Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?

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Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?

This group was started because many are hurting so bad that their faith has been effected.  This is a place you can vent or even ask questions that brother you. Can the Bible or God help you through your grief?  Who is the cause of death? 

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Suggested Reading: 2 Replies

The following list of brochures can be read on line at the links providedWhen Someone You Love Dies - My suggestion is to pay particular attention to the chapter, How Can I Live With My Grief?Lasting PeaceGOOD NEWS From GODContinue

Started by Brenda Ann. Last reply by Brenda Ann Jan 3, 2019.

The Death Of Jesus and Our Faith 1 Reply

The most important death to ever occur can have a huge impact on our faith.When we lose someone we can reflect on the promises made in the Bible and that can give us a wonderful hope for the future.Follow the link below to watch a video about the Death of JesusRemember Jesus’ DeathContinue

Started by Dennis C.. Last reply by Dennis C. Mar 18, 2017.

WAVERING FAITH 3 Replies

I will say my faith has waivered a little recently because i have been in bad health and I keep asking God why?  I do think its a test of faith, but honestly my faith will always be strong and is a part of me, I still grieve about my parents, but I'm ok and they would want me to live richly and happily....I'm doing ok, but yes it is a test of faith when your going thru illness with no light at the end of the tunnel, but I'm getting better now and thats all that matters....we see the reason for it later onContinue

Started by Rachel Lynn Schuler. Last reply by Brenda Ann Nov 11, 2016.

WAVERING FAITH

I will say my faith has waivered a little recently because i have been in bad health and I keep asking God why?  I do think its a test of faith, but honestly my faith will always be strong and is a part of me, I still grieve about my parents, but I'm ok and they would want me to live richly and happily....I'm doing ok, but yes it is a test of faith when your going thru illness with no light at the end of the tunnel, but I'm getting better now and thats all that matters....we see the reason for it later onContinue

Started by Rachel Lynn Schuler Nov 9, 2016.

Are you having trouble facing the loss of your mate? Even if your faith has been shaken, a close examination of what the Bible really says, may help.

APPEARED INFacing the Loss of Your MateTHE Bible is clear: A husband is to “love his wife as he does himself.” A wife likewise should “have deep respect for her husband.” Both are to carry out their roles as “one flesh.” (Eph. 5:33; Gen. 2:23, 24) Over time, the attachment a couple have to each other gains strength, as does their love for each other. You might compare it to the roots of two trees growing side by side. The feelings of a happily married husband and wife knit and intertwine.But what if the husband or the wife dies? Then that bond, unbreakable in life, is broken. The surviving widow or widower is often left with a blend of heartache, loneliness, and maybe even some anger or guilt. During her marriage of 58 years, Daniella knew many who lost their mates. * But after her husband died, she said: “I never understood this experience before. There is no way to comprehend it until you go through it.”PAIN THAT SEEMS UNENDINGSome researchers hold that no stress is more severe than that resulting from the death of a beloved mate. Many bereaved ones agree with that. Millie’s husband died many years ago. In describing her life as a widow, she says, “I feel I am a cripple.” She was referring to her emotional state, caused by the loss of her mate of 25 years.Susan used to feel that widows who for years mourned the loss of their husband expressed excessive grief. Then her husband of 38 years died. Over 20 years have passed, yet she says, “I think of him every day.” Tears often flow because she misses him so much.The Bible confirms that the pain of losing a mate is both cruel and long lasting. When Sarah passed away, Abraham, her husband, “came in to bewail Sarah and to weep over her.” (Gen. 23:1, 2) Despite having faith in the resurrection, Abraham felt intense grief when his loved one died. (Heb. 11:17-19) After his dear wife Rachel died, Jacob did not soon forget her. He spoke tenderly about her to his sons.—Gen. 44:27; 48:7.What lesson should we learn from these…Continue

Started by Brenda Ann Mar 10, 2014.

Having a very hard time dealing with the death of a loved one?

Has someone you loved fallen asleep in death?Are you still grieving?Do you need help in dealing with your grief?Is there hope for the dead?If so, what is it?How can we be sure?Can we turn to the Bible for answers?  Is it possible to trust God?Continue

Started by Brenda Ann Jun 18, 2012.

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Comment by Dennis C. on June 18, 2016 at 7:49am

Mary Wolf

The Bible does NOT teach the doctrine of eternal torment and hell.

Here is what it says.

  • Ac 24:15 And I have hope toward God, which hope these men also look forward to, that there is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous
  • Joh 5:28 Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out

  • Isa 26:19 “Your dead will live. My corpses will rise up. Awake and shout joyfully, You residents in the dust! For your dew is as the dew of the morning, And the earth will let those powerless in death come to life.

As you can see, the Bible gives us HOPE. When we lose a loved one in death our HOPE is one of LIFE, Reunion, Resurrection.

This can give us comfort. Of course it does not take our pain, loneliness, or loss away, but Comfort is precious and it does give us HOPE. 

Comment by Patty on June 17, 2016 at 1:33pm

Mary Wolf, I can't believe that the man at the YMCA said what he did.  Does he stand in God's place?  I can't believe a true Christian with Jesus in his heart could say that.  I am so sorry for your loss. I loss my only child, my daughter.  I feel very alone too.  I have faith in God but am still so very depressed.  I know we will be together after I'm gone from this world but the thought of having to face what could possibly be many years without my daughter is so overwhelming.  But like Job I try to say "Though He slay me, yet will I hope in Him."  

