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It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Nov 12.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 3 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Fran Oct 19.

FAILING 9 Replies

next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Oct 4.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 3 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Nicole Sep 28.

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Comment by Trina Mamoon on October 18, 2018 at 6:52pm

Comment by bluebird on October 18, 2018 at 5:51pm
I understand, Linda. It's the same for me. ((((Hugs))))
Comment by Linda Engberg on October 18, 2018 at 4:19pm

Here I am at a another Holiday Season coming up. All it is, is my six Christmas without my beloved Husband. I was always told time will make things better, I guess these people never knew what a true soulmate is. I feel the same way I did six years ago and it will never get better for me. All I do is hope that I will never awaken again and join him. Most people just don't get it.

Comment by Linda Engberg on October 18, 2018 at 4:19pm

Here I am at a another Holiday Season coming up. All it is, is my six Christmas without my beloved Husband. I was always told time will make things better, I guess these people never knew what a true soulmate is. I feel the same way I did six years ago and it will never get better for me. All I do is hope that I will never awaken again and join him. Most people just don't get it.

Comment by Linda Engberg on September 27, 2018 at 3:05pm

Hi Alexis,

Loved reading her book, after 5 years found this book more down to earth that the grief never goes away

Comment by ALEXIS on September 27, 2018 at 12:05pm
Linda,
I am currently reading that book and am finding it to be helpful. I feel like I can identify with the author and appreciate the fact that she acknowledges that this sucks.
Alexis
Comment by Linda Engberg on September 27, 2018 at 7:33am

Hello Everyone,

I just finished the book "It's OK that your're not OK by Megan Devine. It really helped me to realize that this forum is the only place I find where I can share my grief with others and not be criticized. I am so thankful for everyone of you.

God Bless Everyone One of You.

Comment by Monty on September 25, 2018 at 5:50pm

Hi Jim

I'm so sorry for the pain and suffering your going though and can only imaging what life is like for you.

I also lost my wife of 25 years in December last year.

I am still pushing though the rut of life in most ways.

i am fortunate in some ways to have two children that need my support on a daily basis.

I also struggled to find something positive to do.

I have found these forums a big help and have and have recently joined a support group for widowers.

i don't know that there is one thing that works for every one. every one is going to have that little thing that makes a big difference.

for me it was the feeling of loneliness, when out of the circle of my wife's and my friends about 2 people kept in contact.

i felt alone and abandoned and angry.

i realised after  talking to my sister that they weren't avoiding me because my wife has died.  They were avoiding me because they didn't know how or were afraid to relate to someone who is in so much pain.

after coming to this conclusion, i didn't feel so isolated and angry. 

I now actively seek my friends out and and try to be the best i can for my self and children.

i also think for me getting out and going for walks, go for a swim when time permits helps me a lot.

It is still a daily struggle to continue to push though, and i think if it wasn't for my kids depending on me, i may roll up in a ball and cry but i cant.

i wish you all the support and best for you in this trying time.

best regards Monty

Comment by Jim Horvath on September 25, 2018 at 2:37pm

My wife and best friend of 33 years died from cancer recently.  We have a daughter.  I just wonder how people find anything happy and positive each day?  I started a journal where I try to write down little things that were good or positive.  I joined a local support group and that has been good too.  I know there is nothing anyone can do or say but what do people do to start feeling good again and keep moving ahead...?

Comment by Linda Engberg on September 13, 2018 at 3:03pm

Hi Joe,

I would have ended my life the day my Husband took his last breath, but the fear of not seeing him again because of my religious upbringing stops me and to this day I pray to God I don't wake up.

 

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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you Joe for your posts. In a weird way it gives me a lift.  How?  Because I know that I am not making up how hard this suffering is.   My closest friend and sibling also know how I feel about dying and I know I would not have to…"
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"joe that is incredible. thanks for the time and energy sharing. i think ill look at some of your suggestions and see what will work for me. for me this week has been hard. 1 week until first anniversary of her death, i don't know what to…"
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"Read second post first Morgan. Had to break it up into two parts and did it backwards."
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""As the years are passing I feel the need more and more." When I read some of you guys suffering so long, it gives me great fear that despite my health neglect, and legal preparations, I don't know when it will actually come to…"
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joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Joe, "I read your words and it brings me to my knees."  I keep asking God to let me go many times a day.  I tell Him/Her/It that I will never relent until my prayer is answered.  I ask my love to keep asking too and have…"
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Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thanks Bluebird for nice comment about my Julian. He was so caring and was my rock. Being with him for 24/7 for 13 years of our retirement was bliss, I thank God for this time together.  Morgan & Joe I keep believing there is eternal love…"
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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Joe, I read your words and it brings me to my knees.  I so want to join my husband.  As the years are passing I feel the need more and more.  I am not sure I understand totally how your OBE has given you more faith that somehow we…"
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"Linda, Your Julian looks like such a nice man in that photo; what a lovely smile! Joe, Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope you are right."
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"Sorry, I meant Linda and Monty and Joe."
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bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
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