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Losing SomeoneTo Murder

For people who have lost a loved one to murder.

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Does anyone else have flashbacks? 12 Replies

It has been a year since my husband was murdered and I keep having flashbacks from reading the investigative report and autopsy report.  I can "see" the attack happening and it breaks my heart into a…Continue

Started by Deborah Dodds. Last reply by Stanley Ruiz Feb 14, 2017.

Coping with the loss of my sister 5 Replies

On December 20, 2012 my younger sister was murdered.Her and her boyfriend of 6 years had a very toxic relationship. Neither one of them was completely faithful and they both drank way more than they…Continue

Started by Christine Leakey. Last reply by Dennis M. Walsh Jan 23, 2013.

Men Refuse To Talk! 1 Reply

ANYONE PLEASE EXPLAIN WHY YOUR SON OR HUSBAND/FAMILY DON'T WANT TO HEAR OUR CHILDREN'S NAME..//I AM GOING CRAZY! IT IS LIKE DON'T SAY MY SON'S NAME...T.J.,T.J., T.J., FORGET HE WAS HERE....AT MY…Continue

Started by Bern. Last reply by Christine Leakey Jan 22, 2013.

Family Grief? How do you help? 1 Reply

I come from a family of seven children, 4 boys and 3 girls. Our mother died back in 2005 of lung disease. All 7 of us have never really been close (some closer then others) but her death tore us…Continue

Started by Susie H. Last reply by Brenda Ann Oct 22, 2012.

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Comment by Jessica Truax on December 29, 2011 at 10:00pm

my daughter is a victim of this group as well. she was killed by the man i thought i loved. dropped my healthy 8 lb 3 month old to the floor on her head on purpose. he is awaiting his trial in april of 2012. every day is like hell

Comment by Kandi Broussard on July 27, 2011 at 5:14pm
I just don't know if I can deal with this pain anymore.  August 1st would be my mom's 68th birthday.  I will not get to spend the day with her and I hate it.  I have never been so depressed in all of my life.
Comment by Kandi Broussard on July 18, 2011 at 8:54pm
August the 5th will be one year since my mom was brutally stabbed to death.  The murderer is recanting his confession and now claimingto be mentally retarded!!!  That is an insult to all mentally challenged people!!  I am sooooo tired of excuses.  I want justice for my mother.  I am tired of being without her and having NO SUPPORT from people I thought I could count on. My mom certainly would have comforted me and listened to me.  I miss her soooooooo much
Comment by Ester L. on April 27, 2011 at 11:20pm

Dana, I'm glad you are reaching out and sharing your experience.  My father murdered my mother 19 years ago when I was 11 years old.  I had nobody to talk to, and am only now dealing with some of the residual feelings and issues that I was unable to deal with back then.  I have never met anyone who suffered a similar loss, and have always felt alone and ashamed because of my family tragedy.  Losing one's parents is awful at any age, in any way.  But, I think it is different when the death is a murder; there is a stigma attached, which can make it very hard to talk about (for me at least.)

Comment by Dana Jarrett on April 23, 2011 at 2:38pm
On March 23, 2011 My father shot and killed my Mom and then committed suicide. My mother was one of my best friends. My mom, my sister, and I were always best friends from the time I was born. This sudden loss of our parents has left us in incredible pain and shock. The thought that our father hated us enough to take her from us just breaks our heart! We haven't even began to let reality settle in, but we are lost without our Mom. We both joined this site hoping to be able to talk and work through this grief with others that are hurting too
Comment by Kerry Whitley on February 16, 2011 at 10:39pm
My mom was murdered 17 years ago and I do know talking about it helps but for some reason this year hit me harder than normal.
Comment by steacy del valle on November 11, 2010 at 3:17pm
i miss my mom so much she recently died going on 6 months ago and the pain only seems to get stonger. i have a son he is 1 and its now that i understand the love of a parent and it just make the pain of losing her even greater. she use to always tell me she wouldnt be around for ever but i didnt believer even though u know everyone dies you just dont believe it will haven to the person thats the closes to you. she was murdered by her ex she was shot 4 times and he shot himself. i still have so much emotions inside i just dont even know which emotion is the strongest. sadnesss, hopeless, vanerable, angry, or just depressed. .
Comment by donna on November 6, 2010 at 11:02pm
Kandi - I will have you on my mind on the 15th. I hope everything goes well for you. I hope justice will be served for you fast so it doesn't drag on. I agree with you about the judicial system. The city my brother was murdered in has had an investigation on a huge corrupt system from police officers to forensic lab people so there is so much going on having to retry cases where innocent people were convicted and other things....like replace all the people who were fired, etc. We don't have much hope that they will put any more time into my brothers case. It kills me to think of the man and all of his friends laughing knowing they truly got away with murder. We have done investigating of our own but even when we find out info there is nothing the police do, or "can do." It is a horrible feeling.
It is sad that there are so many people with such a horrible thing in common. Let me know how things are going for you, & what happens in court. Donna
Comment by Kandi Broussard on November 5, 2010 at 3:30pm
Thank you, Donna. That is very kind of you. The next court date is Nov. 15. I beleve it is for pre trial motions. I'm sure that the murderer's public defense team (paid for by we the taxpayers) will try some dirty tricks. They already hired a private investigator, who called ME, asking if I would help him exhonerate the killer!!!! I though I was going to barf. The judicial system sickens me. It feels like he is the victim and my dead mother is on trial. I do not have any family members going through this with me but I do have my husband, daughter, and some pretend family that have been supportive. It just feels like nobody else really understands what this feels like. It is so horribly painful and miserable. Why in the world did they let your brother's killer go?? Has the whole world gone mad?? I hope to talk to you soon. Kandi
Comment by donna on November 4, 2010 at 12:02am
K Broussard-- I am so sorry to hear that you will be going through this with the Holiday season starting. I am glad that they have the person who did it. Which court date will this be? All the trial dates get so confusing...the arrainment ......the peliminary....etc.
Do you have other family members to spend time with at Christmas? I hope you do. That seems to help, when you can be with people who also are going through the same thing. After my brothers murder, ( June 2008) my sister and my other brother and I became closer than ever. It is the hardest thing we will ever go through. We have never gotten justice for my brother. The murderer was in jail for 8 months but they let him go.
I know the trial will be very hard for you but maybe you can get a little peace in your heart when the murderer of your mom gets convicted. Hopefully he will suffer every day for the rest of his life.
I'm sorry I have not been on this wesite for awhile but I will be. Please let me know what happens in court. if you just want to "talk" I will be checking the site more often.
 

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