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loost my spouce 3 Replies

Lost my spouce a couple of weeks ago and now what do I do with the rest of my life after 55 years with the same person?Continue

Started by kathy. Last reply by Linda Engberg yesterday.

loost my spouce

This aloneness is not going to be fun.  It is so lonely without him.Continue

Started by kathy on Tuesday.

Healing 16 Replies

Hello,I've been reading the messages here and it's brought back memories of an earlier time in my grief. I feel for each of you. This loss is the most difficult of human struggles -- at least it has…Continue

Tags: joy, on, moving, healing

Started by Trevy Thomas. Last reply by Vicki on Monday.

In agony 12 Replies

I lost my wife 6 weeks ago and I'm in agony every day.  We've been together for 51 years, married for 48.  Met at age 16.  We were like one person.  We knew everything about each other.  No secrets,…Continue

Started by joe kelly. Last reply by Trevy Thomas Apr 9.

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Comment by Nancy on March 30, 2018 at 10:24am

Very cute picture Linda!  It's so hard to not have them here.  

Comment by Linda Engberg on March 28, 2018 at 7:30am

If wasn't for the people on thls website, I would lose my mind. We are all in the same boat, this is my 5th Easter without my Husband and I choose to be alone with my thoughts of Easter past with him. Picture with his son Bob

Comment by Alice Thompson on March 28, 2018 at 2:52am

Hello to everyone in this group, I hope you are all managing to get through the continuing days and nights. I just wanted to say how I am comforted in my worst moments by knowing you are out there, knowing what this is like. If anyone had told me that you lose all your friends in this process too, I wouldn’t have believed life could be so cruel. But perhaps I’m exaggerating to try to express my pain. Perhaps it’s just that friendship feels so irrelevant and inadequate now. I wish you all as many times of enjoyment and comfort as are possible. With love, Alice 

Comment by Linda Engberg on March 19, 2018 at 4:52pm

Hi Maxey,

You don't need to shape up Maxey, because I know I never will.

Comment by Maxey on March 19, 2018 at 1:52pm

Hi, 

i have'nt been around for a while.  I had the ridiculous notion that over time I would get better, but that has not happened.  I think, if anything, I am getting a bit "insane" thinking of how meaningless my life has become.

The few friends I have made since I moved are nice, but I have no inclination to do things with them.  When I do, I am wishing it to be over so I can go home.  When I am home, I then realize how lonely I am and begin the downward spiral of crying and feeling sorry for myself.  I then start thinking, "what if death is just that, and I will not see my love again?".  That makes me so upset that I think I am going to totally lose my mind.

Nothing seems to interest me anymore; I sleep until noon or later to make the days go by.  This surely is "hell" on earth!  Every time I get a pain, I am hoping that it is a sign that I am going to get my wish and die.

Sorry to be a downer, but I am really beginning to worry about my mental health.  I thought I was doing so much better a few months ago, but now I am in an even worse place.  I miss my husband and all the things we used to do.  My neighbor's were telling me how they were planning a cruise and how excited they were.  I had to leave because I could feel the tears welling up.  We used to love to travel and planned something each years when we retired.  Now there is nothing to look forward to, and I am ashamed that I envy others who have their spouses and their happiness.

Wow!  What a wonderful life!?  I hope someone can reply and make me know that this is just not me and I should "shape up"!

Comment by Linda Engberg on March 17, 2018 at 2:41pm

Thank You for caring.

Comment by Marjorie Willcox on March 17, 2018 at 12:23pm

Dear dear Linda we feel for your pain.

Comment by Linda Engberg on March 17, 2018 at 6:04am

Linda,

5 years without my dear Husband and it only gets worse everyday. The only thing to stop is death.

Comment by Meva L Cox on March 17, 2018 at 1:25am

I know I should try to say something like "it will get better, you are not alone, put on a happy face, it doesn't help to feel sorry for yourself, time heals you have a lot of children and grand children which is a great support", and I could go on and on with all the things I have either read or heard. It has been almost 14 months since the Love of my life went to Heaven and I don't feel one bit better. I am on the verge of crying or crying my eyes out most of the time. Jim and I were together for 41 and married for 36 years. It was a second marriage for us both and it couldn't have been much better. I am so lonely and I have a hard time functioningbecause he was my rock and my rock is gone. I wouldn't do anything to myself because I don't believe in it plus I wouldn't do that to my family but I just pray for the time I will be with him again. I pray for all of you going through this unbearable time.

Comment by Sheila Ferguson on March 17, 2018 at 12:17am

I hope it helps because nothing is helping right now.

 

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