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next month will be three years since I lost my husband and I'm failing miserably I am in serious debt I cant fix, I stay home because I have extreme difficulty leaving my house I don't know how to…Continue

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Monty yesterday.

My wife passed 5 days before christmas 7 Replies

Hi AllMy name is Monty and i have become single parent of two special needs boys when i lost my wife and life partner of 25 years, 5 days before Christmas.My wife had Myotonic Dystrophy and other the…Continue

Started by Monty. Last reply by Monty Jul 8.

loost my spouce 4 Replies

Lost my spouce a couple of weeks ago and now what do I do with the rest of my life after 55 years with the same person?Continue

Started by kathy. Last reply by ET May 28.

Healing 18 Replies

Hello,I've been reading the messages here and it's brought back memories of an earlier time in my grief. I feel for each of you. This loss is the most difficult of human struggles -- at least it has…Continue

Tags: joy, on, moving, healing

Started by Trevy Thomas. Last reply by Geraldine Brown May 28.

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Comment by L.O on March 2, 2018 at 2:48pm

Marjorie i have 6 children altogether but he is the oldest, the youngest is not even one yet. The days im not as bad as they all keep me busy but when they are not here or in bed its a nightmare sat here alone

Comment by morgan on March 2, 2018 at 2:47pm

Five years, one month and seven days.......and still counting...

I just cannot do this anymore.  I've tried so hard.  Really hard.  Every year I have thought it was going to diminish "enough" for me to live without feeling him so that I could function without pain.  It is not happening.  

I don't know what it would be like if I had a child I had to attend to because I do not walk in those moccasins but I do know one thing. Grief has changed the way it assaults me over the years.  Its different than the early years.   I just don't know how I am going to be able to keep going.  I'm somewhat ok at times but the grief is always right there.  Waiting to attack. And no one who hasn't gone through this has a clue how destructive this is.

I cry out to the universe....help me.......come get me......I cant do this anymore and no response......just the same overpowering,  overwhelming missing.......this is not living.......not by any stretch of the imagination.  

Sorry for being such a downer and I seem to write when i gets too bad but truly its there every day.  I just push harder on some days to get through......

Comment by Marjorie Willcox on March 2, 2018 at 2:29pm

My dear girl it's so hard for you having to deal with a teenager who's grieving too and that's why they're kicking off. Thinking of you.

Comment by L.O on March 2, 2018 at 2:15pm

Its been 5 months since i lost my partner and the Days seam to be getting worse here not easier, im crying every day. I struggle with the simplist of things. I cant seam to function without him tidy and my teenager has decided he doesn't want to do the simplest of things without kicking off

Comment by Marjorie Willcox on March 2, 2018 at 2:03pm

Morgan how I empathise with you. Life has no meaning for me without my husband and the thought of years to come without him fill me with horror.

Comment by morgan on March 2, 2018 at 1:57pm

I'm deciding how long I am going to put up with the daily misery of missing my husband........I will not face another 10 years of this ...Its just not worth it.

Comment by Linda Engberg on February 20, 2018 at 4:14pm

Thank you, same to you, Thank God for this website

Comment by bluebird on February 20, 2018 at 1:15pm

Just offering a hug and sympathy.

Comment by Linda Engberg on February 20, 2018 at 1:12pm

Hi Bluebird,

What are you trying to let me know?

Linda

Comment by bluebird on February 20, 2018 at 11:01am

(((((Linda)))))

 

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