Being the Other Woman/Other Man

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Being the Other Woman/Other Man

This is for anyone who has lost their lover to death and you were the other woman/other man in their life. We have to grieve in silence. I can't find any support groups and feel like I'm the only one going through this situation

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Struggling 4 Replies

I was in a relationship with a man who had a long term girlfriend of 17 years.  This past weekend he committed suicide.  I am struggling and trying to process this as well as keep my family life…Continue

Started by Michelle Michelle. Last reply by Michelle Michelle Oct 24.

So many questions 1 Reply

Last weekend I found out that the man who was my lover and best friend for 10 years has died. Not only is he dead...he was murdered, nearly 2 months ago and I had been so busy and disconnected from…Continue

Started by Amy R. Last reply by Emmyk Sep 4.

I lost a loved one, what now? 2 Replies

Hello, I'm new here. He had a heart attack while with me, I had to call the wife to tell her what happened but denied that I was the other woman. I had to grieve on my own. There was one other person…Continue

Started by Maia. Last reply by Maia Aug 3, 2018.

This has been so hard.. 4 Replies

My relationship started 30 years ago...we knew each other in h.s. We both went our separate ways...talked thru the years..had other marriages..but we connected again two years ago.we both were in…Continue

Started by Lori. Last reply by Krista L Aug 3, 2018.

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Comment by Annie M on October 16, 2014 at 1:19pm

Dave, It will be 9 months on the 21st for me and I can tell you that it does get easier.  As life goes on, and it must, I find myself thinking less about my guy and more about what I am going to do to make the most out of the rest of my life.  I'm 72 and probably don't have that many more years to do my best but every day I do try to keep busy and look for ways to be helpful to those that need help.  It isn't an easy road but one we have to travel if we want to ever be normal again.  One regret, out of many, that I have is that I wasn't more present in our relationship.  I always thought there would be more time but then all of a sudden there wasn't any more.  That relationship changed me to the core and I'll never be the same again.  Please know, Dave, that my prayers are with you to get through this a day at a time and that you come out on the other side of this a person that your lady could be proud of.  God bless and keep you, Annie M  

Comment by Annie M on August 4, 2014 at 12:48pm

Does everyone on this discussion forum know that what we are experiencing is called "disenfranchised grief"?

Comment by Cathy Richardson on February 11, 2013 at 10:06am

Thank you Melisa, he was my best friend too. We had dated when we were younger, I was 19 and he was 22 and then we broke up. We didn't see each other for 25 years but I found him and e-mailed him. The sparks were instant again between us. He was diagnosed with brain cancer one year into our relationship. I miss him every day. It's incredibly hard to grieve in silence. I cry alot in my car or at night when my husband is asleep.

Comment by Melisa C on February 11, 2013 at 10:03am

I feel for you... I haven't a lover pass away, but if you are in that situation, it must be very hard. You have to grieve alone, can't share it with anyone. I send you good energy your way and be strong.

 

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Vicki left a comment for Nicole
"Hi Nicole. I am so sorry for your loss and suffering. I have been on here for almost 4 years, since loosing my husband suddenly as well. Just like you we had a huge life time of plans for the future. Even arguing who the grandkids are gonna like…"
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"I just saw you posted this is 2016. Hopefully you're doing better now that some time has passed. I hope you got married and I hope you have been able to cope better over the last few years. I hope things have been better for you and I wish you…"
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"Hello Allen, Go to "Lost MY Spouse" and read through some of the posts.  There are some of us who share pretty regularly and respond with caring identification with each other.  You're not alone.  Grief of losing tho…"
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"I too wish you didn't have to be here.  I lost my wife on Jan.21, 2018 and wish I could say it gets better as time goes on, but for me it's just keeps getting worse.  We were together since age 16, close to 52 years together and…"
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"Linda, I am so sorry you have had to join our grieving group.  Each of us know your sorrow and we all grapple with how to deal with the worst thing we could ever have to deal with.  On January 21st 2013 my husband doc 35 years (knew him…"
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