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This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue
Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.
It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue
Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Nov 12, 2018.
I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue
Started by Nicole. Last reply by Fran Oct 19, 2018.
next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue
Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Oct 4, 2018.
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I didn't know that. I guess this will my last post. What a shame. I will now be without my support friends. Thanks to all for your support.
If these posts are now going out via twitter this will be my last post........
I have narrowed down my conversations about the life I spent with my husband to five people. Only one of them can withstand all the various levels of my need for communicating about our life together. Although each of them have a way of talking with me in a general sense it is not what I need to express nor what I need to hear in return in a deeper way except from maybe two of them.
I gave up trying to have people understand it. It was not something I related to much before my husband died and I can now appreciate how they don't have the room for it in their otherwise content life. Mainly because they live in a universe where they have a reason to be content. I no longer do. Few people can fathom that nature, social interaction, travel, etc are no longer the instruments for our happiness. What they don't and cant understand (nor did I) is how inextricably linked all those things were to my beloved. And today when I go through a day I never know when, but ultimately almost every day after six years I still find myself breaking down and giving way to the one thing that meant everything to me and still does.......my husband, my beloved, my crucible~~~ the fire of my life.
Hello universe, I am ready......come get me.
Trina
I don't think that I could have expressed it better.
its a shame that it is this way, but it is.
Have the best day you can
Regards Monty
Trina,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I talk about my Husband to my family and friends. If they don't like it, then don't talk to me.
It's getting to the point where I don't care what they think. Just because most people did not have a wonderful marriage with their Husband, it's not my problem.
Hi Linda
It's sad when we can't relate to the rest of the world and they can't relate to us, as our point of view is so much different to people in the world.
I too am finding that the world doesn't understand let alone be ready to hear how I feel. and my feeling is that if I try and tell them about it it will drive them away.
I have been reading that it's ok to not be ok. some interesting content.
I do find even if I just get and about (even though I don't want to ) afterwards sometimes I feel better.
yesterday I was asked to drive my mother in law to go see a friend off on a cruise ship. I didn't want to but felt obligated as she has felt so helpful
the day was beautiful and there were several festivals/events on.
I spent half a day having lunch with her friend and their children
I so wanted to share my pain and talk about the loss but I listened and smiled.
and after 90 min drive in horrible traffic, each way and 2 hours of lunch the day was done.
I didn't get anything I wished to get done.
but at the end of it wasnt such a bad day
I hope we can all have the best day we can.
regards Monty
Hello Everyone,
I am so glad I have this group o share my thoughts. Just recently it seems like I am losing support from my family. They don't call me as much anyone and rarely answer my posts on Facebook.
I know the reason why. When I do talk to them I talk about Julian and they always change the subject. I feel it will be better for them and myself not to have contact with them anymore.
I am just fine and decided to just live in my own little world with my sweet dog Babie J. I do have many friends but I keep them at a distance because I know they do not like when I mention Julian.
They just feel I should move on and start a new life. Well, they are dead wrong. I know I will never move on. What For. My life ended when my dear Husband took his last breath. I died with him and will just have to wait to join him again.
Thanks again for all the support I get from all of you. God Bless.
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