Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-28T16:31:45Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorganhttp://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/2767216030?profile=original&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/group/losingsomeonetocancer/forum/topic/listForContributor?user=374z8x2tyuaby&feed=yes&xn_auth=noLost Dad to Lung Cancertag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2020-04-16:2054931:Topic:3374062020-04-16T14:43:50.927Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
<p>On March 12 my last living hero passed away from lung cancer. He was always the rock that everyone leaned on. No matter what happened or how mad/disappointed in us he became he always told us he loved us unconditionally and everything would be ok. But its not ok. When me and my wife returned from the funeral she passed away a week after he was buried from pneumonia. I don't know what to do. My step children wont speak to me. My family is half way across the country so I have no support from…</p>
<p>On March 12 my last living hero passed away from lung cancer. He was always the rock that everyone leaned on. No matter what happened or how mad/disappointed in us he became he always told us he loved us unconditionally and everything would be ok. But its not ok. When me and my wife returned from the funeral she passed away a week after he was buried from pneumonia. I don't know what to do. My step children wont speak to me. My family is half way across the country so I have no support from them nor can I support them after losing the best man ive ever known. The only thing that has kept me from ending it all is the fact that I promised both Dad and my Wife that I wouldn't do something like that. But this is Hell. I just don't know what to do anymore.</p> Give yourself time to healtag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-05-08:2054931:Topic:3223452018-05-08T20:36:03.657Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
<p>Hi,</p>
<p>I am so sorry for your loss. it's only been 2 weeks. Allow yourself time to grieve. There is no time limit. I would encourage you to either join a grief group in your local area or get a grief counseling. This has helped me.</p>
<p>Everyone grieves in their own way. No one can tell you when to stop. You will never get over the passing of your loved one, but in time you will get through it.</p>
<p>Meanwhile, take care of you. Take a long walk in the park or around your…</p>
<p>Hi,</p>
<p>I am so sorry for your loss. it's only been 2 weeks. Allow yourself time to grieve. There is no time limit. I would encourage you to either join a grief group in your local area or get a grief counseling. This has helped me.</p>
<p>Everyone grieves in their own way. No one can tell you when to stop. You will never get over the passing of your loved one, but in time you will get through it.</p>
<p>Meanwhile, take care of you. Take a long walk in the park or around your neighborhood. Treat yourself to something special. Plant a tree in her name or volunteer to help others..sometimes it helps us when we help others. But above all, take care of you. Remember, "Put the mask on yourself first" then try and help someone else.</p>
<p>It's been tough for me. It's been 4 years since my mom passed away, and 4 short months after she passed, my favorite (more like a little brother) nephew passed away suddenly. I am still grieving (from time to time). Sometimes I can remember them with a smile, but there are times I allow myself time to cry.</p>
<p>If anyone tells you to "just get over it," they are wrong and you may need to re-evaluate your friendship/relationship with that person.</p>
<p>There are definitely 5-7 stages of grief, and they don't come in no particular order. I am sending prayers your way. Stay strong. Peace be with you.</p>
<p>My faith in God and spending time with Him helpes me too.</p>
<p>Hugs to you.</p>
<p>Sincerely,</p>
<p>Lisa</p> Still lost and brokentag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-01-05:2054931:Topic:3185462018-01-05T01:50:55.525Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
<p>two Years ago I lost the love of my life since then I have been just existing I cry myself to sleep every night and I cry everyday I don’t how people can say in time things get better nothing gets better I haven’t been on this site in quite awhile but this is the only place I can vent every one around me thinks I’m fine but I’m broken and will forever be broken my family and friends (so called) have abandoned me also eight days before I lost my husband I lost my mother so to say I’m…</p>
<p>two Years ago I lost the love of my life since then I have been just existing I cry myself to sleep every night and I cry everyday I don’t how people can say in time things get better nothing gets better I haven’t been on this site in quite awhile but this is the only place I can vent every one around me thinks I’m fine but I’m broken and will forever be broken my family and friends (so called) have abandoned me also eight days before I lost my husband I lost my mother so to say I’m grieving is an understatement the pain is unbearable some people say I should talk to someone a therapist or counselor what good would that do would it bring my husband back no would it bring my mother back no would it make my pain any less no what’s the point do I think it would make me feel better no the more time that goes by the worse I feel.</p> Losing another loved one to cancertag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-06-14:2054931:Topic:3072082017-06-14T13:39:12.559Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
