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The Holiday Season and my loss 1 Reply

This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue

Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.

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  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

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next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

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Comment by Monty on November 8, 2018 at 4:52pm

Hi All

I'm still here plugging away at life.

As the 12 month anniversary approaches of the passing of my lovely wife, I've been assessing my self, my grief and how things are going.

i had previously written a list of things i felt and knew and why i felt that way.  

i continue to fell that way.

every thing still hurts but rather than being a searing pain it is a little more of a constant throbbing pain. i do find it quite waring and to find the energy to go to work and be productive is a struggle.

I'm still searching for sleep most nights.

fortunately the dreams/nightmares of loosing carol have lessened somewhat, but still persist in some part.

still searching for something fun and exciting and the only thing that really brings a smile to my face is parts of "home alone 2" the movie and the second pink panther movie (in short the slap stick comedy).

and the boys are in a relatively good routine thank goodness.

i am dreading the Christmas holidays and will need to find something to keep me busy, as for me slow time is the time where i feel the most pain.

when I'm busy and distracted there is a small relief from the pain.

Kind regards to all 

monty

Comment by Monty on October 21, 2018 at 5:36pm

Hi

it seems to be a common thread amongst people who have lost their most loved ones.

its been 11 months now since i have lost my wife.

i have had counselling and am attending a mens grief group.

i try to be busy most days.

the work week is exhausting busy with work kids and other things, and by Thursday /Friday i long for the weekend.

but.. on the weekends i have no motivation and unless I'm doing house work or something for the kids i feel lost and have no motivation, all i want to do is escape..   

i push my self to go out at least Saturday and try and do something interesting with the kids and try and see some of my friends, but as often as not i don't want to do anything.

I'm dreading the christmas holidays as it will be the 1 year anniversary of my wife passing (22nd December). 

I hope others are not having to cope with these sort of feelings ...

regards Monty

Comment by Linda Engberg on October 19, 2018 at 7:56am

Bluebird, Trina & Alexis,

Thanks for your thoughts. Life will never be the same again.

I am so glad to have such wonderful friends on this forum.

God Bless You All.

Comment by ALEXIS on October 18, 2018 at 10:13pm

Linda and Bluebird I have been feeling the same way.  At work I am getting in all sorts of holiday items and it is hard for me to look at it or think of the holidays.  This will be my first without my husband.  I'm not quite sure how to do this as some days I still forget that he is gone and then I wake up.  I just keep putting one foot in front of the other because I don't know how to do anything else but it somehow just seems wrong.  Sometimes I just want to stop doing anything but if I do, I'm afraid that I will never get started again.  

Hugs to you both

Comment by Trina Mamoon on October 18, 2018 at 6:56pm

Alas, time DOES NOT heal all wounds. Perhaps it heals most wounds, but not the loss of one's soulmate, the love of their life. Those people who say this, don't know any better. Either they don't understand what a soulmate is, or they never experienced the death of their precious spouse/partner.

Hugs to you, Linda and bluebird.

Comment by Trina Mamoon on October 18, 2018 at 6:52pm

Comment by bluebird on October 18, 2018 at 5:51pm
I understand, Linda. It's the same for me. ((((Hugs))))
Comment by Linda Engberg on October 18, 2018 at 4:19pm

Here I am at a another Holiday Season coming up. All it is, is my six Christmas without my beloved Husband. I was always told time will make things better, I guess these people never knew what a true soulmate is. I feel the same way I did six years ago and it will never get better for me. All I do is hope that I will never awaken again and join him. Most people just don't get it.

Comment by Linda Engberg on October 18, 2018 at 4:19pm

Here I am at a another Holiday Season coming up. All it is, is my six Christmas without my beloved Husband. I was always told time will make things better, I guess these people never knew what a true soulmate is. I feel the same way I did six years ago and it will never get better for me. All I do is hope that I will never awaken again and join him. Most people just don't get it.

Comment by Linda Engberg on September 27, 2018 at 3:05pm

Hi Alexis,

Loved reading her book, after 5 years found this book more down to earth that the grief never goes away

 

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