I come from a family of seven children, 4 boys and 3 girls. Our mother died back in 2005 of lung disease. All 7 of us have never really been close (some closer then others) but her death tore us apart even more for a few years. Some of us mended fences some didn't. I just thought that was a rough time on our family. In March of this year (I will refer to siblings by number) #2 brother shot and killed #1 sister's son AND #4 brother's wife. He also tried to kill himself by taking pills but survived and is now in jail awaiting trial. Our father was also in the house at the time but was unharmed.

I am going through so many mixed emotions but also trying to be there for the sister who lost her son and the brother that lost his wife.

Any suggestions on how to be there for them but deal with my own stages of grief? Including feeling guilty about my feelings and can't even start to imagine what they are going through.

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Susie, the more I read about everyone's losses the more I believe that the best thing to do is to get closer to God. In other words, "The harder Satan hits and takes away from us the more we should give to God". My reasoning on that is - only God has made provision for bringing our loved ones back to life and allowed this son Jesus to give his life as a ransom. Death is caused by Satan and the Bible says death is an enemy.  I will write more later  - but consider yourself (((((hugged)))))

Brenda

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