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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Tina Miller on November 20, 2010 at 10:24am
Thank you k,and you are right and i am so sorry you sick as well , hope you feel better soon hun .i know everything that can go wrong has been here to.
Comment by Kandi Broussard on November 20, 2010 at 10:07am
Penny: I am sooo sorry that you are alone. Lots of people have abandoned me since my mom was murdered. It hurts like hell. I will be here to be supportive of you as much as I can
Comment by penny on November 19, 2010 at 11:01pm
this site says not grieve alone

i am alone in this world now even when i posted in here only one person responded at that time so i dont expect anyone to post this time either--but i truely am alone in this world now for the people that i thought were my family and our friends have had no contact with me since i lost my husband suddenly and totally unexpected on may 8th 2010--i was told that is because they dont know what to say to me--but i find it strange that where i live that other people who have lost their loved have no problems talking to that person--i only get to have one way conversations with our dogs and since they cant talk to me--i am all alone--i manage to get through the motions every day but that is all i do along with crying every day--kudos to those who have a supporting family and friends to help them with their grief of losing there loved ones
Comment by Kandi Broussard on November 19, 2010 at 8:32pm
Tina: You just have to try to get through it. That's what I do. I keep thinking tomorrow might be better. So far, every "tomorrow" has been worse. Since I went to court Monday, I have been horribly sick. Every day is a struggle to get out of bed. It just seems like the horrible stuff just keeps comin. I don't know what to do either. I just want you to know that you are not alone.
Comment by Tina Miller on November 19, 2010 at 8:04pm
Why can't I stop reliving the last 18 hours of my mama was on this earth, i try to keep busy and keep occupied and there is so much i have to do, but my mind won't stop, when i close my eyes or try to go to sleep , I AM THERE again, my sisters seem to have it all together, ,but they have families and jobs and relationships to help them i guess, i guess its the post traumatic stress disorder, taking over again, but this time it seems to be winning. taking care of mama , and being with her was my life , since my divorce 11 yrs ago,and my stepdad died. we needed each other. i dont know what i am going to do .
Comment by Tina Miller on November 19, 2010 at 7:47pm
It's at time like this you find out who really cares , unfortunately a lot of us are finding this out,talking , venting does help, be your self, if it makes others uncomfortable, that is there problem ,you are going through enough with out walking on egg shells . My dogs are my best friends , they love unconditionally. and i found out people here are more of a help to me because they do understand. most of the time strangers are more caring than people whom we are family an friends.
Comment by Kadam Daniel Harris on November 18, 2010 at 6:58pm
im new here.... im 22 years old.. own my own place.. hoping this will help me... im kinda at my wits end with alot of things.... august 29 2010.. i lost my best friend... dave amerman... he lived with me... we grew up together since middle school... we honsestly was the one person i could turn to to make me smile of laugh.. even on the worst of my days... he was involved in a drunk driving accident... i was one of the first to hear about it on that sunday morning... i had to tell my friends. and his dad... all of his things are still at my house. in his room the way he left them... since he has been gone... nothing.. i mean nothing has gone well at all... my gf left me... and i work construction so we slow down alot in the winter.. which means less hours... idk what to do or say to anyone.. even my friends that do still talk to me... i just feel alone... jus me and my dog..
Comment by Tina Miller on November 18, 2010 at 9:32am
my mind is like that energizer bunny it goes on an on an on evreytime I close my eyes isee my prescious little mama lying in that hospital bed so swollen she didnt look like herself,blood everywhere they gave her 26 pints of blood,her left leg was about torn off pelvis was shattered here face bleeding ,why can't i get this image out of my head ?
Comment by Caitlin G on November 15, 2010 at 11:18pm
On September 14th, I lost my 4 month old baby cousin to SIDS. People keep telling me that I should be over it by now, it isn't like she was "close" family, and we didn't have her long enough to get to know her anyways. But I do still care, I was so excited to have a new little girl in our family, I have always been very close to my aunt, and when we found she was pregnant, we are SO excited! I got to meet Olivia the day she was born, and I had bought her the most adorable, softest little blanket I could find. I searched 3 stores to find the perfect one. That was her favorite blanket, and it was the one that she died in, and was buried with. I got photos of little Olivia nearly daily as she hit new milestones, made cute faces, or got on a new outfit :) We got the call that she was gone, and I just could not believe it. It has been over 2 months now, and I thought I was "getting over it" but then I saw a couple pushing their baby girl who was wrapped in the same blankie that Olivia had. Ever since then, I have been dreaming about her funeral again, seeing her tiny body, and I wake up crying. I don't know what to do, I haven't ever dealt with death before, and I feel like someone is squeezing my lungs, or sitting on my chest when I think about her, it is an actual physical pain. I don't know what to do, I guess I am just hoping for some support.
Comment by Tina Miller on November 14, 2010 at 6:05pm
I am so Angry at everyone who did my mother wrong , My Brother who hasnt come around for all his life started comming around to supossedly start a relationship with her the last month she was alive but when he came it was always to borrow money form her and to sell her a cell phone so he could get his cocaine and this phone had the most disgusting porno pics and he wouldnt erase them for her i did ,then the day of Mamas funeral he chose to work and showed up as we were leaving the for the grave side service he was late for that as well , and know he wants to be over her estate and doesn't know her full name the funeral home name or the cemetery where she was laid to rest, he was high he doesnt care for justice for mama he wants money for him and cocaine addicted ex wife ,he had a lawyer at the hospital before Mama even died how cold is that??? I just want o scream
 

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