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what are the chances
ok to start i feel like god took her to stop me. my child was molested as a child while in her moms custody. i was waiting for her to tell me face to face who hurt her. with the names i'm i was going to shoot them in the tops of their feet the knees the elbows and the crotch. "point blank" ... ... ok i'm a dad.
and i probably would have chained em 2 the back of my bike and drug them around for a few miles.
yes ok your most basic deranged torture you can think of is what ALL child molesters deserve!!! nothing less!! so part of me feels god stopped me from "willingly"throwing my life away.
i'm not going to beat around the bush on this i have an idea of who but i never got confirmation. part of me wants to take some pliars and razor blades over there and ask about it.
but my wife keeps me level. ok she said no!! and she DID have a stern look on her face!! see what this has done to my mind?
and yes this thing with my kids has turned me into someone else. i usually have a great joke or something nice to say but i am a ponderer thats not a good thing to be when something like this has happened. ok so what are the chances god took her to stop me is my question in all of this??
more rantings sorry guyz! but i thank you 4 th ear... ... well u get it lol!!
and i probably would have chained em 2 the back of my bike and drug them around for a few miles.
yes ok your most basic deranged torture you can think of is what ALL child molesters deserve!!! nothing less!! so part of me feels god stopped me from "willingly"throwing my life away.
i'm not going to beat around the bush on this i have an idea of who but i never got confirmation. part of me wants to take some pliars and razor blades over there and ask about it.
but my wife keeps me level. ok she said no!! and she DID have a stern look on her face!! see what this has done to my mind?
and yes this thing with my kids has turned me into someone else. i usually have a great joke or something nice to say but i am a ponderer thats not a good thing to be when something like this has happened. ok so what are the chances god took her to stop me is my question in all of this??
more rantings sorry guyz! but i thank you 4 th ear... ... well u get it lol!!
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Permalink Reply by Gail Richardson on -
Fred - I know how you are feeling about this - my foster daughter was molested as a young girl and I have often imagined how good it would feel to reek some justice on the pathetic examples of human being that did it. But, then who would look after her and keep her safe from anyone else????
Your wife is right - she needs you, your kids need you and more to the point - You need them!! I hope one day you will be able to see for yourself how karma comes round to bite those sorry so and so's right where it hurts. It WILL happen - I promise, it always does.
Gail
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Permalink Reply by Ann Edmondson on -
Fred--you are so right-- God did stop you from making a BIG mistake. Vengence is His. However, I doubt it was the death of your daughter that He was truely doing. Bad things happen to good people because of evil actions of others. Stopping you is the level head of your wife (and her stern looks).
Of course there is nothing that says we can't vent the anger (ie., the rantings) we feel and do regarding matters like this. My step-daughter was molested by her mother's boyfriend. When my husband and I found out about it we told the cops to find the S.O.B before we did. Thank God, they did. Listen to your wife--sounds like she may have the level head in this one.
Even Christ Himself ranted in anger in the Temple Courtyard when he called people thieves and money mongers (paraphrasing this one). So vent all you need to--I'll listen if no one else will............~Ann
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Permalink Reply by Robert Tinsley on -
i dont think god took her to stop you because as a loveing father you would have stopped yourself think about would you rather kill and take yourself away from your angel i think god neededtheir help somewhere else and the anger you feel is justified but if you did know wouldnt you rather see them go to prison with all the fathers who made bad choices and will never get to hold their children again due to their own mistakes i can promise you they would deal more justice to your child than you taking yourself away and ive learned not to qestion god only know that he needed them more than us i lost four in nine months so while i do not know exactly how you feel i can understand your pain i hope god helps you as he has me and the anger will never go away but try to remember all the good you can and know your child is looking over you right now ((((((((((hugs from one dad to the next)))))))))))))))))))))
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Permalink Reply by Janice Shapiro on -
hey fred. maybe so. we'll never really know the reason G-d took our children. but yes, maybe her soul had to go for a very specific purpose. you are angry. angry at what happened to her. and angry that she has passed on. but you sound like a good person, with a really good person in your wife too. stick together. do your best in life to do your daughter honour, and to do her proud.
best, jan
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