Losing a Grandparent


Losing a Grandparent

A lot of people seem to think that just because a person is older, the loss of them is more easily accepted. I, for one, would like to deeply disagree. Love is love, and loss is loss, no matter the age.

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Comment by Traci Ann on July 19, 2016 at 12:13am

I am just a young woman trying to figure out how to go with life at times. It will be a year on August 8, 2016 since I lost my Grandmother. A woman who help care for me since I was a baby. I was her world. I miss her so much on top of everyone else. I don't know what to think or do some of the times. I just miss how things were when I was growing up. Does the pain ever get easier? Of course it may in time but with everything I been through I still try to hold on for her and parents. So I can make them proud of me. But I miss her and them more than anything in this world. :( 

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Comment by Kara Janssan on August 3, 2013 at 8:30pm

I lost both my Pop and Grandpa. 

My pop had had many strokes and heart attacks and my grandpa had nothing really wrong. He died of a Aortic aneurysm in his heart. almost 5 years ago. 

Comment by Deborah on July 24, 2013 at 3:33pm

I lost my grandma, the first of my 4 grandparents, on June 18, 2013.  While she suffered for the last 2.5 years of her life and isn't suffering now, I am having a very hard time with her passing.  She was a 2nd mother to me.


I always hope to see her when I go into her house/bedroom.  The empty space their kills me and makes me so sad.  The fact that she will never again give me a kiss or hold my hand makes me so upset.  I know she is at peace and isn't suffering, which is some consolation, but I feel a huge hole/void in my life.


Even within the first 5 weeks since her passing the "firsts" are a killer.  Speaking of her in past tense, saying that I am going into "grandma's house," saying that I am going home to visit my mom and grandparentS.  I can't even begin to fathom how her birthday, anniversary, and the holidays will be.


I can't even bring myself to go to the cemetery.  The thought of going there to "see" my grandma makes me sick.  And yet I miss her so deeply.


I feel very unglued by this loss.  I truly know it is for the best but I am struggling.

Comment by Helen Sloan on May 20, 2013 at 1:31pm
I lost my last living grandparent almost two months ago. He passed peacefully in his sleep. I miss him so bad I went out and bought a ring to remember him by and a shadow box to but his picture shell casing and flower I have in it to put up in my room.
Comment by nancy on December 30, 2012 at 11:11pm

I lost my Gran 2/28/08 and not a day or minute goes by that i dont still feel the pain like it was yesterday. She was my everything and without her i just feel lost and empty inside.

Comment by Ray Redmond on September 10, 2012 at 8:32pm

This past Friday will be six months since I lost my grandma. There many times that I felt that she was the one person in my life who truly loved me. When she passed away I was massaging her feet for her and even though I did not see her draw her last breath, I was the first of 25 family members around her that knew that she had passed. I still carry a ton of guilt because I was the one that signed the authorization for an operation that eventually lead to her demise. The surgery was 2 days before she passed. I was numb for three months partially because I was the one that had to be strong for my grandfather and my aunts. During the last three months it has occurred to me that I will never be able to take her for her walks anymore, that I will never be able to help her cook Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter dinners anymore but everyone has come to peace with it and tells me that 'it will be okay, you need to move on because she can not rest in peace knowing that you are still acting like this' which makes me feel that worse with them telling me that. I just have no idea what to do or where to turn. 

Comment by jennifer wickham on August 31, 2012 at 9:34pm

its been almost five months since my grandma has passed from a stroke. i know everyone goes through this kinda of thing but my grandparents raised me. in the last 2 years my grandma and i were so close, never thought we would be, im so thankful for that. i just got to keep strong for my grandpa hes really all i got or other way around. everyone else is too busy. i started college finally i hope my grandma is pround of me. cause ive been out of school for 7 years. hope days get better

Comment by JO B on August 16, 2012 at 3:53pm

my granmother died wen i woz a tean yrs ago ivkept all this inside me for yrs this web site woke me up to how many people iv lost and never got over 

Comment by Jaylean Wilson on May 22, 2012 at 1:10am

It's been a month and a few days since I lost my grandmother. My heart aches all the time and depression is starting to set in more then ever. My stomach hasn't been right since she passed. I keep thinking of that day over and over, how they kept her alive long enough for me to make it down there and say goodbye. I had to come back to KS a few weeks after her passing, all of my family is back in TX and OK. I don't have anyone to talk to here, at least while I was down in TX I was around family, I feel so alone. It's getting close to what would have been her 74th birthday. I miss her very much! 


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