Family is important but you can consider anybody as your family if you wish to including me as your younger brother, friend anything. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on November 19, 2018 at 12:49am

Virginia, do you think I feel any joy right now? I don't. But I think about how much my mom loved me and how much it would hurt her if i harmed myself. She could not have led a happy life if she knew that was in my future. She would have held on to life with all her might so that I would not be without her, but that wasn't an option. As much as my mom loved me, her body broke down. She had to go. I told her that I would be okay because she needed to hear that. And now, I am going to do everything possible to be okay because I want to fulfill that promise. And more than that, I deserve to be okay, and you deserve to be okay. Those negative voices that you are hearing are your enemy. The answer is to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Find happiness where you can. Make someone happy. Be nice to a total stranger. Never give up. We will be with our mom's again, but let it be in God's time.

Comment by Virginia G on November 18, 2018 at 7:25pm

There’s no joy without her and I wouldn’t want any.

its the only answer

Comment by Brett Bowman on November 17, 2018 at 2:24am

Virginia, you so often end your posts with something ominous. You are trying to say something and it is coming across loud and clear. Don't wish yourself dead. Try to live while you're alive. Find joy where you can. Never give up.

Comment by Virginia G on November 17, 2018 at 12:15am

Some songs have popped into my head for no reason but that are appropriate.  I don’t even listen to the radio anymore so it’s not like I heard them recently.  I wasn’t trying to think of songs either.  First it was I can’t smile without you by Barry Manilow, then People who need people by Barbara Streisand, now today, A Mother and Child Reunion by Paul Simon and I sure hope that one means something and soon.

Comment by Brett Bowman on November 16, 2018 at 11:58pm

I love the Doors. Jim Morrison is just the coolest. And I love that song. It's about feeling alone in a crowd. I can relate.

Virginia, why would God tell you that you deserve to be alone? I think it is quite the opposite. You are telling yourself that you deserve to be alone. If you are anything like me, you feel alone because the center of your life, the person who loves you the most is gone. Anyone would feel alone. The one person I couldn't bear to lose is gone. And there are no phone calls, no letters, no weekend visits, she's just gone. Is she aware of me? Maybe so, but I can't feel that.

I have read books about heaven but we won't know for sure until we get there. The bible says very little about what heaven is actually like. Jesus did promise in the Sermon on the Mount that there would be comfort for those who mourn. I believe that. Jesus said that God is spirit. I believe that in heaven, we will be given a true understanding of what God is. I think every tree, every blade of grass, is alive, and that you will feel a part of it all. I believe that's what God is.I have no idea what goes on there, though I am pretty sure it beats the crap out of this life. All I know is that my mother is there. That makes me long for the day that I get to be with her. I think that when we die, Jesus himself greets us, and that you will never feel so loved, and so forgiven as when you are face to face with him. I think in that moment it all makes sense. And that it will make sense forever. And best of all, we never have to say goodbye again.

You know, the grass is always greener on the other side. You say that the only people who love you are your family. Well, you're one up on me.

We do live without them. We are doing so right now. It may not feel like living, but remember this, every second that ticks away is one second closer to going home. The clock starts ticking the second we are born. Every day that passes is one day of your life that is behind you. You are closer to heaven with each passing day.

Bluebell, I miss you.

Comment by Virginia G on November 16, 2018 at 11:22pm

I am realizing the only people that truly love me are my family.

So how am I expected to live without them?

Comment by Virginia G on November 14, 2018 at 12:28am

I am thinking God is trying to tell me I deserve to be alone.  

Theresa I know the Doors but don’t like them.  Im old.

And I think the penny was from your Mom.

Brett, I liked your line, “honking load of crap”.  

And who cares what others think.  Cry whenever you want as long as you want.  

Has anyone read any books on Heaven that gave hope?

  

Comment by Theresa on November 13, 2018 at 5:30am

Avi I believe when you are talking to God your mom hears you she is right there.

I also do not get any signals, but pay closer attention.

I was praying to her one night because someone close to me is not well, and I said please mom help, please ask God, and I was doing this as I was putting clothes in the dryer and on the bottom of the washer was a bright shiny penny, and I said you do hear me mom don't you, she used to have a large jug filled with pennies.  Or maybe its just because it fell out of a pocket, but I didn't see anything in there with a pocket, however its all in the way you want to perceive it I guess.

Comment by Avi on November 13, 2018 at 1:42am

I also talk to God now at my home or in temple. It makes me feel that I am talking to my mom. 

I did not receive any signals which make me feel that my mother is nearby but I still believe that she can listen me. 

 

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