Compounded grief with existing anxiety and depression.

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Compounded grief with existing anxiety and depression.

During the tragic loss of a loved one or having gone through several tragedies , be it death of a loved one, divorce , personal health issues, or getting older , ect. Sometimes the stress and depression compounded by grief can be debilitating and it may have us feel as if we are mourning our own deaths while we are grieving the loss of our loved ones , We feel as if our own lives are over , Being in this mode can make recovery a longer more confusing process for some. It can be uncomfortable to talk about however with all the postings I have read.. it seems to be a common thread for quite a few, myself included . My wish for everyone to find peace if you are in this catagory . And my hope is that there are not too many who fall under this catagory... However if you do , You are not alone. ((( HUGS))) to all !

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This is the first time, since my dads death in March of 2012, that I have been on any type of site like this. My dad was 56 when he passed away from A liver disease. I came on this site because my…Continue

Started by Kristi. Last reply by Survivor17 Mar 25, 2016.

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Comment by Survivor17 on December 14, 2013 at 2:54pm

Nancy, There are always gonna be good and bad days ... I have experienced them both myself... You are doing the right thing by keeping moving when you can , expending that energy helps and gives you feeling of accomplishment and moving forward... taking your meds at the right time , right dose is also important .

Comment by Survivor17 on December 14, 2013 at 2:48pm

Its been three weeks today since moms passing and today I had the worst morning anxiety ever!, I woke up in a gasp of panic with so many negative thoughts flooding my head at once...Sometimes I feel as if I am drowning ; (
I try to live in the present to help me get beyond my grief and depression but so many stressors and worries about my future are pulling me to the darkness . I wish I could see that light at the end of the tunnel or even a slight glimmer . 

Comment by Survivor17 on December 12, 2013 at 8:04pm

Nancy , That is wonderful!  Good going girl : ) It is a great feeling to face fear and come out the other side unscaved... You got through it and now those fabulous endorphins are floating around from that feeling of self esteem and accomplishment . Sure the initial euphoria will calm down a bit , and you may feel the anxiety come back from something else but when it does you can regain some of those feelings again by looking in the mirror and reminding yourself of that particular moment 

Thank you for sharing , xoxo  

Comment by dream moon JO B on December 12, 2013 at 3:43pm

i feal lk u dia grief pain or bone pain i dnt no wish is wish iwsh is wish i dnt sm of painrelif iv had off dr has hd be a bt loopy it tms thn again sm of fmly alwedy thng im a bit of nutkase thy 

my dad kpt me mum gong he did he wz strng 1 i dnt thng grief cud hrt us as bd as ths

it dnt hlp xmas on way 

jo

Comment by Dia -Ayesha on December 12, 2013 at 8:18am
I'm in so much pain since my beloved mum passed away. I don't cry for myself as much as I cry for her. I loved her more than anybody , anything else in this world. Her pain, suffering, hardships haunt me. Where did you go away ma ? I'm lost without you.
Comment by Survivor17 on December 11, 2013 at 10:38pm

On another note more personal... I can totally feel all your pain , from the dreams , to the holiday blues , feeling like crap , crying my eyes till they are the size of golf balls, feeling hopeless and alone ...

I hope everyone finds some peace tonight and in the mornings ahead , Jaynee no need to apologize for venting at all that is what this place is for  , Like Jo B said On here you can scream!!!scream!!scream!!

Comment by Survivor17 on December 11, 2013 at 10:30pm

Hey Everyone, Oh my gosh so much pain we endure in life ... its bad enough we lose our loved ones but to have to deal with the physical effects of grief on top of the emotional is the pits ! 

I am getting from all the research I have been doing that anxiety is a big part of the grieving and if you already suffer from a pre-existing condition , losing someone can trigger your anxiety and exacerbate your symptoms. UGH... Also anxiety can lead to depression and vice versa , 

What I have read about the higher anxiety in the AM is that Cortisol which is what produces the adrenaline is building up in our bodies over night ,Cortisol is at its lowest late night but then as we sleep gains a little more and then peaks in the AM , its a mechanism to wake us , However if you are grieving or suffer from an anxiety disorder it can feel more like a panic response instead normal waking up with energy. 

Think about one of those days when you woke up and had a ton of energy and could not wait to start your day... that is the same energy that is produced only when we are grieving or depressed we perceive that energy differently. 

It's pretty vicious because the only way to get rid of that energy build up is to get up out of bed and expend that energy somehow. But when you are depressed from grieving you are emotionally exhausted so you want to stay in bed... its like your body and mind fighting each other . 

I don't know if you all feel it but when i wake up and i am having that nasty anxiety I don't even try to fight it anymore , I sometimes have to push myself to get out of bed but when i do and start doing tasks or take a shower ect... some of the anxiety subsides ( not all) but it lets up a bit and when my anxiety lets up a bit my depression gives me small breaks as well . 

I know nutrition has a lot to do with it as well , foods you put in the belly can raise and or lower the Cortisol . 

Comment by dream moon JO B on December 11, 2013 at 3:22pm

it is jayne 2 day i hd 1 of thm dayz 1 of thm mlt dwn days coz of xmas cmn dnt hlp 

coz alt of pepl haz died ths yr as welll as lst yr

pan in my leg arm is plyng up i jst nead 2 shot it out on hear 

it least on hear i cn screm scream screm screem wear i cn say hw i feal we can say hw we feal

Comment by Jaynee on December 11, 2013 at 3:05pm

Grief is always worse in the morning for me, although, I'm not sure why.

I hate the holidays and would just like to hibernate though them, but I guess that wouldn't do me any good.. as every month in the year (except for November) has either the birthday of a loved one that has passed or the anniversary of a death so I never really have a good time of year. I have lost 11 people in the last 15 years (8 of which were immediate family members) I have a lot of anxiety, panic attacks and depression to deal with too. I seem to cry about everything now a days. If I see an accident on the news, I cry because I know that someone is going to get that call that their loved one has died and their life will change forever.. especially around the holidays.

I haven't celebrated Christmas in 15 years and I am sure this year won't be any different.

I guess the best we can hope for is just to get though it. That, in itself, is a victory for me.

Sorry for venting.

God Bless all of you

Comment by Lynn Williams on December 10, 2013 at 5:27pm
I feel like that every morning. I even sweat from the anxiety. This grieving effects everything emotional and physical. My friend who also lost her daughter told me it will gradually ease but it takes a long time. She keeps telling me it will get easier.
 

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