Losing Someone to Cancer


Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did. 11 Replies

Started by Michael Thompson. Last reply by morgan May 12, 2019.

Give yourself time to heal

Started by Felicia Evans May 8, 2018.

Still lost and broken 2 Replies

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Pamela philipp Jan 5, 2018.

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Comment by St. Brigid on Monday

Surprised by Joy

Surprised by joy—impatient as the Wind
I turned to share the transport—Oh! with whom
But Thee, long buried in the silent Tomb,
That spot which no vicissitude can find?
Love, faithful love, recalled thee to my mind—
But how could I forget thee?—Through what power,
Even for the least division of an hour,
Have I been so beguiled as to be blind
To my most grievous loss!—That thought’s return
Was the worst pang that sorrow ever bore,
Save one, one only, when I stood forlorn,
Knowing my heart’s best treasure was no more;
That neither present time, nor years unborn
Could to my sight that heavenly face restore.
Comment by Joe Kelly on Monday

St. Brigid,

Sorry for your loss.  I too feel so alone, sad, empty and lost.  I lost my darling wife over two years ago and as time goes by, I get worse.  I wait for death to be reunited with her in her realm and the sooner the better.  We spent all but the first 15 years of our life together, married at 19 for 48 years.  She gave me the most wonderful life a man can have.  I live in HELL now waiting.  We have 4 children and 8 grands and with this virus, I can't even visit for fear of getting them sick.  Our cemetery closed to visitors on March 21st. I had been going there every day since she passed over.  So here I sit alone with only calls from my children.  I'm grateful for the 17 years we spent as empty nesters and the last 8 years retired, together 24/7/365 joined at the hip.  We traveled a lot, golfed together often, and were like teen aged lovers.  All I do is suffer and wait for the cancer I think I have or this virus to come and get me and take me to her.

I'm sorry you had to find your way here but know you are not alone here.  We all feel the pain and share our feelings (mostly despair), so post often.  We don't judge here; we identify with each others feelings.


Comment by St. Brigid on Sunday

I just finished up everything with my once in a lifetime's friends estate. I spent two and half months in TX, a thousand miles away from friends and family dealing with it. Now, paperwork filed away, estate lawyer paid, bills taken care, it and his life is over. It is so final I couldn't be more devastated and alone. I try to call him several times a day like we always talked, but since I have his phone, all I hear is empty ringing across the house. Impossible to bear sometimes that he isn't going to call back.

I write in a small notebook my thoughts when I have them, my feelings when I feel them, but nothing has been coming to me in the past five days but pure utter despair. It is the worst it has been since I sent him off on Dec. 20th. I expected this to be harder when I got home than it was in his house in Texas but couldn't have anticipated this.

Now with the COVID-19 going around, the people I could turn to a month ago are now in such panic, such pain, such grief for the change in the world, that I have no one to turn to. Even my therapist can only talk about the virus. I am lost and alone. I think to call David who I didn't see for 13 years until I saw him in the ICU dying and sometimes I do call; since I have his cell here up and running for bill contacts, I will it hear it ring on the kitchen table and then I remember..Our twice or thrice a day phone chats are over and I can only hear his voice in my head.

I feel so alone. So sad. So empty. So lost.

Comment by dream moon JO B on March 25, 2020 at 5:00pm
















Comment by Linda Engberg on August 23, 2019 at 5:32am

Hi Dream Moon,

I hate the big C also.

Comment by dream moon JO B on August 22, 2019 at 6:02pm

i hateeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee


i hateeeeeeeeeeeeee lozzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz coz of big c

im 44 sean somushh siffin sorry if im rantin justt i need 2 let go coz of big c lpluss othr illness 2 i do 

Comment by dream moon JO B on August 22, 2019 at 5:59pm

i do not luv bigc

now iv fw mro frinds its got termil big c sum few yrs oldr thnme just undr 50 

few peppel weari livs gotbig c'

wish i cud shoot big c lk dem/ALZ in to md of nowear sp no 1 cud get it'

Comment by Linda Engberg on July 11, 2019 at 5:59am

Hi M Adams,

Thank you for your kindness. Each year on his birthday I plant a tree or bush in his memory. Yesterday I bought this plague for my garden.

Comment by M Adams on July 10, 2019 at 7:10pm

Linda, hope your day is uplifted by beautiful memories of celebrations you shared with Julian.  Do you have any special ritual or observance for his birthday?  Acknowledging such days is challenging for me, yet I do want to honour them.  

Comment by Linda Engberg on July 10, 2019 at 6:07am

Today is Julian's birthday. I miss him so much

Thanks for your post Morgan. You put into words what I have a hard time expressing.


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