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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Michelle W on August 19, 2012 at 12:08pm
Nicole,
I understand the pain you feel. I love my seventeen year old son nine months ago ..,, it feels like yesterday... Time keeps going by but I still sit here in disbelief.., I miss him every moment of everyday..,, he was my on special sunshine..,,and he knew it,,, I was so proud of him..,,, it hurts do much to know he will never enjoy all the hard work and things he's accomplished..my daughter is nineteen and hopefully starting school this year.,,, she had to put it off for a year...,sending hug to you and your family
Comment by Nicole Moreno on August 19, 2012 at 1:31am

hello to all. Today marks the 12 week mark of the last time my life was "normal" and "happy". I lost my husband of 16 years on Memorial Day. The Saturday prior to the holiday was so good. The Sunday before the holiday was not. Then I came home on the holiday to find my husband, my best friend gone -- -  This past week has been so incredibly difficult. I miss him so very much! I wish so much that I could go back in time and change at all! I hope and pray everyday that my husband is at peace and that he is in such a better place than we are. I just wish there was a way to know that for sure. I am so empty and so loney even though I have an amazing group of friends for support and I also have my incredible 16 year old son who is so strong. My son starts his sophmore year in 2 days and I just know my husband would be so proud.

I am so sad, lonely, mad and in incredible denial over this whole ordeal!

 

Comment by Kali Grainger on August 17, 2012 at 12:14pm

Today we bury my fiance's ashes... I wish we could have done it right after the funeral but his mom wants to bury him with his grandma. My stomach is in knots and even though I know he is gone it hurts so much. Our daughter is too young to know what is going on today which in a way is a good thing but I wish she had more time to get to know him so she could remember him...

Comment by Dick on August 13, 2012 at 9:23am

Today was the last time I saw my son alive one year ago. Please say a prayer for Danny and my family. We are in pain.

http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/video/daniel-my-son-you-will-alwa...

Comment by A. Buyten on August 11, 2012 at 7:25pm

It's coming close to a year that my babe has passed. I am adapting to panic attacks without meds. But I am having a hard time because these are the months that we met and September when she passed. She had a son that passed in these months too. And I remember what a hard time she had. Now I know what she was going through. Not easy and the hardest thing ever in my life.

Comment by Kali Grainger on August 11, 2012 at 1:01pm

Still can't understand how or why this happened to us.... We were just starting our lives together, had a beautiful baby girl. Now he is just gone and I never get to kiss him or touch him again.. my daughter never gets to know her daddy. I feel sick inside all day everyday and my heart hurts in a way I could never describe. If I didn't have my baby girl I don't know where I would be...

Comment by Marti Shaffer on August 9, 2012 at 4:53pm

Haven't been on for awhile but it is only 15 days until one of my sons murderers gets sentenced. I have been a huge ball of emotion, anger, fear and just plain missing my son. I miss his strength that he brought to our family, i miss his smile, his laugh and his beautiful bear hugs..... i cry so easy and it has been almost 2 yrs. It seems like the shock is gone but the pain is still so fresh in my heart. I dont think i will ever stop missing him. i know i won't!!! My son was also shot 7 times, it is terrible that you,samantha, had to witness that...

Comment by dream moon JO B on August 8, 2012 at 3:55pm

i woz at another funral last weak a babys 1 wish is sad coz the baby never had a life iv bean to a lot of funnrals over the years familys and nbours and freinds iv lost and evry funnrall seams to get harder espesely family 1s my dads woz very hard and so woz the babys that wood of bean a great great great cuzen he died still born the baby and we all had to kiss the tiny litel coffen good by wish woz very sad

Comment by Kylie Loraine McCallum on July 31, 2012 at 2:17am
I lost my 17 Year old brother just 2 weeks ago. I cant sleep, i feel like my family is ruined. Its so hard burying a younger sibling. Im only 20 and i wish it could have been me. My brother was walking along the side of the railroad tracks listening to his ipod and was hit and killed on impact. It was my mothers birthday and 2 days before his 18th birthday. Its so hard to hear ppl say things like "stupipd he was on the railroad tracks anyways" or whatever they wanna say. ppl are so.judgemental. but my grandma died just 17 days before this and austin couldnt sleep Well since her death. The whole thing just.creeps me out because i feel like he was sleep walking or hallucinating due to lack of sleep. But well never really know. An undercover Cop even came to my house because the cornor didnt know whether to call it accident or suicide. Even though he wasnt mangled just had some broken bones in his skull (most ppl who kill themselves thru train walk down the middle of the tracks or lay on the tracks). The conductor, the only witness even said he was on the side and looked back right at last minute. I dont know How to move on with life.
Comment by dream moon JO B on July 23, 2012 at 3:08pm

i no how u feal maria my dad died march this yer it is still not sinking in yet that his gone my last words to him on that horbel ward ill sea u tomrowo dad i i nealy got kicket out of that ward coz i woz complaing to much coz all the nurse wer doing woz gosping all i got told if i dont stop complaing they wer going to get the police to throw me out

 

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