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What I have said so far:
As well as can be expected.
Better, as far as I can tell.
Not so well.
Just awful. (The usual response is, " I'm sorry.")
Usually, no one inquires further, which is fine.
Lorraine and everyone, the thought of going on for the rest of my life without my son just increases my sadness and my anger. I try to avoid counting the days, months and soon to be years that my son passed over/away. It just reinforces that I burried my child, which still sounds and feels foreign to me. Some days i just scream, some days I just have to hit something or kick something........never a person, I don't want to go to jail, lol!.....I feel like a ticking time bomb, ready to explode. I have had many, many days, when I thought of driving myself to the emergency room to have myself admitted in the psych unit, I didn't know what else to do but somehow I would get pass it. I still can hardly believe that I am a member of such a group as this...........Online Grief Support! I never imagined that I would experience this kind of pain in my life-time.
Thanks so much for listening and for all of your support.
This is so true Lorraine, I know that people do not get it when you loose a child , they have no idea what to say or do.....I wish I had friends that understand how awful this is to go through a death of a child.....I am so sorry about Silas, and I feel the same way, about my sons Terry and Bobby...thank you for being in my life...........
I struggled so much in having the response I needed on those surprise runins with concerned friends, so much so I have isolated in order to avoid intensifying my grief hence, the advice and how I should be grieving by all the helpful curious souls just left me feeling bewildered and feeling the only way to listen was to nod and then forgive any unwelcome cooing over my grief. I don't need to be rescued or fixed,cured therefore I have been strategic with planned scripts I can utilize and deliver in a calm and sensitive communication. I have to remember everyone wants to help, LOVED ONE PASSING AWAY MAKES EVERYONE UNCOMFORTABLE AND SENSITIVE AND THEREFORE IF I CRINGE AT WHAT THEY SAY I just need to forgive them and realize they are just human and so am I
Hi, This is the second time I am going through the pain of losing a son.What fits for me as an answer to this question is, "I am....OK. And I am going to keep saying that until I really am OK. Then when I am OK, I am going to say I am "great" until the day arrives where I really am great...but don't hold your breath." That is just what works for me.