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Has Not Happened 5 Replies

Hi, everyone,I have been going to a grief group since I felt I needed some direction to "get a life".The leader is a great guy and has some wisdom that for the moment I consider.  He told us that it…Continue

Started by Maxey. Last reply by Sharon Stolp on Tuesday.

In agony 10 Replies

I lost my wife 6 weeks ago and I'm in agony every day.  We've been together for 51 years, married for 48.  Met at age 16.  We were like one person.  We knew everything about each other.  No secrets,…Continue

Started by joe kelly. Last reply by joe kelly on Monday.

Lost my wife 4 Replies

It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Kyle McKay Feb 15.

Two loves die - Sudden Death worse for griever 3 Replies

7 wksago my live together 10 yrs love collapsed dead in one minute sudden cardiac.I cannot deal with the unfinished business I was working on with him who I love so eyes hurt so much from…Continue

Tags: endings, different, die, loves, Two

Started by CH. Last reply by Marjorie Willcox Feb 6.

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Comment by Marjorie Willcox on March 2, 2018 at 3:16pm

Linda and Morgan I hear you!

Comment by Linda Engberg on March 2, 2018 at 3:11pm


Your feelings are exactly like mine, 5 years on May 5 for my sweet man Julian. I think you and I are the only ones who have this problem, I know I will never stop grieving. For every step forward is 10 back. No one understands except you. I pray every night not to wake up in the morning, I hate being alive. So many people out there fighting cancer I would take it from them and give it to me so they can stay alive. You must really have had a soulmate like I did, I AM NOTHING WITHOUT HIM.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I know I am not alone.



Comment by Marjorie Willcox on March 2, 2018 at 2:56pm

My darling girl you should be proud of yourself coping with 6 children on your own.I am full of admiration of you.I sympathise with the lonely evenings this grief journey is tough.

Comment by L.O on March 2, 2018 at 2:48pm

Marjorie i have 6 children altogether but he is the oldest, the youngest is not even one yet. The days im not as bad as they all keep me busy but when they are not here or in bed its a nightmare sat here alone

Comment by morgan on March 2, 2018 at 2:47pm

Five years, one month and seven days.......and still counting...

I just cannot do this anymore.  I've tried so hard.  Really hard.  Every year I have thought it was going to diminish "enough" for me to live without feeling him so that I could function without pain.  It is not happening.  

I don't know what it would be like if I had a child I had to attend to because I do not walk in those moccasins but I do know one thing. Grief has changed the way it assaults me over the years.  Its different than the early years.   I just don't know how I am going to be able to keep going.  I'm somewhat ok at times but the grief is always right there.  Waiting to attack. And no one who hasn't gone through this has a clue how destructive this is.

I cry out to the me.......come get me......I cant do this anymore and no response......just the same overpowering,  overwhelming missing.......this is not living.......not by any stretch of the imagination.  

Sorry for being such a downer and I seem to write when i gets too bad but truly its there every day.  I just push harder on some days to get through......

Comment by Marjorie Willcox on March 2, 2018 at 2:29pm

My dear girl it's so hard for you having to deal with a teenager who's grieving too and that's why they're kicking off. Thinking of you.

Comment by L.O on March 2, 2018 at 2:15pm

Its been 5 months since i lost my partner and the Days seam to be getting worse here not easier, im crying every day. I struggle with the simplist of things. I cant seam to function without him tidy and my teenager has decided he doesn't want to do the simplest of things without kicking off

Comment by Marjorie Willcox on March 2, 2018 at 2:03pm

Morgan how I empathise with you. Life has no meaning for me without my husband and the thought of years to come without him fill me with horror.

Comment by morgan on March 2, 2018 at 1:57pm

I'm deciding how long I am going to put up with the daily misery of missing my husband........I will not face another 10 years of this ...Its just not worth it.

Comment by Linda Engberg on February 20, 2018 at 4:14pm

Thank you, same to you, Thank God for this website


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