Comment by Patty on June 4, 2016 at 11:16am

Thank you, Dennis.  Being reunited with Caitlin is what keeps me going.  Great ecstasy is exactly what it will be.

Comment by Dennis C. on June 4, 2016 at 6:24am
Patty,

I am so very sorry for the loss and pain that you are experiencing. One of the things that comforts me is the hope of being reunited with my loved ones. I love this Bible account:

Mark 5:42 (nwt-E) — And immediately the girl rose and began walking. (She was 12 years old.) And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.

The parents in this account had just experienced the death of their beautiful 12 year old daughter. But I LOVE how the Bible describes their emotions when they are reunited with her.

We CAN enjoy that same experience in the future.

This doesn't take our pain away....but it does give us Hope, Comfort, and Strength.
Comment by Patty on May 31, 2016 at 1:25pm

Brenda, I know my Bible pretty well.  My Bible is well worn, highlighted and underlined. When I say why did this have to happen, I know that I will not get an answer to the question this side of heaven but I understand as C.S. Lewis so aptly put it  “Fallen man is not simply an imperfect creature who needs improvement: he is a rebel who must lay down his arms.”  As long as we are in this fallen state we can expect hardships.  I know Jesus as my Savior and that He will come a second time and put all things right.  I know I am justified by grace through faith. I think it's hard for us when we have such a tragic loss to understand why it happened to us and not someone else (a question that simply comes from a despairing heart).  I've always known in my heart of hearts that Caitlin belonged to her heavenly Father.  My angst just comes from the simple fact that I miss her so terribly.  So terribly that sometimes I feel I can't stand it another minute.  But I know I must because I too belong to my Father in heaven.  I thank you for taking so much time to talk to me.  You're are obviously a very caring person.

Comment by Brenda Ann on May 31, 2016 at 1:04pm

Dear Patty,

You said, “I talk to God about it a lot.  I certainly don't understand why this had to happen (besides the fact that we live in a fallen world).”

It makes my heart happy that you talk to God about all this and that you know that we live in a “fallen world”. Actually the Bible says, at 1 John 5:19, 20, “We know that we originate with God, but the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one. 20 But we know that the Son of God has come, and he has given us insight so that we may gain the knowledge of the one who is true. And we are in union with the one who is true, by means of his Son Jesus Christ.” Yes, this world system of things is ruled by “the wicked one” Satan. But, Jesus came to buy us back from sin and death. (John 17:3) “This means everlasting life, their coming to know you, the only true God, and the one whom you sent, Jesus Christ.” We need to study the Bible and pray for understanding.

 

Why is God permitting wickedness, sickness and death?

How did the world come to be in Satan’s hands?

When and how will God rid this world of Satan?

The Bible at Revelation 21:3 & 4 says there will be no more death. When and how will this happen?

 

All these questions can be answered by a study of the Bible. Please watch these videos:

Why Study The Bible?

What Happens At A Bible Study?

Does God Have a Name?

Please give me a call at 513-442-4527 and leet me know what you think of the videos.

Brenda

Comment by Brenda Ann on May 31, 2016 at 12:26pm

Dear Patty,

I think your theory, “One theory I have is that it helps because it feels like someone else is helping to carry the load” is absolutely right on. I have always loved the song:

Lean On Me Lyrics

Sometimes in our lives
We all have pain
We all have sorrow
But, if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow

Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
Till I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

You can call on me brother
When you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem
That you'll understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Please, swallow your pride
If I have things
You need to borrow
For no one can fill
Those of your needs
That you won't let show

If there is a load
You have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me, call me
If you need a friend, call me
If you need a friend
If you ever need a friend
Call me
Call me

 

Call me at 513-442-4527

Comment by Patty on May 27, 2016 at 3:00pm

Brenda, thank you for your kind words.  I do have a few close friends who let me talk when I need to.  One theory I have is that it helps because it feels like someone else is helping to carry the load.  It's such a heavy load to bear.  I talk to God about it a lot.  I certainly don't understand why this had to happen (besides the fact that we live in a fallen world).  I feel like my only child was singled out sometime.  Sometimes I wonder if God thought I was a bad mother (that one doesn't stick around too long because my daughter and I had and still have a close relationship).  Thank you for listening and responding.

Comment by Brenda Ann on May 26, 2016 at 12:10pm

Dear Patty,

     I am so so sorry that you lost your daughter to the thoughtlessness of another person thinking only of themselves. Still it is good that you are here and able to talk about it.

     Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.”

     Please feel free to email me anytime you want to talk.

Always,

Brenda

mawmaw1591@gmail.com

Comment by Patty on May 15, 2016 at 12:03pm

My faith was tested when my only child was killed because of an impaired driver.  But I knew it wasn't God's "fault".  The person who drank made the decision that ultimately took her life.  Now I feel God is the only one I have that I can always go to and always understands.  I also know that she is safe with Him because as 2 Corinthians says to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.  And Philippians says to be with Christ is better by far.  I just wish I could go be with her.  My certainty of her well being doesn't make my missing her any better.  It's been close to 6 years and I still feel I haven't taken a full breath.

 

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