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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Stephanie on October 2, 2009 at 11:39am
This morning has been a bad morning. I lost my father to cancer 1 year and 6 months ago. The 1st year was the worst year of my life so far. I'm not sure what triggered the sadness and uncontrollable crying today...probably anything, thats how it usually is. I heard this song "my ship has finally come" and instead of me listening to it and thinking positive things I could only think of my father in Hospice dying waiting on this "ship" and how I feel like he really was not ready to get on the "ship" but he know he had no choice. Does that make any sense. I hope I am wrong but I guess today I feel sad because I know he wasn't ready to die. Now, who is ready to die....I know most people don't really want to die but I don't know how else to explain it. He knew he was dying but not ready to die so soon (within months). Even though he was extremely sick, I think myabe he thought he would beat it, or the doctors would do some kind of surgery to give him more time. Then on the other hand, I knwo he was tired of being sick and not able to care for himself. I feel like an idiot like I'm not explaining this right. Anyway, I hope the members of this group that loss someone to the horrible demon of cancer understands me. Sometimes I miss my dad so much it feels like I can't breathe. I am praying for everyone.
Comment by Julie Dolsey-Weiss on September 30, 2009 at 2:42pm
I find it amazing that as an adult I need my parents love & support so very much and they are gone. Nodody loved me, cared for me and listened to me like they do. I am still mostly numb right now but I know the pain will come through.
Comment by Diana on September 29, 2009 at 7:33pm
right now thinking and remembering the good times just make me cry like right now. And I want more with him. it just hurts. And I know it takes time. I hate this sadness.
Comment by Katherine Ellis on September 29, 2009 at 6:37pm
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope someday the tears stop for you and you can remember all the good times. I know it doesn't help fill your arms, your heart. But that thought has gotten me through the loss of our daughter. Your grief is so new yet. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Comment by Diana on September 26, 2009 at 10:30pm
I have lost my husband to a very aggressive lung cancer on July 20, 2009.
I looked all my life for the right man and I found him 11 years ago and now he is gone and I am so very lost.I am so sad and crying all the time and I so want him to be with me again. i know he is happy and I did not want him to suffer but now I dont know how to go on.
Comment by Jacob Michael scott McLeod-Steinmetz on September 26, 2009 at 12:36am

Team Leukaemia sux!” remembering Jacob
Our family are raising money for the Leukaemia foundation’s” light the Night”( On the 8th of October )
In memory of our son Jacob who lost his battle to AML,
( acute myeloid Leukaemia)
1 day before his 14th Birthday after a courageous fight
Every cent helps please donate if you can at http://my.imisfriendraising.com.au/personalPage.aspx?registrationID=302644
Thank you with love always Jacob’s mum
Comment by Katherine Ellis on September 22, 2009 at 5:07pm
Julie & Katie, I think one of the hardest things to get through is the quilt of still being here. When our daughter died I felt if I started feeling better, smiling at something I would somehow leave her behind. I have gotten past that now. Like your Mom I know our daughter would want me to be happy. I'm glad to hear you are on some medication. It has helped me a lot. People say that after awhile we adjust better to it. I'm hanging onto that thought.
Comment by Katie Grace on September 17, 2009 at 8:21am
Im doing alright, Ive been somewhat stressed with other things in my life and feeling a little down. Today Im feeling a little better though. Thankfully I have an amazing support system so that really helps and I know that I will get through it. Im glad medication is helping you feel more stable and that you are feeling good today. I know what you mean sometimes about feeling guilty about being happy and my mom would have wanted me to be happy as well and not be sad because of her.
Comment by Julie Dolsey-Weiss on September 16, 2009 at 9:42pm
When I feel happy then it turns to guilt, how can I be happy when my mom has just died. But I know that she always wanted me to be happy. I am taking some medication and it helping keeping me more stable, so i feel good today. Though I had a tooth pulled and it hurts! I will be better tomorrow. How are you doing?
Comment by Katie Grace on September 16, 2009 at 8:42pm
Thanks...I definately have good days and bad days. Ever since my mother was diagnosed, my emotions have been up and down and I feel like Im on an emotional rollercoaster at times. Each day is different and I, like you, have learned to take things one day at a time.
 

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