Lost my spouce a couple of weeks ago and now what do I do with the rest of my life after 55 years with the same person?

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Kathy,

The best online support group I found is "Grief Healing Discussion Groups", my Husband has been gone 5 years and everyday is still hell, this site you on now did not help. 

Linda

 

The discussion groups, are they on this web site?

Kathy,

The group I belong to is "Still Mourn Husband after 5 Years" they also have other groups or you can start your own.

Linda

Boy do I get this as well!  I know for certain I don't want to be stuck in this place.  I have completed the things that have to be done so what comes next?  Can't have what I want so badly.

I am slowly learning to redirect when sads come.  I remind myself I control my thinking.  What, if anything, am I getting by tears?  I can say it is ok, I can say a few minutes or I can say move forward.  

My daughter, a young widow of 12 years, says I can change OUR house to my house!  That thinking can keep me busy sometimes.  

People don't get it anymore my need to talk about him.....he is always on my mind....  just trying to think of him without sharing seems to be making those thoughts special to me only and I like that.

Intimacy lost. God! Help me!

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