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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Avi on May 28, 2018 at 5:53am

Feel sorry for the loss of your sister Bluebell. Losing a partner of so many years is horrible.

My father lost his partner for 37 years.

Comment by Theresa on May 28, 2018 at 5:32am

Brett has said it again, the only conclusion to life is death, when, how, where is all part of the mystery of life.

God hears everyone, don't ever forsake him as Brett said look what he has done for us, he suffered horribly.

I don't blame God for anything, I just ask him to help me and be by my side always.

Comment by BLUEBELL on May 28, 2018 at 12:53am

My Mom was 98 years old when she passed away. It did not make it any easier. What she was blessed with is that she could still walk with a walker, watch TV, read the newspaper, be taken to get her hair done, feed her self, mostly dress herself and enjoy watching her two outdoor cats even though she was not well until she was finally hospitalized for 6 days. We brought her home on Hospice when it was apparent she was suffering and it would have been cruel to continue keeping her alive. I told out my brothers and sister it was time to bring her home  where she could die surrounded by people she loved and in the home she had been in for over 30 years. She passed away 2 days later sitting in a recliner with most of her family with her. She told me that when she died, she did not want it to be in her sleep because she wanted to be able to say goodbye. I did the best I could to make that come true for her. Her death broke my heart. It was 1 year Feb 14th since she passed away. I am still grieving, but it is not as intense most days. When my sister's husband died suddenly last month, it brought back up the intense grief not only for my Mom, but fresh grief for the loss of my Brother in Law. I am close to my sister, so I feel badly for her too. She is suffering the loss of a man she has been with and loved for over 40 years suddenly ripped away from her.

Bluebell

Comment by Virginia G on May 27, 2018 at 11:22pm

Oh I’m so sorry Avi.  Hopefully she still sees her.

Comment by Avi on May 27, 2018 at 11:20pm

My mother was only 66 and wanted to live for at least few more months to see her grand child in Aug.

Comment by Brett Bowman on May 27, 2018 at 10:46pm

My mom was 81. Bluebells mom was older. It's always too soon.

Comment by Virginia G on May 27, 2018 at 10:36pm

Brett,

Im not sure how old your Mom was.  Seventy is too young, especially for someone who took perfect care of her health her whole life.

Comment by Brett Bowman on May 27, 2018 at 10:34pm

Virginia, if I could go back I would tell my mom so many things that I wish I had said. I would have spent the last day with Boo scratching her belly and loving on her. I wouldn't have been able to prevent anything though. It's heartbreaking but there are some things in life that we just have no control over. I wish we did.

Comment by Brett Bowman on May 27, 2018 at 10:30pm

Virginia, the worst things don't happen to the best people. They happen to all of us sooner or later. You did not fail your mom. I don't know if you read this or not. It was several posts back. The last time my mom was in the hospital, I jokingly asked the same doctor who had saved her so many times if he would come home with us. He said, "Even if I did come home with you, I couldn't save your mom. Both my mom and dad have passed away. I couldn't save them. There's only so much we can do."

I realized a long time ago that God did not kill my mom. The guaranteed conclusion to life is death. It could be cancer or heart disease. It could be a lot of things but we can't keep the people that we love forever. My mom's death was like a tidal wave. At first the doctors would fix one thing and then two more things would happen, and then three. It couldn't be stopped.

If God answered every one of our prayers than no one would ever die. It's just not possible. We have to let go. We don't have a choice, and  there is never a good time. If my mom had lived to be 100 her death would have still been awful. Sooner or later we have to say goodbye, but with the hope that we will see them again. I know that we will. And we will never have to say goodbye again. 

Comment by Virginia G on May 27, 2018 at 10:17pm

Brett, Im so sorry you lost Boo.  They are part of the family.  We only ever had one dog, a Pom, Coco.  He lived to almost 18.  I regret that I never trained him so he was not well behaved.  My Mom had a lot of extra work taking care of him while I was at work.  But of course she never complained.  We lost my Granny then the next year Coco then the next year my Mom got sick.  If only I could go back and prevent it all.

 

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