I lost my mother in November 2008. She was murdered by my father. 7 years later my father has been granted a new trial....I don't know how to cope with this as now I will get the blessing of having to testify in court (I was a minor at the time, so I had a guardian in lietum). Anyone ever dealt with this before?

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I'm so sorry to hear about you having to go through with this Kate. I can't imagine what you're feeling.  Have you testified already or is the trial still pending?

I'm not sure what to say but I do hope you find the strength to complete this next phase in this situation and that you I hope you also get closure from it as well.  

Good luck and my thoughts are with you.

I know this is a very late reply..I'm sorry. I just found this site a few days ago.

My husband was murdered and we were all faced with the possibility of a trial, but since there was an eyewitness and my sister-in-law did not want to testify (the person who murdered my husband then tried to rape his little sister) the perpetrator plead guilty to everything but the attempted rape. I do know that if it had gone to trial the prosecutor would have worked with us (anyone who would be testifying--especially my sister-in-law) to prepare us for the trial and to go over our testimony...also probably to 'rehearse it' so that you can get 'comfortable' with what you are going to be providing via testimony to the court.

The victim witness services people should reach out to you (if not you should contact them...they can help you by letting you know what to expect and I imagine helping you to prepare). Since it has been some time ago you may need to contact them..but again they may contact you. Most counties have a victim services unit (often located in the prosecutors office). If the defense is  calling you to be a witness..you may have the right to refuse to testify. If it's the prosecution...then it is up to you I think....I think it would also depend on what kind of testimony you will be giving. Victim services could also probably give you some resources for counselors and others who can help you through this.

 I'm sorry this reply is so late. And I'm so sorry that you are faced with this...I can't imagine being called to testify years later. 

My husband was shot by his own father while hunting on 1-7-16.  I believe it was an accident, but sometimes I have my doubts. I have a medical examiner who testifies there was know way the injuries my husband suffered was caused by him accidently pulling the trigger while picking up a rabbit as his father claims, sheriff closed the case but it is now at the Attorney General. 

My daughter and I can not decide if we want it in the news---I do have a big station that said they will run it.  The reporter said she has seen some cases opened by the media--but I am not sure if I want to put my daughter through all this again.

What kind of father?

Now he is with the BEST father in the world.

My heart...yes...difficult on earth for you, indeed! Hug to you and yes with the best most loving for the ever... I will think of you two all day thanksgiving and all day christmas... the 1sts... sigh... meanwhile you have nearly made it alive the full first year... praying you both have comfort! Wow..and closure..somehow... and peace about decision to open or not open ....you have support here and are not alone! Love you....cm
No but you had some good responses... may you find the words and peace between now and then... I truly care and wish I could help.... be well.

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