"Our loved ones watch over us." I have written these words often and I know them to be true. Recently I had some responses about that concept. "But I don't like the idea of my loved one just sitting around watching me." One grieving mother commented. 

When our loved ones die and pass into spirit there are two changes that I see. One is obvious – they now don't have a physical body to reside in and are free to roam wherever they wish at a moment's thought. The second is that I do believe they have a broader perspective. They are aware of us, they are aware of their current location! That's already broader in one regard. But they also have access to all the lives they have lived. If they choose to they can go and glimpse anything they have previously lived and learn something new from the experience. 

People in my opinion, mistakingly believe that death is a result of life; that death is almost a consolation prize and life is the main event. But I believe that the world of spirit is our primary home and we take excursions to physical life to learn, expand and ultimately to have fun and experience love and joy in physical ways. Lily misses her hugs with me for example but she sends her love to me in other ways; she understands grief, pain, and loss after her experience and her soul's level of compassion and recognition of those suffering has multiplied exponentially because of it.

Lily and your own loved one in spirit are on an "onward journey". They have so many exciting, amazing experiences and exploration taking place. And (perhaps after a period of re-evaluating their lives and receiving heavenly healing from life's injuries) they are now very happy and completely well. They will know that in the grandest scheme of things, everything is OK or is going to be OK. They will be wrapping you in their love and wishing to see you happy when they pop in to visit. This is what I mean when I affirm that our loved ones will be watching over us. They don't follow us around watching our every move and encouraging us along – that is the job of our guardian angels. (More on my experience with mine tomorrow!)

We are always moving forward in one way or the other, in body or out of it. There is no standing still and there are no sidelines. This is your life. And the grief you are now feeling is not all there is. There are gems just under the surface waiting for you to discover them. There is greater fulfillment for you just around the corner. Sometimes you just need to walk down a different path to find it; a path made with stepping stones of trust, faith, hope, love and forgiveness. They will all lead you to peace and understanding. You are on your own onward journey after the loss of your loved one and your beloved most definitely is on theirs, until, the time comes when you meet up with them on the other side and continue journeying together. 

Love Erica Farrimond, best selling author of "Soothe Your Soul from Grief"

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Simply awesome.. no words needed.

I am wondering what you base your ideas upon... some seem believable, but, to me, some do not.  That doesn't matter really... the ultimate truth is not within any human's grasp here on earth.  My sense of life after death is quite different from yours in many ways, but again its just my IDEA of what happens... I don't KNOW. 

Some of my own experiences have led me to believe that the spirit or soul..or are they the same?.. leaves the body when a person 'dies'. I base this upon the experience I had when my mom died. 

I also believe that we are sometimes assisted by some spiritual form, which I have always referred to as angels... this too is based on first hand experiences where my life was spared through intervention from someone or somewhere outside time and space... once I SAW the form and it appeared human but quickly disappeared after the rescue.. I didn't SEE him disappear but turned to thank him seconds after he saved me, and he was nowhere to be seen.. we were on a nearly abandoned beach, and he was VERY tall and muscular, so he couldn't have disappeared that quickly if he was human...

other times I did not see a literal figure or form, but sensed a spiritual power without form, when an intervention occurred which prevented events that would most likely have resulted in death or catastrophic injury, or at least injury, to myself in several instances, and to myself and my young son in others.

I have seen miracles happen too.  I have seen time warped, food multiply, and healing of medical conditions... not usually great showy events in public arenas, but quiet personal ones which I almost never share because I can't prove them and becaise so many would doubt that they are true. It's not important to me to prove them anyway... they are sufficient unto themselves.

But I don't have the sense that our loved ones who have died interact with us here on earth on any regular basis in the long term... again from personal experience.  I have had initial 'signs' which I didn't directly seek that indicated that my loved one's did indeed still exist and were reaching out to tell me so... but those 'signs' ended after a few months or were single instances, and then I had the sense that that loved one 'moved on' to some place where that type of contact was no longer common... that's only me and my own experience so far... I would LOVE more contact from my loved ones that have died, but don't feel led to SEEK it through a medium or any other method...

and again that's just ME and is probably due to teachings in my past which warned against these things... I don't understand any 'religion' really.. they all seem flawed in some way within their formality and substance, but I do believe in God, and from a young age have believed in Jesus and His sacrifice to render our sins null and void, since as humans we can not do this. 

And I have never believed in multiple lives, because nothing I ever experienced gave me any sense that this was in fact the truth. Again, my belief is based on experience.

So I guess we all have our IDEAS and BELIEFS.. but none of us really KNOWS ... I believe we WILL know, but only when we leave here and move on to the next level... the spiritual one ... how much the two realms actually can interact is a mystery to me, and from what I have heard others claim, is a mystery to everyone here in this human state. 

As a result, I'm most interested in actual first hand experiences and not in 'beliefs' or 'ideas', so I tend to take the 'beliefs' and 'ideas' with a grain of salt so to speak.. Thanks for your sharing... please share more actual events you have experienced that have led you to the beliefs YOU have. These are the things that give me hope and lead me to change my own 'beliefs' from time to time.

I probably shouldn't even be responding to this because I have been low in the valley lately, but this sounds like a fairy tale to me.  I believe it's important to try and uplift those that are grieving, but it needs to be sensible. 

I agree more with what Dolly wrote as I do believe angels are among us and minister to us in ways that are not probable for humans.  As she also stated: 'So I guess we all have our IDEAS and BELIEFS.. but none of us really KNOWS'.  My beliefs have definitely changed since my son left us, but in a way that most wouldn't understand.  I know that before our loss I would have never believed what I believe now.  I am at peace with it and find it comforting, believable, and sensible. 

To each his own.  Whatever helps you through your journey is what you need at this time, and may we all find a path that helps us heal.

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