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The Holiday Season and my loss 1 Reply

This Christmas Season this year is very hard.Family gatherings are wonderful but l feel my husband not being so much more.Seeing everyone makes it more real that Ron is not here.The tears are in my…Continue

Started by Denise Lavoie. Last reply by Linda Engberg Dec 24, 2018.

Lost my wife 14 Replies

It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Nov 12, 2018.

Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 3 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Fran Oct 19, 2018.

FAILING 9 Replies

next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Corinne C. Rico Oct 4, 2018.

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Comment by Jon-Paul Ackerman on June 20, 2018 at 1:42pm

I have not contacted any mediums yet they contact me. I seem to be a bit of a burden to my Wife lol. The constant grieving and crying is apparently quite annoying. I've deeply divulged in the necromantic arts and I now understand why it is not recommended. It can be a heavy weight on someone who is in a new etheric body to be pulled to past lives and experiences. She constantly gives me signals of comfort and love, but I am now obsessed to a point of no return. Now I am focused on figuring out who She currently is, IF She is alive in this realm or another, and if another, how to access it. I strongly advise NOT to take the path I'm on. However, if it is successful like I presume it will be, I will surely share any formulas with my beloved here. A good therapy I found is to have a shrine in your room for your Lover. Keep a yahrzeit candle lit CONTINUOUSLY near it and another in between yourSelf and a mirror you can gaze into when you pray to them or trance. I would also recommend keeping shungite, moldavite, amethyst, and some organite material for your place, as emf and wifi radiation disturb the vibrations. Enhancing your intuition is CRUCIAL so I strongly suggest fasting and only consuming clean water and raw foods. If have have people who care enough for you, which I do not lol, I recommend a séance. This year for the first time, I will be having a ceremony at Her grave on the anniversary of Her passing, and was adamantly instructed to do it at 11am. It will include incantations so it may go against many "belief" systems, but I have learned that "belief" is a very poor substitute for understanding. However, research in depth EVERYTHING and follow what resonates with you personally. I love you guys. I DEEPLY appreciate you all staying strong in Love.

Comment by Linda Engberg on June 20, 2018 at 12:51pm

I went to a medium after my Husband passed away, she was right on the mark. I am going to see her again this fall. her name is Sherri Silvers and happens to live in St. Augustine, Fl by me and she has been on quite a few TV shows.

Comment by Marita on June 20, 2018 at 11:01am

Right on point Morgan, I couldn't have said it any better. Thanks for your honesty.

Comment by JenShep on June 20, 2018 at 9:33am


i have spoken to two different mediums. Both were recommended to me by the same person but I will say this person was much less of a skeptic than I am. Both readings were a let down. The first one was just awful. Nothing she said hit on anything that pertained to my husband and she was totally grasping for straws the whole time. The second one got closer with a few nuggets of info that seemed to specifically relate to my husband but the rest of what she said so vague that I again felt let down. I definitely didn’t get what I was looking for out of it.

I do believe that there are mediums out there who truly have a gift but I think it’s so hard to find them and its costly to keep trying. I believe myself more than anyone else and so I try to meditate and do other things to see if I can connect with my husband on my own. I’ve had a few experiences that make me know he’s still here but it’s never enough and I’m never satisfied. I do wish I could find a medium who really has the gift and that I could communicate with Tom that way. But until then I keep trying to connect on my own. 

I know that’s not very positive but I hope it helps a bit. 

Comment by JenShep on June 20, 2018 at 9:21am

Same here. I’ve been wondering what it is about me that makes me this way. Just out of curiosity, would some of you share your astrological signs? I’m a Capricorn and it’s one of the most loyal signs in the zodiac. I have wondered if that had something to do with it. Of course I know that the fact that Tom and I were so perfectly matched and so darn in love and happy together is what makes this so difficult. The thought of moving on is so sickening to me I just could never ever do it. Plus anyone else would just be such a major disappointment. 

Comment by Linda Engberg on June 20, 2018 at 6:31am


It is so true what you said, that some of us cannot rewire, and I am part of that group.

Comment by morgan on June 19, 2018 at 11:14pm

Trevy,  Of course it is difficult to hear of others success in managing their grief where some of us feel so helpless.  It doesnt mean that your experience is any less or more relevant to someone elses.  We all deal with loss differently.  What the problem is it sounds as though you are saying if you can do it so can anyone.  That's just not the case.

If that was the case then none of us would be here on this site pleading with our inner selves and wondering why we feel so disconnected to anything we remember as joy.  And worse than that knowing this is as good as it gets.  

Some of us just cannot rewire.  There is no more heart to give to someone else.  Some of us gave it all to one person and that leaves us with nothing left. It was just the way I connected with my husband.  No one in my life ever had all of me except my husband.  Not my parents, not my siblings, no-one. No one has ever come close except my husband. He is my souls crucible.  The only thread that connects me to the universe.  I have travelled light years to be absorbed by his light.  I am now in the dark.  I need his light once again.  It is just the way it is for some of us. That doesn't mean we are offended.  It just means we cannot be persuaded that through support or trying harder or grieving through time it will change for us.  But we are glad when someone  else can make a new life. 

I know other widows through group support I participated with in the past that came out of their grief and reconstructed their lives to include a new love.  Good for them.  Good for you.  But its not going to happen for me or for many others.  And thats ok.  It needs to be ok because thats just the way it is.  I earnestly await the moment of my own exit for that is when I might possibly find joy again.  Until then its just moving around through a lot of space  that means nothing.  And that too is ok because I already had everything I ever needed or wanted.  Now I just want to be relieved of this burden of living.  And I hope in my better moments that he is waiting for me on the other side of this veil to embrace me once again so i can feel the warmth of his energy and light.  That will be my moment of love come full circle. 

Comment by Geri on June 19, 2018 at 6:50pm

Has anyone had a reading from a medium to connect with their loved one and would like to share their experience?

Comment by Linda Engberg on June 19, 2018 at 10:05am


No offense taken, I wish the best for you. Everyone is entitled to live their life as they see fit.

Comment by bluebird on June 19, 2018 at 9:53am


No offense taken, nor intended, on my part. While your experience is not the same as mine, I do appreciate that you understand that the death of a spouse affects different people differently, and that for some of us the death of our spouse is quite literally the end of our life. 


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