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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Comment by karen stephenson on April 20, 2017 at 11:11pm
Just lost my best friend to a sudden death. I am lost and desolate with grief. Don't know how I can go on now.
Comment by nicole maciura on April 12, 2017 at 10:29am

its nice that someone would call and ask how you are, however they nor you should expect a timeline on "feeling better", its been five years for me since the suicide and it still feels like yesterday. The only people who will understand are those who have experienced the same. It is not the same kind of grief when its a suicide or an unexpected death that happened tragically or in a way that scars you forever. Give yourself some room to breathe and anyone who infiltrates your energy with negativity needs to be distanced from. It took me a year or three to deal with "the others" and I call them that because now its simply two groups those who understand and "the others" who don't. Sending love and positive thoughts to all of you, focus on one day at a time, that's all you need to do.

Comment by JO B on April 9, 2017 at 5:17pm

for me over 5 yrs i no n hear notimlimet hw long we grief cud be 10 yrs or 00 100 yrs we cud still gruef we cud 

im still not me lady iwz in 2012 she died 2 wen her dad died thn multi loss non 2 evry loss bit of me died 2 

im a crash u cud say im nt a survir im not me ill never be me evr agan 

no 1 wote a rule bok on hw we shud gref

Comment by Lisa Maria DeMatto- Wysong on April 9, 2017 at 5:09pm

Jackie, I understand EXACTLY what you are talking about. I don't like to wish that bad things happen to people. but I often wonder how all these people that think we are weak, and should get over it. how would they act if faced with the same trauma. I am pretty sure, that they would absolutely fall apart. We are so much stronger than they could ever be.

I don't know about you but I know that through out my 55 yrs I have faced and overcome several bumps in the road. But this last bump was worse than anything I could have ever imagined. It's 18 months later and I struggle daily, has I am sure you and everyone else on this site is. I'm glad I found this site. I hope the few comments I do make help someone.

Sorry for loss and your continuing struggles.

Comment by JO B on April 9, 2017 at 5:15am

sorry for evrys 1s loss 2 on hear

Comment by JO B on April 9, 2017 at 5:15am

yep thy r jackie iv had thng lk or he wz only yor dad get ovr it or im not bean fiar 2 ther fealins 

or i shud grow up coz im griefin for ateson how can any 1 grief for ateson its missin luvd 1s we loss it kills us evry day 

iv had s o mush loss sisne 012 1212 yr 2012 cnt feal keybords coz my hnds gon num 

Comment by Jackie cooke on April 9, 2017 at 2:35am
People are horrible, I don't know what worse people ignoring you or saying stupid things. Iv even been told I'm still young and plenty of time to meet someone else!! I'm surprised I not done for murder, I have that much anger in me. Also I think I'm going mad as still can't except she has gone, when I'm out I'm praying she will be in the house when I get back and when I'm in I keep looking for her to walk down the path. Everyday it's like it's just happened again when I realise she not here . Pleae tell me this hell goes away
Comment by Theresa on April 8, 2017 at 3:49pm

Sorry that should say "go away"

Comment by Theresa on April 8, 2017 at 3:48pm

Its been one year and four months for me since unexpectedly losing my mom and I am having non stop anxiety attacks, its awful

Not one person even calls me anymore, I had a customer at my job who did not know my mom passed say to me well how old was she and when I told her she said well what did you want, I want like go away

Comment by Jackie cooke on April 8, 2017 at 12:40pm
I wouldn't wish this on anybody but people are so idiotic. I have had 6 week off work with broken ankle then this happened, iv no Money and self employed so have to go back. People seem to think that means I'm ok and moved on. I don't know how I'm driving from a to b it must be aotomatic. I just want it all to stop. Seeing people on here who are the same 5 years down the line is scaring the hell out of me
 

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