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Lost my wife 4 Replies

It's been almost a week since i lost my wife to lung disease. She's in my mind 24/7. I don't have anybody else to talk too. I was carred by emotional and physical abuse mostly in my childhood in…Continue

Started by Kyle McKay. Last reply by Kyle McKay on Friday.

Two loves die - Sudden Death worse for griever 3 Replies

7 wksago my live together 10 yrs love collapsed dead in one minute sudden cardiac.I cannot deal with the unfinished business I was working on with him who I love so eyes hurt so much from…Continue

Tags: endings, different, die, loves, Two

Started by CH. Last reply by Marjorie Willcox Feb 6.

Total numbness 22 Replies

It is nearing 2 years since I lost my husband, and I have one week where I think things might be getting better, then the next week I crash into darkness again.I keep thinking something must really…Continue

Started by Maxey. Last reply by Linda Engberg Feb 5.

There Is No Loss 11 Replies

While I admit to being psychologically complex lol, I realize how ignorant I have been. I have spent time going after women who resemble Her in any sort of way. After all the days and nights gazing…Continue

Started by Jon-Paul Ackerman. Last reply by Ericka Jan 23.

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Comment by Jennifer on August 15, 2017 at 8:07pm

I am having such a horrible day.  It has been one month since my husband passed and everything I had to do today kept reminding me he was gone.  Then just a little while ago I forgot for one second and called out to him to ask what he wanted for dinner.  It hit me like a ton of bricks and I couldn't stop crying.  Which in turn upset our kids and that made me cry even harder.  Finally got myself under control but I can tell the smallest thing will set me off again.  Hopefully, it will wait a few hours until the kids are in bed.    

Comment by Elynn m on August 11, 2017 at 10:24am


     I'm so sorry for all of your grief.     It's too bad about your family.    I'm sure they loved Jack.    He sounds like a person that everyone loved, because he made everyone feel like family.   We lost our son when Joe was still alive.    Yes, it was devastating, but I had Joe to grief with me, and we both knew that Jonathan was with Jesus.   I had someone to help me through it, but losing Joe left an empty house.   I understand what you feel about coming home to an empty house.

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Comment by bluebird on August 10, 2017 at 9:20pm


I am sorry you are in this hell too.  Many of us here know what it is like. {{{{hugs}}}}

Comment by Jennifer on August 10, 2017 at 5:31pm

My husband passed last month.  I shift from numb to agonizing despair.  I dont recognize myself in the mirror anymore.  I dont really have a good support system.  I have heard so many times that I am to young to be a widow, that I will find someone new, it will all be alright, that I'm holding up well.  I dont feel like I'm even holding it together let alone doing it well.  He was the love of my life and it doesn't seem like anyone I know understands what that even means let alone losing it.  I have 2 children, 9 and 10, and I am trying my best to help them with their grief.  I am just so unbearably sad and lost.

Comment by Ronnie Luethy on August 7, 2017 at 11:32am

It's almost 3 months since Annette passed. It seems my 'numb' time has ended and I'm back to despair. I stare at pictures and don't understand how she can't be here. I don't feel whole now. James is 14 year old and offers me sympathy and support. He is so strong. Im trying to do things, but my confusion and despair keep interrupting. righting this helps because I don't know anyone in my life who understands this. 

Comment by Beth Swansboro on August 4, 2017 at 1:43pm

My nook needs recharged so I have to go. I will be coming on here now. Look forward to finding new friends here.

Comment by Beth Swansboro on August 4, 2017 at 1:40pm

I lost my Bob a year and a half ago and it still feels like yesterday. We were high school sweetheartstudents married almost 42 yrs. I have an only child an adult son. I am so list now and I work on trying to realize he would want me to go on but I am just not getting there. I meant to say h,s. Sweet hearts, my son is very lost without his dad. We both are like the day we lost him our lives stopped. Our plans on retirement together will not happen now. My Mum passed 18 months before my husband. I got a double whammy. Kim I know how you feel, still want to see him come home from work with his smile hello. Holding hands when we went to sleep. They tell us things get better. I guess they will but Kim we will always miss them. I cry a lot. I get mad and then try and think of a happy memory.  Unless someone has lost their love of their life they can'take understand. People will try and help but it does not help. Friends mean well but again they don't understand  our loss, I will keep you in my prayers and we can keep in touch here. ☺

Comment by Elynn m on August 1, 2017 at 5:08pm
Kim, I can see why you miss him so much. He was a wonderful man who touched a lot of lives, that's how my husband, Joe, was. Everywhere he went he touched someone's life. He had a gift of encouragement, and made strangers feel like they were family!
Comment by Nancy on July 27, 2017 at 3:52pm
I'm right there with you all. I'm not interested in taking care of myself. I don't have the energy or desire right now. I'm doing good to get up in the morning...
Comment by Paul on July 27, 2017 at 12:30pm
How do we continue on when The One who chose to be with us for the remainder of our lives is no longer here? The One who has experienced life's ups and downs with you? The One who has raised a family with you? The One who shared happy as well as sad times with you? The One whose mere presence made everything OK again? I know these questions are unanswerable but this is where I find myself these days. Love to all who are unfortunately in the same situation.

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