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My wife passed 5 days before christmas 5 Replies

Hi AllMy name is Monty and i have become single parent of two special needs boys when i lost my wife and life partner of 25 years, 5 days before Christmas.My wife had Myotonic Dystrophy and other the…Continue

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loost my spouce 4 Replies

Lost my spouce a couple of weeks ago and now what do I do with the rest of my life after 55 years with the same person?Continue

Started by kathy. Last reply by ET May 28.

Healing 18 Replies

Hello,I've been reading the messages here and it's brought back memories of an earlier time in my grief. I feel for each of you. This loss is the most difficult of human struggles -- at least it has…Continue

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Started by Trevy Thomas. Last reply by Geraldine Brown May 28.

Books 2 Replies

Hello, everyone.I'm reading a book now that is popular, and I wonder what other grievers thought about it. It's called "Wave" and is about the true story of a woman who lost her husband, children,…Continue

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Started by Trevy Thomas. Last reply by Trevy Thomas May 11.

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Comment by Trevy Thomas on June 4, 2018 at 3:27pm

Babie J is adorable. I had three dogs when my husband died. They saved me in many ways. One dog in particular, Lucy, seemed to have a real sense for what I was feeling then. Just this morning, my essay was published about her coming into my life just as my husband left it. If anyone would care to read my take on animals and grief, it's here:

http://www.drunkmonkeys.us/2017-posts/2018/6/4/essay-loosy-trevy-th...

Comment by bluebird on June 4, 2018 at 2:51pm

"I really don't live in this world anymore, I just exist."

This is SO true, Linda. 

I hope your pup is ok.

Comment by Linda Engberg on June 4, 2018 at 2:50pm

Hi L.O.

I know it is really hard to live without your Husband, we didn't have kids so that makes it worst, I have nothing left except my sweet little dog Babie J who is 13 years old and not doing well. So now I have to watch her suffer like I did my Husband. I really don't live in this world anymore, I just exist. 

Regards, Linda

Comment by L.O on June 4, 2018 at 1:03pm

I don't think i can cope anymore, i thought i was doing ok but im in bits. Im in pain all over but the drs cant find anything wrong, i miss him so much that the thought of never seeing him or even hearing his voice again is killing me. Iv been out to see old friends thinking this would help keep my mind busy but i still sleep alone, im still alone when the kids go to bed, the last one awake, the only one there for the kids. I don't how some of you have gone years when iv only gone a few months

Comment by Alice Thompson on May 20, 2018 at 4:55pm

That’s lovely, Linda.

Comment by Trina Mamoon on May 20, 2018 at 3:46pm

Beautiful, Linda! 

Comment by Nancy on May 20, 2018 at 11:33am

Love it. 

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 20, 2018 at 11:28am

Oops, forgot the picture 

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 20, 2018 at 11:26am

To all on this site.

This is hanging above my stove. Everyone of us had a royal wedding.

Comment by JenShep on May 20, 2018 at 9:22am

Alice, I totally understand what you’re expressing and I feel the same way although my certainty waxes and wanes. Sometimes I feel so good because I know he’s right here with me and sometimes I can’t feel it and sink back down into hell again. I’ve had a few amazing experiences where I’ve actually felt Tom climb in bed and wrap himself around me. I’ve heard him trying to talk to me - HIS voice. And then months will go by with nothing except my own “feeling” that he’s here. Or worse, my feeling that he’s not. I try the same thing - to push my thoughts to how things are now instead of the physical him that I am missing but it’s still so hard. I keep trying to learn to communicate with him. I meditate. I’ve tried Reiki. I’m just going to keep trying. Probably I’ll keep getting frustrated and sad but I feel like all I can do is keep trying. I guess I’ll just keep having the ups and downs. I just hope to get better at feeling him here. I wish I had been born with the ability like some seem to have been. I feel like my mission now while I’m still here is to learn to do this. 

 

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monty thompson replied to monty thompson's discussion My wife passed 5 days before christmas in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi All I have noticed lately that i am having dreams with re-occuring teams. my wife leaving (though some circumstance) and having greater responsibilities to look after others.. are other experiencing dreams with constant team's ? that being…"
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