Losing Someone to Drug Overdose

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Losing Someone to Drug Overdose

If you've lost someone you loved due to them overdosing on drugs, let's talk about it here.

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Heroin finally won 2 Replies

We lost our oldest son, Justin on 5/1/17.  He was 31 yrs old. He was a truck driver and they say he died of an accidental overdose. He had a past problem with drugs but was living with us after his…Continue

Started by Clem. Last reply by Clem Jun 12.

Lost my daughter of a heroin overdose 3 Replies

She is gone forever  May22, 2016, can't believe it, tears never stop... Missing her a lot, heart aching... She was 24 y.o. and only child. ((((((((((Continue

Started by Lana G.. Last reply by Clem Jun 12.

My son died of a drug overdose. 10 Replies

I had no idea he used. He was 28 and had just gotten his PhD. It took 5 months to get the toxicology report and learn just exactly what he had done. The condition of his heart revealed that he had…Continue

Started by Amy B.. Last reply by S Johnson Feb 9.

Lost of my father

Hello everyone I would like to start off by saying iam sorry for your lost and hope u find peace at the end of the storm. I just lost my father on April 25th and my world is completely shattered. As…Continue

Started by Tee May 9, 2016.

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Comment by Nikki on July 7, 2017 at 11:57am
Hi B, I would highly recommend checking out Camp Kerry. It is a three night camp that helps families who have lost a loved one. There is an Atlantic one, so maybe it would be fairly close to you. The web address is http://campkerrysociety.org I attended last year with my three kids and we will be going again in September. If money is an issue, they will help you with the cost of attending. We also lost my kids dad to an overdose. Fentynal. Feb. 2016. I can't tell you it will ever get easier, but you do get stronger to carry the burden.
Comment by B.Windsor on July 6, 2017 at 5:54pm

What do you do when the anger sets in?  i really didn't think i'd have this immense surge of anger, especially when i can't pinpoint who, why, etc.  i know i feel at least some anger for my daughter, even though she's gone, simply because she's not physically here to see her son grow and mature.  But, whenever i try to focus on the anger, it tends to flow over and makes me feel like things will never get any better.  i just don't know how to process grief. Death has been present in my life, for as long as i can remember.  Processing it and healing have not really been at the top of the list to get through things, though.  Seems kinda backwards, i guess.  But, i've dealt with things as well as i've been able to....Now, since February 15th, i feel like i'm never going to find any truth, other than what i've read on the reports.  i'm so tired of the games people tend to play.  Shelby didn't deserve this and i guess i'll forever question when/how i went wrong.  So tired....

Comment by B.Windsor on May 15, 2017 at 6:46pm

My daughter, Shelby, died 15 Feb 2017 of an overdose from a variety of opiods.  These things are so dangerous, and it's so easy to get them.  Since i've been in Canada, my ex wasn't even going to let me know she'd died, but i guess someone must've convinced him to let me know, the day after.  There's a lot i still don't know, and probably never will.  i have to believe that the few months prior to February weren't a total lie, since we'd started reconnecting, or so i believed.  i didn't learn of her other overdoses, until after she was gone.  *sigh  So much unsaid, unknown, unfinished.  God, please help me get thru this!!!!!!

  Now, i've got to figure out what to do about my grandson, Shelby's 4-yr old son, in NC.  i can't exactly trust his father, since he's got a history of usage, as well...and i want my grandson to have a fighting chance at a decent life.  

Comment by Lynn Jantz on December 14, 2016 at 10:36pm
Tomorrow will be one month since I lost my 2nd brother to a drug overdose. My youngest brother overdosed in Oct 2014. I keep pretending to all that I am okay, holding it together for my parents and my daughter but I am so far from okay. I am so devastated and angry, especially having to deal with this a second time. I feel for everyone that has to go thru this. Fentanyl has so changed the odds in drug use and overdose and it is terrifying.
Comment by Marie Minnich on May 1, 2016 at 3:53pm

I am so sorry for everyones loss. In 2009 I lost my 32 year old daughter to a heroin overdose. My path of grief recovery has been long and sad, if there is such a thing as recovery. My first year I was suicidal. Because I am a writer, I have chronicled my journey in a memoir, "The Grief Chronicles: With You in My Eyes Like Flaming Flowers: The AfterMath of Death by Overdose", in hopes it might bring some hope and comfort to other families. It is of course available on Amazon, (who doesn't allow me to offer a coupon for a free copy), but I provide here a coupon for a free copy from my other distributor for a free ebook version at www.smashwords.com, code ZM57C  for anyone on this forum (please, only for members of this forum). I can say after 6 years, that things do improve somewhat. Yes, there will always be the waves of grief. Please remember remember that you will always be nurtured by the love that you carry for your beloved. Peace and strength. It does get better.

Comment by Nikki on April 11, 2016 at 11:31pm
I know. It's just so surreal, I can't accept it. Yet every day comes and goes. Regardless of what's going on inside of us. It's a lonely road, that's for sure.
Comment by Gina M on April 11, 2016 at 1:34pm
Oh my gosh. I can relate. Except we didntt have kids. So sorry. We were divorced Also
But reconciled and just waiting for him to move back In. He had drinking issues in he past but looking back now drugs surfaced probably from that behavior. I realize why he hasn't moved back in yet.. He was Living that other life. Found text from night he died making arrangements to go get High. I am shocked. Emails too. Been going on for a while it seems. Maybe he tried to quit too it seems but failed. Long story but back to work today and I keep getting that, you doing better? Question. No... I won't be ...give me about 20 years. And I still won't be.
Comment by Nikki on April 11, 2016 at 12:02am
I lost my ex on Feb 29th to an accidental overdose that was laced with fentanyl as well. We have 3
Kids. We were together 18 years and apart for four. During those four years we could barely talk to each other because he couldn't forgive me for leaving him and I couldn't forgive him for forcing me to. Now I feel like I've lost my best friend, never to return, never to reconcile. The only small consolation I have is that he called me to say how sorry he was less than one week before he died. That's the last time I talked to him. That's the last time anyone talked to him. His last words to me were "I love you" I only wish I'd said it back :*(
Comment by marlene torres on April 8, 2016 at 5:28pm
Thank you so much Gina I'm sorry for your lost as well.
Comment by Gina M on April 8, 2016 at 5:27pm
So sorry for your pain. I, too lost my soulmate Kevin on Jan 29 to fentanyl-laced crack. I didn't even know he was doings drugs until *after* he died. There is a facebook group called "grasp" that u can Join but u have to be approved if interested. They also have meetings and may have them in your area. For those that lost loved ones to addiction. I've found comfort in sharing, seeing others stories, and realizing I'm not alone. Hugs and prayers to you. I know this pain.
 

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