He'd always been there for us, no matter what. On a clear afternoon, with straight road in front of and behind him, with an extra lane for passing him, while was wearing an orange shirt and had a bike light, a pickup hit him from the side. He never saw it coming, or at least I hope he didn't. I am having trouble functioning, believing that it happened. It's been a month and I still have debilitating days of grief. It just doesn't make sense.

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sory  for yore loss i no how u feal i lost my dad lst yr i cnt get over it i cnt amont of tms iv bean told 2 get over it evry tm thy say tht thy mk me feal wors thy do

grief dosnt mk sense thes lst few yrs iv lost a llot of peple in my lif i hav

Very sorry for your loss. My life almost ended due to a bicycle accident (was at a very high point in my life previous to the accident) and was in therapy for quite awhile afterwards. Since then I have had a traumatic sudden loss of my babe (she was only 44 yrs. of age). So it has been almost 2 yrs. since she is gone. And like you I have trouble functioning, believing that it happened. But I can tell you that the grieving process takes some time. Very different with each individual, but the coping does get less debilitating with time for sure. My heart goes out to you and hope you have lots of loved ones in your life for support.

Wow, I'm so sorry to both of you. I'm having a really bad day today. How can he really be gone? I want to call him, I want to go see him. It's just so painful. I feel like everything and everyone is moving but me.

Hi Trina,

I am very sorry for your loss. No matter how we lose a loved one it hurts and seems unreal.  On the 21st it will be a year since my Dad passed suddenly.  I have found comfort in honoring him, going to counseling and doing whatever I felt was right for me.  I went to the cemetery almost every week for many months.  He was an organ donor so we made a patch to be sewn in the organ donor quilt in his honor.  I have tried to carry on his passion for the MDA motorcycle events by making donations in his name.  So I am saying do whatever you need to do to cope no matter if others don't like it.  I even go to the cemetery and have a picnic with Dad.  I find it to be very peaceful and calming.  HIs name was Kermit so his nickname was frog.  I have a frog on a motorcycle and 6 ceramic frogs on the base of the headstone to symbolize his and all us children and grandchildren.  Sorry for the long post.  Take care.  Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

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