<p>I lost my uncle in 2009. It was hard to watch him go through it, especially when my dad and my aunt were both fighting cancer at the time too, but we all toughed it out. Then in 2011, my dad lost his fight and went to be with his brother in law. Worst pain I've ever felt in my whole life, and the sheer enormity of the loss still takes my breath away and brings me to tears regularly. Three months later, we lost my aunt, and she went to be with the love of her life and her brother. My young…</p>
<p>I lost my uncle in 2009. It was hard to watch him go through it, especially when my dad and my aunt were both fighting cancer at the time too, but we all toughed it out. Then in 2011, my dad lost his fight and went to be with his brother in law. Worst pain I've ever felt in my whole life, and the sheer enormity of the loss still takes my breath away and brings me to tears regularly. Three months later, we lost my aunt, and she went to be with the love of her life and her brother. My young cousins were left orphans, and my grandparents were left with no children. That isn't how it's meant to go. But we all did our best to keep going and keep some kind of forward motion as my sister, cousins and I are still reasonably young and deserve lives of our own. Fast forward to last year. My grandfather ( the same guy who lost both his kids in three months ) was diagnosed with cancer. We all took a deep breath and got him to his treatments, updated relatives overseas, comforted and supported my grandmother, and generally tried to remain positive. Because surely it couldn't happen again, right? Surely life isn't that cruel, right? Miraculously, he went into remission. We were all besides ourselves. Then he developed a cough and was coughing up blood. Ice in our veins and a cold chill shuddered through us. Once again we got him to all his appointments and tried to remain positive, as much as for him as for ourselves. The cancer had spread to his lung. Further scans etc revealed it had also spread to his stomach and all through him, and we were informed last week that we have four months max. Holding my grandmother while she cried and said ' cancer took both my children and my son in law, and now it's going to take my husband ' ,was just shattering. What do you say to that? There are no words. She said she was going to go with him when the time comes, and as much as I'm not sure I can bear to lose them both at once, I totally understand why she feels that way. I've been doing my best to support them as we move through all the steps I am now so agonisingly familiar with, but to be honest, I really don't know if I can do this again. I just don't feel like I have the inner strength to do this for the fifth time ( did I mention a very close friend of mine died from cancer a couple of years ago? ). Of course, in reality I have no choice. I have to get through it and help my grandmother as much as I can. And I will. No question. But there are nights, like tonight, where I rail against the cruelty of it and the unfairness, and I allow myself to feel the desperation and the abject terror of facing it all over again, and I want to flee and hide. I need you guys to remind me how we all keep going, no matter how unbearable the pain in our souls get....</p> I Wish Someone Will Take Care of the Paperworks for Freetag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-03-19:2054931:Topic:3022602017-03-19T15:38:56.330Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
I wish the world will leave me alone so I can continue helping myself feel better. My partner hated it when I felt anxious or sad. Even when he was sick, he didn't want me to be sad. I took a break from my contract work after my partner passed away from non small cell lung adenocarcinoma. I needed time to just clear my mind.<br />
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But I have to face the world now and deal with all the paperworks associated with my partner's death. It is painful to look at his death certificate. What's even more…
I wish the world will leave me alone so I can continue helping myself feel better. My partner hated it when I felt anxious or sad. Even when he was sick, he didn't want me to be sad. I took a break from my contract work after my partner passed away from non small cell lung adenocarcinoma. I needed time to just clear my mind.<br />
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But I have to face the world now and deal with all the paperworks associated with my partner's death. It is painful to look at his death certificate. What's even more painful is looking at the claim forms that you have to fill in. I feel like I am disrespecting my partner's memory claiming all these things. But if I don't then the government will just take it away. It's so sad.<br />
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I am aware that other people are suffering too. Some people don't have time to hit pause because they can't. I am so sorry and I apologise if I sound like I'm whining for nothing.<br />
