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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by megan blais on August 31, 2010 at 4:29pm
On July 3, 2010 I was asleep in bed my parents were in Las Vegas my sister was at her house and my brother and my brother from another mother were on there way home from Arizona in other words i was home alone. I got a knock on the door about 11a.m i was still asleep cause i had been up all night calling my brother the last text message i had sent him was at 4:32 am and i asked "are you on your way home yet?" i open the door and there was 3 highway patrol men at my door they said to me "can we come inside and sit you down there is something we have to tell you" i didn't think anything of it i let them in and they sat me down and they said "do you know Tyler Blais and Darrin Elwood?" and i immediately started crying and said "what hospital are they in?" and they said "the Payson hospital" i said "how bad is it are they going to be ok?" and they said "they both died on scene" my heart just dropped i couldn't breathe i didn't wanna believe it they told me they were on their way home from Arizona they were in Santaquin when Darrin fell asleep at the wheel they hit the side lines and all 3 in the vehicle woke up Darrin tried to correct and get back onto the road and he over corrected they slide 30 feet up the guardrail and a piece shirred off and got caught on the driver wheel-well and impaled the car my brother Tyler died from internal bleeding and my brother from another mother Darrin died from external bleeding but the 62 year old hitch hiker lived... my hole life has been a mess since they passed away my heart aches everyday it all just seems so unreal i try to call them all the time to talk when things get hard i sit there and think all the time they were to young Darrin was 18 and Tyler was 17 i just miss my brothers so much and i feel like no one understands i have been trying to reach out and talk to someone but i havent found someone who does so im hopping i can find someone here....
Comment by Toni Davis on August 27, 2010 at 1:12am
Amanda, Wendy, Jazz, Anita, Jodi, Kate and every one else. I have just read the last few posts and just wanted to let you know I have just lit a candle for all of us. There is one little light burning for all of us right now and when I blow it out it will be with a breath full of sorrow, pain, hope, tomorrow and all of us, where ever we are, together.
Sometimes I wish we were all closer because there are so many of you that I would to hug. XX

Toni (NZ)
Comment by Julie Dolsey-Weiss on August 19, 2010 at 3:32pm
On August 17, 2010 it was one year since I lost my beloved mom. The day before I went to the cemetary to visit my dads grave and it hit me like getting hit in the head by a brick! I miss them both so..much
Comment by Wendy Day on August 12, 2010 at 3:18pm
my fiancee and i had a baby girl on july 16th 2010 the best day of our life then 2 days later my wonderful fiancee was found dead in our bed he had a heart attack at 33 i am now liveing in our house alone with our daughter and i dont know how to deal with everyday life
Comment by Jennifer Friedel on August 12, 2010 at 2:02am
I have made a tribute page for my husband Mark Fish. I am still working on it. I am useing tribute.perfectmemorials.com . If you want to look at what I have done so far you can. Just go to tribute.perfectmemorials.com and then type in Mark Fish. It is the one that says Salem, ohio. He passed away on June 27, 2010. If you look at it can you please let me know what you think of it so far.

It is free to make a tribute on this page.
Comment by Amanda Elgkahlab on August 10, 2010 at 12:44am
I just lost my husband 10 days ago to a sudden heart attack. He was 42 and was mostly healthy and active. My heart is shattered and I am still in shock. We have a beautiful baby boy who is 14 months old. We were only married 3 1/2 short years. I feel cheated and feel that our son has been cheated. He was from Jordan where I am currently living with our son. He wanted us to live here with his family. I wake up in the middle of the night sobbing. I can't eat. and i barely have enough energy to tend to my darling son. how am I supposed to get through this and help my son from being too traumatized?
Comment by Jodi Denton on July 25, 2010 at 4:47am
I found my 19 yr. old son dead in bed on July 13 2010. I still cant believe it is real and he is gone. I feel crazy and need to talk to anyone that has been through something similar.He was my second child that I have lost and my last child. I lived only for him and now I have no one and I am afraid I have gone insane.Everything has been affected, I cannot concentrate,My ears have been ringing since it happened, depth percepton is messed up. I have lost 22 pounds because I cant and dont want to eat. I cant understand simple things that people say to me and have to ask them to reapeat it 5 times. I am confusing people with other people and embarrassing myself.I Cannot go on like this.
Comment by Anita Kelly on July 20, 2010 at 4:07pm
I'm really having a hard time these past few days. I keep seeing my husband Joe laying there. I just can't seem to shake it. I can't believe that it is going to be 8 months. I keep going over & over in my mind about the arguments we would have about his health, not taking care of himself. He was so depressed he didn't care anymore. How he must have suffered inwardly not telling how he really felt. That accident he had in 2008 was the end of him. Losing a good job cause they didn;t want to work with him cause of his therapy. Then he found a job, he sat & waited all hrs for something to do. I would have taken care of him, I always had & always would have. I keep asking him for his forgiveness. I feel so guilty for not coming straight home from work that day. I ran a few errands & came home & found him already gone. I see that in front of me always. I am under a dr's care, it seems lately I am always crying. Losing my job didn't help either. I just hope the angels have him wrapped in their arms & Joe has the peace he so desperately wanted. The day before he died, our daughter was talking with him. She said when she looked into his eyes you can see he was just lost.
Comment by Yvonne on July 13, 2010 at 6:42am
I am very sorry to hear about your son. Please do not place blame upon yourself. Please read Psalm 121:1,2-I lift up my eyes to the hills from whence comes my help. My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and of earth.
Comment by Yvonne on July 13, 2010 at 6:38am
Dear Kate, I am so very sorry to hear about your daughter. Look up Compassionate Friends and find one in your city. Start a journal, talk with a grief counselor. Do whatever it takes! Please do not forget about God, for He will see you through.
 

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