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FAILING 8 Replies

next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Alison J Aug 27.

Rejoining the rest of the world 3 Replies

I am getting ready to return to work for the first time since the death of John. I know I have to go on living for now. I have reflected on my spiritual beliefs. I have to believe that John is indeed…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Monty Aug 12.

My wife passed 5 days before christmas 7 Replies

Hi AllMy name is Monty and i have become single parent of two special needs boys when i lost my wife and life partner of 25 years, 5 days before Christmas.My wife had Myotonic Dystrophy and other the…Continue

Started by Monty. Last reply by Monty Jul 8.

loost my spouce 4 Replies

Lost my spouce a couple of weeks ago and now what do I do with the rest of my life after 55 years with the same person?Continue

Started by kathy. Last reply by ET May 28.

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Comment by bluebird on June 4, 2018 at 2:51pm

"I really don't live in this world anymore, I just exist."

This is SO true, Linda. 

I hope your pup is ok.

Comment by Linda Engberg on June 4, 2018 at 2:50pm

Hi L.O.

I know it is really hard to live without your Husband, we didn't have kids so that makes it worst, I have nothing left except my sweet little dog Babie J who is 13 years old and not doing well. So now I have to watch her suffer like I did my Husband. I really don't live in this world anymore, I just exist. 

Regards, Linda

Comment by L.O on June 4, 2018 at 1:03pm

I don't think i can cope anymore, i thought i was doing ok but im in bits. Im in pain all over but the drs cant find anything wrong, i miss him so much that the thought of never seeing him or even hearing his voice again is killing me. Iv been out to see old friends thinking this would help keep my mind busy but i still sleep alone, im still alone when the kids go to bed, the last one awake, the only one there for the kids. I don't how some of you have gone years when iv only gone a few months

Comment by Alice Thompson on May 20, 2018 at 4:55pm

That’s lovely, Linda.

Comment by Trina Mamoon on May 20, 2018 at 3:46pm

Beautiful, Linda! 

Comment by Nancy on May 20, 2018 at 11:33am

Love it. 

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 20, 2018 at 11:28am

Oops, forgot the picture 

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 20, 2018 at 11:26am

To all on this site.

This is hanging above my stove. Everyone of us had a royal wedding.

Comment by JenShep on May 20, 2018 at 9:22am

Alice, I totally understand what you’re expressing and I feel the same way although my certainty waxes and wanes. Sometimes I feel so good because I know he’s right here with me and sometimes I can’t feel it and sink back down into hell again. I’ve had a few amazing experiences where I’ve actually felt Tom climb in bed and wrap himself around me. I’ve heard him trying to talk to me - HIS voice. And then months will go by with nothing except my own “feeling” that he’s here. Or worse, my feeling that he’s not. I try the same thing - to push my thoughts to how things are now instead of the physical him that I am missing but it’s still so hard. I keep trying to learn to communicate with him. I meditate. I’ve tried Reiki. I’m just going to keep trying. Probably I’ll keep getting frustrated and sad but I feel like all I can do is keep trying. I guess I’ll just keep having the ups and downs. I just hope to get better at feeling him here. I wish I had been born with the ability like some seem to have been. I feel like my mission now while I’m still here is to learn to do this. 

Comment by Alice Thompson on May 20, 2018 at 2:51am

I watched it too, and I cried, but they were good tears. I have been lucky enough in this life to be loved completely and that love continues. I love him more and more and I know it is the same for him. The physical phase is in the past and it will not return for the rest of my life. I was reaching out via google search about a fortnight ago to find some solutions — again — and typed in “what do you do when your life has been ruined”. I came across something only partially relevant, but it has prompted me to do some conscious work on my thinking. I’ve separated some thoughts out in my head, and have been making an effort to disregard some unhelpful ones. Such as excessively hanging on to memories of his physical self. I couldn’t do that if I wasn’t certain he is with me in a new way, but I am, and that new way is the “living” way, the one that goes on beside me from day to day. It is a subtle change and has come from me alone; if someone had suggested this in any way (and of course they have many times) I would have furiously rejected it. It is only me who understands what is right for me. 

 

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