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I also felt upset that our landlady demanded that I pay one month rent after she told me to take my time removing our things from our apartment. What's more upsetting was that she said she called the government agency here in Australia that deals with Lease and Rentals and told me that the bond money my partner payed when he moved in the unit will now go to her. Anyway, I payed the rent so I could part with her in good terms but her greediness had astounded me. I never want to see her again. Nothing good can come out of greediness and I hope she gets what she deserves. I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did.tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-02-28:2054931:Topic:3005082017-02-28T12:31:40.633Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
<p>Hi everybody, its been 2 and a half years now since I lost my lady wife to cancer, and I feel worse now than I ever did.</p>
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<p>I am constantly bursting into tears, particularly when I have to do shopping or something, because nothing matters anymore, im like a zombie, just going through the motions until my time comes ?</p>
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<p>It is hard to realise that losing a husband or wife is the most natural thing, so I have to ask why do those left behind have to face such mental and…</p>
<p>Hi everybody, its been 2 and a half years now since I lost my lady wife to cancer, and I feel worse now than I ever did.</p>
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<p>I am constantly bursting into tears, particularly when I have to do shopping or something, because nothing matters anymore, im like a zombie, just going through the motions until my time comes ?</p>
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<p>It is hard to realise that losing a husband or wife is the most natural thing, so I have to ask why do those left behind have to face such mental and psychological torture ?, because that's what it is, torture. ?</p>
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<p>I find the mood swings attached to grief and grieving, are diabolical.</p>
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<p>Any comments would be appreciated.</p>
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<p>Michael</p> Stupid cancer commercialstag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-12-26:2054931:Topic:2965962016-12-26T21:36:36.489Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
Why is it that theyhave to keep putting those Stupid commercials on TV every time I see them I turn the mute button on and cry for hours I'm sick of these commercials why can't they just stop putting them on TV don't people know how hurtful they are just hearing the word is enough I wish there was a way to stop them
Why is it that theyhave to keep putting those Stupid commercials on TV every time I see them I turn the mute button on and cry for hours I'm sick of these commercials why can't they just stop putting them on TV don't people know how hurtful they are just hearing the word is enough I wish there was a way to stop them <3 Sissy S.B. <3tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-07-26:2054931:Topic:2841852016-07-26T17:46:21.340Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
<p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">I lost my 18 Year old Sister to Cancer on May 14, 2014. This day has changed me forever, I wasn't and still aren't the same person I was. When we first found out that she had cancer - we knew that time was very precious. At first it was rough on so many levels, she started losing hair - instead of watching her hair fall out she decided she wanted to just shave it and get it over with. I loved her beautiful bald head and sometimes we'd call it…</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">I lost my 18 Year old Sister to Cancer on May 14, 2014. This day has changed me forever, I wasn't and still aren't the same person I was. When we first found out that she had cancer - we knew that time was very precious. At first it was rough on so many levels, she started losing hair - instead of watching her hair fall out she decided she wanted to just shave it and get it over with. I loved her beautiful bald head and sometimes we'd call it "Peach fuzz" haha. She needed humor to look on the brighter side of things. Soon enough she was being made fun of at school, people would make comments. If only I was a teenager for just a little while, I surely would have taken care of that problem in heart beat. I know that's not the answer to the problem - but its surely what I had in mind. </span></p>
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<p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">After awhile Sarah couldn't go to school because her treatments. But by damn she still did all of her work on time while feeling crappy and stuck at home in bed. She worked so hard, kept in contact with all her teachers to make sure things got done. I was so proud of her and how much she accomplished during her difficult times, she worked so hard for what she wanted. Having her diploma was very important to her, she wanted to be able to cross that off her bucket list and she did!