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Comment by Ammy on February 18, 2017 at 4:10pm

Hello everyone,
I don't get on the computer very much anymore.  It's old and slow.  But I do think of you all and pray for you daily.
I am not boasting.  There is nothing to boast about on this journey, but I'm saying this to give hope to those that feel hopeless.  I am six years and seven months into this journey.  I have to say that I am doing better.  The pain is not as harsh all the time.  It hasn't gone away, it's just different. There are still tearful days, but not every day.  I'm slowly moving forward; one breath, one step, one day at a time.  It may not seem like much to others, but it's better than nothing at all.  I take each day as it comes because I find it easier. 
I honestly would never want it to be completely gone.  I don't know how to explain it, but it has become a part of me that I embrace.
You may not think it, but you are all strong; even in your weakness.  Never give up being you.  Don't worry about what others think.  Just because we are grieving parents it doesn't mean we have something wrong with us.  It means we miss and love our child who is no longer here with us.  Our reality is forever changed.  We all need to grieve at our own pace and find our own way because it's a lifetime thing.
You are all in my heart and I send you my love.

Comment by Teresa D. on February 17, 2017 at 8:57am

Dolly, Jill sometimes I think it's they don't know what to say so they say nothing. They think talking about them will make us sad without knowing it's the lack of talking about them that makes us sad.

Connie I'm sorry you sat alone but know I was crying right along with you.

Sandy Congratulations on the new grandson.  I know nothing takes the place of our children but hopefully he can bring you some joy.

Lynn thank you.

Dick I know this has been hard for you but it's nice seeing you pop in.  As sad as it is you prepare me for the future.  I know not to expect to much.  That's the nice thing about those a head of you, they don't lie to you or try to make you expect more.  Dick believe it or not you make me feel normal.

I love you all!

Comment by Connie K on February 15, 2017 at 11:12am
Hello everyone
I am traveling to see my mom for her 87th birthday. Whenever I leave home I have such anxiety and relief all at once. Valentine a day really created that wave again. I sat alone in that stupid hotel restaurant with tears streaming down my face. 4 years and still seems like yesterday.
YOu all are always in my heart and I know we lol have to muddle through the best we can. I wish I were better at it. GEtting ready to board and put in that mask for 10 days. So hard.....
Love and prayers to you all ((( )))
Comment by Jill E on February 15, 2017 at 8:44am
Dolly I so understand. No body even says Josh's name...and this country...I don't understand any of it at all...nothing makes sense...
Comment by Dolly on February 15, 2017 at 7:18am

Nobody ever mentions Brandon.. I have lost myself.. nothing works anymore.. this country has lost its mind.. the world is falling apart.. maybe it will all end in a big bang.. I don't care.

Comment by Dick on February 14, 2017 at 8:40pm

Yeah, it's been 6 years. I never has gotten easier.

Comment by Jill E on February 14, 2017 at 6:43pm
Sandy I agree with you about moving. I lost Josh in December 2015 we moved to Arizona March of 2015, two years. The move was good for me in most respects. I dont know how I could go on living there with all the memories, it would be way more than I can handle but those memories good and bad are still right here no matter where you live with me day and night. We had no real family left in Sacramento so it made sense to move here to be closer to our son Derek. Pain, hurt, memories, pain, hurt, it is so very hard...the hardest absolutely, completely worse thing I could ever imagine. Take me back to February of 2014 I had no idea the horrendous turn my life would take. Take me back there so I can say things, do things, change things...
Comment by Lynn Williams on February 14, 2017 at 5:16pm
It's valentines Day and another year without our loved ones. Sending love and prayers to Michael on his birthday, Teresa. Love to everyone here think of everyone often.lynn
Comment by Sandy Hendrix on February 14, 2017 at 3:49pm

Hi everybody, I haven't been on here for a while, but you all are always in my thoughts.  I do agree that it does seem harder as more time goes by.  Teresa, there is nothing harder then the birthdays, I'm so sorry for your pain and your loss today. 

I moved to AZ in May and I will say it is better to be away from where Randy was with all the memories.  I came back here to Long Beach to work 6 weeks ago and I have 6 more weeks, I cry in my car every day for my sweet boy.  The memories here just are too much, I can't stand it.  I'm back to asking why, why him, why would he do that drug, why my baby.  My daughter just had a baby boy and while he is so wonderful and precious it hurts to see the baby boy and know that my baby boy is gone.  It hurts so much.  You all are always on my mind.  Much love..

Comment by Teresa D. on February 14, 2017 at 9:42am

Our sons and daughters will NEVER stop loving us no more than we will ever stop loving them.  THANK YOU JILL!

 

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