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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Debbie Lindley on June 26, 2009 at 12:41pm
I lost my mother to Bial Duct cancer in October 2008. It has been very difficult for the whole family. Cancer is so terrible. No one is immune it seems.
Comment by lyris on June 25, 2009 at 6:52pm
June 3rd 1985 my dad passed away from cancer
June 3rd 1993 my grandma passed away
june 18th 2008 i lost my mom to cancer. June 27th is her birthday.
when my dad died when i was 15 it was just my mom and i.
She was my mom but she also was my best friend.
i feel like someone ripped out my heart.

my husband and i took care of her the 5 months she was sick. And we live in the same house. Its hard for me to go in her bedroom. I get overwhelming sense of sadness.
I dont feel her around me and it scares me. She wrote me letters and put them everywhere in the house and she always put have faith and hope.
but its really hard.
I get told as time goes on it gets easier but I dont feel that way.
i miss her sooo much.
Comment by Lauren Bosi on June 23, 2009 at 11:49pm
It doesn't seem to get better. Here it is 12:47am and all I can think about is Tracey. I miss her so much it hurts so bad. I really want to see her again and I really want to go back to just before she went into the hospital the last time. I would do so many things different.
Comment by Katherine Ellis on June 23, 2009 at 11:24pm
Rodney I am sorry to hear about your son. When we lost our daughter I came to this site and it has helped me find some peace. I have also found some very special friends. I hope it will do the same for you. Gods blessings to you and your family. (((((((((HUGS))))))))))
Comment by Rodney Reinhardt on June 23, 2009 at 9:10pm
We lost our son Chris Oct. 3, 07 to non Hodgkins Lymphoma. It was about 2 years ago that things were starting to go very bad. He was loved by so many friends and family. It's still hard to believe he had cancer let alone that he died.
Comment by Katherine Ellis on June 4, 2009 at 7:11pm
At least you have that memory to hang onto Lauren. Try to remember she is at peace now, no more pain, no more seizures. It's us, the ones left behind that have to deal with the loss and pain. I have also lost my daughter and It does get better but it takes a great amount of time. Please know that all of us on this web site are here to help you. You can write me anytime you want to vent or cry. (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))
Comment by Lauren Bosi on June 4, 2009 at 4:53pm
You know in your heart that you were close enough to being her real daughter. And your Mom knows you were there.

I went to every Dr's appt, surgery and chemo with my sister, but we didn't know how "Bad" it was because my sister never wanted to know, therefore we really didn't know the end was coming. I just wish her Dr. said "screw this hipa law" and told us. I would have done so much more and I would have cherrished the little time we had. One week before going into the hospital, the last time, my family, my sister and her husband went to the Jersey shore and had a GREAT weekend. She was great! We played miniture golf, went out to dinner, went to the beach and then not even 6 days later she was having seizures and then she was gone.
Comment by Katherine Ellis on June 4, 2009 at 4:40pm
Lauren I know what you mean, when Mom was dying she had a mini stoke and could talk or communticate, she went very fast and I feel I didn't take good enough care of her. Because I wasn't her real daughter her family tried to shut me out. If only all of us could have that last hug, but that wouldn't be enough. To everyone out there (((((hugs)))))))
Comment by Lauren Bosi on June 4, 2009 at 4:08pm
I lost me dear sweet sister a year and a half ago to breast cancer. She was only 43. She was my best friend I mean really my best friend. I talked to her everyday and saw her all the time. She only live an hour and a half from me. I am not over her death. It's getting harder instead of easier. I cry everyday and re-live her last 6 weeks in the hospital like it was happening now. I never really got to say anything to her because her cancer went to her brain and caused siezures over night. She went on medication immediately and I never had "my" sister after that. She was in a drugged state for the last 6 weeks of her life. I want her back. I need to know if she is ok and out of pain. I need to hug and kiss her one more time and tell her how sorry I am that I didn't take better care of her.
Comment by Kar on June 3, 2009 at 9:45pm
I lost Father in law to Brain Cancer in 1991 -
My father to Stomach Cancer in 2002.
And a very young 16 yr old friend is fighting to survive and loosing his fight with brain cancer that has left him blind since he was 2yrs old.
I am really heartbroken for him & his family - as some of you know I am suffering loosing my 16yr old son in 07 to an accident. I so want to help him & his family but- know all too well I cant help. And that is very very hard & heartbreaking.
 

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