</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">I could talk about my little sister for hours and tell you all the things that we've had to endure or what she had to go through. But for right now, I am STILL struggling after 2 years, I still feel what I felt the day she passed away. The pain, the thoughts, the images in my head, the smells, the memories, EVERYTHING about Sarah - it never leaves my mind. My mind is still so wrapped around by the thought of her, and this exhausting journey without her is draining. Apart of me still believes that she's just on a really long trip far far away and eventually she'll come back. But then it's like reality hits me all over again and pushes me back down.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">I miss her dearly, and recently I found out if you see 11:11 on the clock or just randomly see the numbers together somewhere that it means that it's your angel. I'm not sure how true that is, but I do see 11:11 at least once a day - and I could be doing ANYTHING but always managing to see those numbers. Its crazy, but cool at the same time. So being told that, kind of gives me a little comfort. But at the same time, I feel that its not enough. I want more, I want her to come into my dreams and visit (I've had family say that they've dreamed about Sarah). I am ever so jealous of them, I have yet to dream about Sarah - I want to hear her, I want to see her smile, I want to hear her laugh, I want to hug her and catch up with her. She was my human walking diary, she was my other half, She was my person. I know I'm not alone and I have people that love me and care for me - but I've never felt so alone in my entire life now that she's gone.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">Like I said, I could talk for hours about my sister - But life calls and I must go lol. I'm hoping that these groups will help me, seeing as how I really don't have the greatest support system. And talking, writing - helps me so things don't build up because I HAVE to talk about her in order to survive this. Everyone is living their lives and here I am......lost. I lost myself and I'm trying to get her back. </span></p>
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<p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">~Amber</span></p> Completely Losttag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-05-20:2054931:Topic:2794592016-05-20T05:21:20.594Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
I lost my best friend of 21 years on the 17th of April, he had metastasized lung cancer after fighting for 2 years and surviving odds 3 times. He did not just not wake up, he fought to the very last second. He was at the hospice house, he was fighting o get out of the bed till the very last second, he was suffocating due to the fluid in his lung and kept looking at me to help him. There was nothing I could do, the nurses at the hospice were giving him the Meds to help calm him down, but nothing…
I lost my best friend of 21 years on the 17th of April, he had metastasized lung cancer after fighting for 2 years and surviving odds 3 times. He did not just not wake up, he fought to the very last second. He was at the hospice house, he was fighting o get out of the bed till the very last second, he was suffocating due to the fluid in his lung and kept looking at me to help him. There was nothing I could do, the nurses at the hospice were giving him the Meds to help calm him down, but nothing worked. He finally laid back and it was over. How do I get over the guilt I feel, how is it I have to stay? How do I get past watching him struggle like he did over and over in my head? How do I get past feeling like I let him down? I keep hearing people talk about how their loved one came back to let them know they were ok, why hasn't he come back to me? Why doesn't this heart wrenching pain go away or at least become less so I feel like I can function?<br />
I realize there are most likely no answers to my question but I really feel I am going to spend the rest of my days looking for something that is nit there. Maybe I am going through what I was meant to. Missing momtag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-05-09:2054931:Topic:2785752016-05-09T23:48:46.485Zmorganhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/mmorgan
I lost my mom to breast cancer last year in April, when I was 16, now I'm in my senior year and so close to graduation that I am really thinking about all the things she is going to miss in my life... She already missed my sisters graduation from university and the birth of her first grandchild.<br />
She won't be there at my graduation, prom, first day at college, getting my first apartment, my first job, my marriage(s), birth of my children(s), none of it...<br />
I have been missing school a lot lately,…
I lost my mom to breast cancer last year in April, when I was 16, now I'm in my senior year and so close to graduation that I am really thinking about all the things she is going to miss in my life... She already missed my sisters graduation from university and the birth of her first grandchild.<br />
She won't be there at my graduation, prom, first day at college, getting my first apartment, my first job, my marriage(s), birth of my children(s), none of it...<br />
I have been missing school a lot lately, depressed, feeling empty and there is nothing I can do about it. I just wish she was here.<br />
I was always so close to my mom and we have great memories together, but I don't remember a day when this cancer wasn't taking over her life. She was sick for 6 years and there was nothing I could do but watch her slowly die...